Would you spend Xmas away from your kids?

I'd let them go without me. Would not risk passing on flu to others, and I wouldn't want the children to miss out in order to stay in with an ill parent.
Hopefully if they're all away, the flu can be contained.

Stay home and rest.

My mum and I had Xmas apart for years when I was a child. She was a nurse and would volunteer for all the shifts ( back in the day when there was more enhanced pay for BHs) and I would go to GPs for the festive period, hang out with all the rellies and have fun. My dad also worked in a 24hr public service role so was sometimes there but was usually also picking up the enhanced pay shifts.

I loved those Xmases with wider family. Anything can be fun when you're a child; it doesn't have to be the same every time.

With modern tech, if you're up to it you could video call from bed for present opening and share an online hot chocolate or whatever.

I'd tell them to go.

If you've got flu you're not going to feel like eating or socialising, if you rest up now you may feel better by the time the trip to Wales comes round and could join them for that.

If you can barely move OP, that's your answer.
You won't enjoy it if you force yourself to go out & there's a very real risk you'll pass it to others meaning they can't enjoy the festive period either.

There's zero point stopping the family going in order to watch you being ill on a sofa. That would not be a fun & festive day for anyone.

It sucks (I have a heavy cold right now too, solidarity) being ill at this time of year but we're adults & we have to do the right thing for the majority (yawn, boo).

Bed in, get DH to facetime you when they're opening gifts.

Let them go alone. Maybe you can join part way through if you feel better? Sorry you are sick.

Hmm, maybe they can go without you, but not stay so long?? It would be really hard to miss them but it would also be hard on them to stay home if you are needing to stay in bed most of the time.

I actually had a Christmas where I spent the whole week in hospital, and it was so hard to be away from my children. I ended up being sent home at the last minute on Christmas day, made it home just in time for lunch with them and then had to go back the next day. It was 3 years ago, my daughter was talking about it today as we were baking together, how she did her baking with her grandmother instead that year. She enjoyed that, but she also still remembers feeling sad that I wasn't there. How old are the children, what do they think if they were to go without you? What if they open some gift with you before or after so that you don't miss everything.

I would ask everyone else what they would prefer.

If they were okay with me being there, I'd dose myself up and go. Sometimes being in bed makes me feel worse.

I missed my dc1's 2nd ever Christmas because of norovirus. Was sill ill, I couldn't get out of bed so there was no dilemma.

You need to stay home alone

Stay at home. I know it sucks but don't make others ill too.

I'd let DH take the kids. 1 person being ill shouldn't prevent everyone else from having fun. Stay home and enjoy having the chance to rest. Enjoy some activities with them when you're feeling better.

Send them without you. If you can barely move it will be shit anyway. If you’re very unwell you’re best off sleeping/resting in peace. It’s rubbish I know, Christmas with the dc can be so joyful and to miss out on all the family fun is crap.

I'd let them go without you. You can take the opportunity to really get yourself well and have another Christmas when they get back. It would be really selfish of you to go and pass it on bearing in mind how many people you would be seeing.

Don't go and pass it on to all those people

If it’s flu would you even be up to joining in or doing anything? It’s crap but I’d say let the kids have fun and rest up.

How ill?
Can you manage to still take part in things if they stay home with you? Or do you think you just need a lot of rest in which case they may as well go for a bit without you. Are they local? As in, DH can just take the kids for a meal and come home?

Send DH and the kids, it's shit but there's nothing worse than being unwell in someone else's home even if they are family. Get DH to get you some ready meals in, and make sure you've got milk, bread etc and some pain relief. Then just enjoy the peace. It's just one day, OP, let the kids have fun and you can do your own version when you're better.

Send DH and DC so they still have fun. Maybe you’ll be better by New Years and can do something to celebrate that.

If you truly have flu then you'll want to be in bed to sleep and rest, so no point spoiling it for everyone else. If you're certain no one else is showing symptoms then let DH take the kids. Don't begrudge them their fun. Just make sure DH leaves you some pre-prepped snacks/food to keep you going while they're gone.

Im sorry you're ill OP, but try to look at it as just another day and celebrate with the kids when you're feeling better.

Send DH and kids, please do not make them skip any trips or activities. You stay at home as you are ill.
I’m amazed anyone would consider cutting fun stuff from their kids Christmas to accommodate a parent with the flu. They will have a nice time, you’re not going to enjoy anything regardless of who is with you. Stay in bed and recover.

Well if cancelling will devastate the kids let your husband take them . You can stay home and rest . You’ll still see them in the morning and evening I’m assuming.

That makes sense because it was your child. But the OP is sick. She is an adult. Her husband can take the kids to his parents and she can stay home and rest ?

How far away do they live? I’d want to do Christmas morning at home with DH and DC, and then go back to bed while they head off for family and Christmas dinner etc.
But depends on distance as to whether that’s possible?

Not sure your DH and kids should go if in laws are vulnerable in any way. Surely high risk that they will already have caught it off you and will spread it to relatives?

Have in-laws had flu jabs?