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Would you spend Xmas away from your kids?

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Christmashitmas · 23/12/2025 09:50

Due to be at the in-laws tomorrow for a full itinerary of Christmas related trips, meals and visits. Christmas is massive in DHs family.
I’m ill. Cancelling will devastate the kids.
What would you do? Go and risk passing flu on and being miserable and alone in a guest bedroom, force everyone to stay home and be miserable with me or let DH take the kids and stay home alone and miserable?

it all feels very miserable.

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665theneighborofthebeast · 23/12/2025 10:01

Let dh take the kids.
Order a fab takeaway of stuff I actually like for a change and have delivered to reheat Christmas day.
Move myself onto the sofa with a duvet and all the remotes within easy reach.
Line up a binge fest of stuff To watch on tv and several boxes of chocolates tissues and decongestants.
Hope to be better by the time they get back so i can share all the photos and videos.

2chocolateoranges · 23/12/2025 09:59

I’d cancel it for everyone, ds was really ill last Christmas and we cancelled everything until he felt better as I was worried we would all end up ill and pass it onto other people. We stayed home from Christmas Eve until ds felt better on the 28th dec.

I wouldn’t want our partners being ill and havin to deal with the same illness ds had. He was very poorly.

FrenchandSaunders · 23/12/2025 09:57

I'd stay home alone, let them go. You can't rock up to your in laws with flu.

Hello39 · 23/12/2025 09:55

Let dh take the kids.
Sorry you have the flu

pizzaHeart · 23/12/2025 09:54

i would let them go if you are not worried about being alone yourself.
can they cut the trip a bit?

Didimum · 23/12/2025 09:53

What would your in laws prefer you do?

Vedar · 23/12/2025 09:51

I’d suggest they go for Christmas lunch/afternoon and bring you back some leftovers! That way they don’t miss out, and you don’t have to cook but still get the excited morning and cosy evening as a family.

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