Would you spend Xmas away from your kids?

Stay home until/unless you feel better. It's not fair to make them all stay home and you aren't going to enjoy any of it anyway. Sad but this year they will have to enjoy it away from you.

Send DH and the kids and you stay home. It would be unfair to make the children miss the usual celebrations when they aren’t sick

Aww OP I'm so sorry.

I think I would do presents on the sofa at yours, then send husband and kids off to in laws for a few hours while you watch a film and rest on the sofa, then get them to come back mid afternoon (ideally with leftovers) to have a chilled family evening.

Hope you feel better soon. Last year we had a total wash out for Christmas because my son had norovirus and was so ill. I was so sad at the time but ultimately it was just one day and we still really enjoyed the season.

I would say DH goes with DC but cuts it short?

In this case I'd 100% send the kids off with DH for the family Christmas and I would use the time at home to relax and recover.

I'd send them to the in-laws and feel grateful they are out of the way. Flu is a miserable fucker. No point in them in them sat at home whilst you are in bed.

There is no point in cancelling it when the kids can still have a nice Christmas if your not fit enough.
I would send you DH up with them and then I would follow on if you start to feel better.

Send them, then catch up in a couple of days when you feel better.

People are typically contagious for a bit before showing symptoms. Is it possible that your DH / children have caught this from you and are about to go and infect Granny & Grandad? I'd ask your PIL what they prefer. If their health is not generally robust they may prefer to wait and see you all once it's passed.

Let them go. You stay home and sleep.You'll recover faster.
I've spent every xmas day with my ds17 but I'm a single mum, and the alternative would be miserable for ds. Your dcs have a loving, competent alternative. Let him take the load, just this once.

Nah you stay behind and perhaps by Boxing Day you'll feel up to joining?

This has happened to us before - DH missed our twins' first Xmas due to flu, I took them to my family but turned out the twins had caught it as well and were absolutely miserable, we all came home early! It's just life!

Get them to FaceTime / video call you when they're opening their presents. Hope you feel better soon x

Get a flu test kit from a pharmacy or supermarket. There's a big difference in passing on flu and passing on a bad cold. Also if it's a cold, your recovery will be quicker and you might well be able to cope.

I know it’s disappointing but I think you should stay home and let them go. You will look back on this as the year you had flu and missed Christmas. It happens.

Stay home and take care of yourself. X

If you’re that ill, surely you’d be in bed resting. What’s the point then in the rest of the family just sat in the living room being miserable. Dont ruin it for them too.

I wouldn’t want someone in my house sick with flu, just sat on the sofa so they can see their kids open some presents. Stay home and let them go, and go when you’re feeling better. It’s one of those unfortunate things.

Let them go and join in a few days if you are better. There’s no way they should miss out.

You can rest in peace and they can facetime the presents opening.

I’d ask Dp and dc to go on Christmas Day after present opening and I’d stay home. They can take presents with them.

All go but you stay in bed in the guest room until you’re feeling better.

In the past, when any one of us (ie me, dh, dc) has been ill, we either all went (with hosts' agreement) or all stayed, but it was never the situation of me being ill going to in laws. In your case, I would definitely stay at home as you sound too ill to travel and don't want to pass it on. If your dh and kids would be vastly disappointed, let them go without you. You could always open the kids' presents before they leave if you want to be part of that. Then enjoy a few days of rest and peace. Get dh to set you up with what you need beforehand. There will be other Christmases.

I’d stay home with the telly, remote, a bottle of whiskey (for hot toddy’s) and cold relief tablets.

Keep a couple of presents back for the kids to open when they get home. See how you feel in a day or two and then possibly join them.

Sorry just seen updates to your post.

Given the timings I would postpone as much as you can with your own family until the new year. Do Burns Night, Candlemas, Russian Christmas instead (January is bloody miserable so make this a thing!!).

Then I would send DH and the kids on Christmas Eve and put up with not seeing them open presents- they can FaceTime you or do some special ones at home afterwards. If they’re in a big house with other kids and their dad, not to sound cruel, but they won’t miss you.

Then they come back either Christmas Day late or Boxing Day, by which time you will be feeling better and can decide whether to attempt Wales on the 27th.

You can’t come if you feel so bad you won’t be able to join festivities any way and staying somewhere when you are unwell is not exciting.

Sounds like heaven

Unwrap stockings and/ or family presents at home together, then DH takes kids to his in laws for lunch and comes back with a plate of nibbles for you and some non-taxing games/ a film in the evening. Hopefully if you have most of the day to rest then you’ll be feeling better.

Honestly if you’re away from home feeling ill it will end in tears anyway and if you set out the plan to your kids I think they will be fine with it.