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To not want DD to go out to a club/nightclub on Christmas Day?

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StrawberryCreamField · 23/12/2025 14:26

Would you be happy with this? DD (18, her birthday was last week) wants to go out to a nightclub on Christmas Day. I don’t think she should as Christmas Day is a day to spend with family and for her to spend with us and her siblings and she could go out on any other day/night. DD is still saying she wants to go out though. DH thinks I’m being unreasonable and he thinks it’s fine for her to go out on Christmas Day. AIBU?

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Motheranddaughter · 23/12/2025 14:32

YABVU

QuietLifeNoDrama · 23/12/2025 14:32

I think YABU. At 18 she should be free to decide how she spends her Christmas. She’s getting older in a few years time there may be some years you may not see her at all at Christmas. This is how resentment is built. Christmas may be about spending time with family to you but you don’t get to decide what’s important to others.

DahlsChickenz · 23/12/2025 14:30

I wouldn't have a fight about it - presumably she wouldn't be going out until 10pm or so anyway, so she can have a whole family day first?

It's never been my idea of fun but as she's 18 I'd let her make her own choices about things like this.

DaisyChain505 · 23/12/2025 14:30

She’s an adult and can make her own choices.

Yes you can say you’d love to have her home for Christmas to spend time together but say it once and leave it.

Dont go on about it or try to say that she can’t.

saltandvinegarchipsticks · 23/12/2025 14:30

Obviously nightclubs (a) don’t open on Christmas Day and (b) open late nights. So there’s something fishy here!

HRTQueen · 23/12/2025 14:29

YABU she is 18 being with friends is far more enjoyable

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StrawberryCreamField · 23/12/2025 14:29

She is saying she wants to go out from 2pm and then go to the nightclub later on. DH thinks it’s fine but I’m not happy.

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BillieWiper · 23/12/2025 14:28

Nightclubs open at about 11pm don't they? Presumably the rest of the family will be heading to bed when she's on her way out. She'll still be spending the day with you?

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StrawberryCreamField · 23/12/2025 14:28

mutedtoo · 23/12/2025 14:27

Is a nightclub open on Xmas day? Surely not!

I thought that too but DD reckons that the one she wants to go to is open.

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HorrorFan81 · 23/12/2025 14:28

She's 18, it's up to her how she spends the day. You might have an idea of how Xmas day 'should' be spent but its doesnt mean the rest of the family have to agree. Presumably she would be with you all day until later on in the evening?

TinselTitts · 23/12/2025 14:28

I don't know any that are open on Christmas day?

Mine always went clubbing on Christmas eve.

mutedtoo · 23/12/2025 14:27

Is a nightclub open on Xmas day? Surely not!