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Would you drop this friend

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ARunByFruiting · 23/12/2025 00:12

Old work colleague but we've kept in touch. Went to her wedding evening do back in September, I got them a lovely afternoon tea with voucher with champagne that cost circa £100 which is alot for me as I'm not that well off. Put the envelope on the gift table at the reception.
After the reception I hadn't heard anything for over a week so messaged "lovely reception, hope you enjoy the afternoon tea". The reply i got was "Yeah we are looking forward to it, we will have to get your address to send a thank you card". Not heard a word since.
I know people are busy, I know especially after a wedding (to be fair theirs was very casual) that people have stuff to do. But not even a text to say thanks, I had to message them and then nothing since. Is this rude?

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Poms · 23/12/2025 00:20

I always work on the basis of you rarely know what somebody has going on in their lives which might be contributing to their behaviour.

TaraRhu · 23/12/2025 00:20

She did text you! Yes, she doesn't overtly say thank you , but she clearly was thankful. Let it go. I wouldn't dump a friend for this.

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ARunByFruiting · 23/12/2025 00:19

OrangeITellYou · 23/12/2025 00:17

Seriously only one week after the wedding? Are they not allowed to be on honeymoon and message people when back? They might not have planned to send than you’d until a month later

They weren't going on honeymoon. She has 3 kids and he has none. Lovely couple but surely after 3 months i would get a thank you without chasing

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theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 23/12/2025 00:18

Yes it is. Some people have no manners. Whether it's something to drop her over will depend on her other qualities and your tolerance. If she's not a close friend, that's a lot to spend.

OrangeITellYou · 23/12/2025 00:17

Seriously only one week after the wedding? Are they not allowed to be on honeymoon and message people when back? They might not have planned to send than you’d until a month later

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ARunByFruiting · 23/12/2025 00:15

To be fair no, I didn't. But I would have been happy with a text tbh to just acknowledge the gift.

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Dollybantree · 23/12/2025 00:15

After my wedding I hand wrote every single person a thank you card - about 80 cards. Unfortunately a lot of people seem to be completely devoid of manners or etiquette these days. You were very generous and of course you’re not wrong to be miffed.

Poms · 23/12/2025 00:15

Did you give her your address?

MrsDoubtingMyself · 23/12/2025 00:14

I think not sending a thank you card/text for a gift is extremely rude.

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