Received helped, but feel bad!

This, or make a donation to a charity that helps others like Crisis, the Vicars relief Fund at St Martins in the Field , the Samaritans.

Some people are just lovely and go above and beyond, we are lucky to have them in the world.

Stop feeling bad. Most people in the world are nice, and more than happy to help when they can.

The person asking for money was a dick.

When I go out of my way to help people I feel very good about myself. So its a positive experience all round. You were suitably appreciative and have no need to feel guilt. Just bask in the rare glow of knowing its not always such a bad world after all, and pay it forward if you get the chance.

Goodness, you have absolutely nothing to feel bad about! The guy asking you to pay him was cheeky - I’d have been delighted to help in this situation if I could and it sounds like the kind man was genuinely happy to help you. I ran over a nail recently and a man who drove past went all the way home to see if he could find some tools to help us free the tyre and then came back again. It was really kind, but he’d never have expected payment. I’m sure your thanks was absolutely enough

I love helping people and absolutely hate people helping me so I can completely understand how you feel!

I wouldn't feel bad. I also don't think you needed to pay him. Fortunately, there are still decent people in the world who will offer to help someone for no reason other than they are helpful.
The person asking for money in that situation is the only person who should feel bad in this situation.

Of course it's normal for people to want to help if they can. There is no need for you to feel bad, and some day you will be in a position to help someone else. The guy wouldn't have helped you if he hadn't wanted to, and I'm sure you paying him was the last thing on his mind.

It’s really nice he was so kind. I had a tyre pop on a busy road and a lovely man offered to pull it onto his drive and change it for me. Said he was sorry it took him so long he was wallpapering and saw me!

you are tired emotional a and overwhelmed. He probably felt nice helping you. Some people like helping others. I’m one of those and I don’t do it enough

I'd have been happy to help in this situation if I was able & wouldn't want anything in return. Surely you'd be the same?

The modern way to thank unknown people in these sorts of circumstances is a Facebook post on your local community group....This has the added bonus of making other people reading the post feel more optimistic about human nature (as your post has here!) and perhaps more inclined to offer help in a similar situation in the future.

Ask yourself where these guilty, bad feelings come from. What was it like when you were a child and someone helped you, did you feel guilty or bad? If so why, where did those feelings come from, - from how someone made you feel?
Our feelings often have origins in our childhood experiences.

It’s Christmas and you’re feeling connected to humanity, hence all the crying.

The vast majority of people are GOOD, and want to love and help others.

When you’re used to being the helper it can feel overwhelming to be helped.

Maybe you have seen the player who asked if you expect money when you help someone. If you don't why would you assume anyone else expects to be paid for kindness?

Not really if he thought his torch would be ruined having been lowered into a drain. Perhaps he just couldn't afford to buy another torch, and in the end he did say he could protect it in a plastic bag. I guess the magnet wouldn't have been strong enough for keys.

No, people are happy to help. Its what makes us human.

The feel good factor he would have got from helping you out would be payment enough. It was his good deed for the day. In fact, had you forced some kind of payment on him would have devalued the experience for him.

I think most people with the means would help you and not try to fleece you for £10. The first chap sounds very strange.

Most people love to help other people and they definitely do not do it for anything in return.

Just be glad you met one of them today.

Usually when I’m in a flood of tears it’s because I’m totally exhausted. You’d already had a long day and then something like that happened which made a long day even longer. I’m glad this person showed real kindness and knew what to do. Hope you’ve managed to get a good rest!

Sounds like he was delighted to help. I'm picturing a scene where he once lost his keys in a similar fashion, someone helped him, he then bought these magnets (maybe to much eye rolling and gentle teasing from his missus) and only now, at last, has he had chance to use them!! It's a proper Christmas miracle, and a tale he'll be delighted to share over the holidays. (Because this would be exactly how I would behave, and in fact am now thinking of buying my own magnets so I can be prepared 😁).

You sound exhausted and overwhelmed. Please accept this little gift from the universe - a reminder that not everyone is a selfish git, and that sometimes people are kind for kindness sake. Don't spoil this lovely moment for yourself by thinking that everything needs to be transactional. Hope your next couple of shifts are peaceful.

Is everything ok OP? Im wondering if your over emotional reaction to this is from something else going on.

Pay it forward in kindness. No doubt you will encounter someone who needs help in years to come. Dont feel bad, the person who helped you, clearly wanted to, it probably made them feel good.

If the shoe was on the other foot, and you ran across someone in this predicament and were able to go a short distance to get the magnets you owned and came back to help, would you have expected payment?

If the answer is no, then apply the same value to this man. He wanted to help, he helped. You thanked him. The end.

Last year i had a catastrophic fall in public and the number of people who helped was overwhelming. There are so many more good people in the world than we realise. You sound like a good person, and now you have met another good person!

Most people are nice and would want to help. They don’t expect anything in return because they know they would appreciate the help if roles were reversed and it was them in need of it. Don’t feel bad, just appreciate it for what it is, and if you can help someone else next time.