Do you even like your adult sibling?

Out of 5 siblings I like two, feel meh about two and loathe one as he is a nasty, violent piece of work. Fortunately I haven't seen him for at least two decades and have no reason to ever see him again.

I don't see the two I like as often as I'd like but we're all busy people and enjoy the time we do spend together.

Yes I do, I have one sister and we get along great

No. From my point of view, she's a full on anti-vax conspiracy theorist who believes covid was a hoax/orchestrated by Bill gates in order to track us with microchips, and that a secret cabal of elite paedophiles run the world and drink the blood of tortured children in order to stay young and powerful, and that the late Queen Elizabeth II was a witch or a lizard.

From her point of view, I'm a brainwashed sheep who needs to wake up.

It's hard to find common ground.

Love my older brother very much.

I suspect (actually I know) that I am an embarrassment to him

ETA Because of my weight.

Yes to one, no to the other.

I think whether your parent(s) are still around makes a lot of difference to sibling relationships - when there's no one to keep the peace for, or to mediate in arguments it's much, much easier to drift apart. We lost our parents young and since I've been an adult there's been no shared focus.

I saw this when FIL's parents died. I'd thought that he and his siblings were very close, but when his parents weren't around anymore they stopped seeing one another almost completely.

I don’t know what I’d do without my sisters - I speak to them most days. My brothers, on the other hand….

I'm the youngest of 3 and love my brother and sister. I'd do anything for them and can't imagine a life without them. My brother has a learning disability and lives semi independently. We live within a couple of miles of each other and see each other twice a week.

My little brother is in another country. My older brother is a grade A cunt. I see very little of one and wish I saw less of the other.

I love mine. We are very different in looks and personality, but think the same and have the same values.

No, they are both awful, awful people.

Love him. One of my favourite people

I have 5 siblings, one I dislike for various reasons, all quite serious & really do believe they are quite evil & they relish hurting & been generally nasty. Haven't spoken to them other than a nod at family gatherings for nigh on 35 years, other siblings also feel the same Was a relief when I went NC with them, I gave them no explanation, just didn't get in touch at all & they have never tried to contact me. I don't even know where they live nor them me.
Other 4, one lives overseas, quite a bit older than me & moved whist I was still tiny. They seem nice enough, but I really don't know them. 2 live a distance from me & we do phone & get together once a year at least, we get on well. Other lives round the corner & we speak most days & visit 3 or 4 times a month at least.

Neither of my siblings are married or have children. They used to hang up on me because I was boring . Because I didn't like them smoking or getting drunk around my kids . But I helped both of them a lot . One brother is living with the consequences of his lifestyle choices and was angry that I didn't bail him out . Very stubborn and can't see any way but theirs . A big relief to take a step back but it does make me sad sometimes.

We don’t really have much in common, and one of them can be a right sanctimonious smug sulky twat sometimes. They’re not bad people, just annoying and ugh sometimes. But these are the siblings I have. If they asked me for the shirt off my back I’d give it to them, and they’d do the same for me.

It is a HARD NO from me!

Really love my sister, see her a lot and love being with her, but been through a lot with her in the past and we are so different we probably wouldn’t be friends if we met each other as regular non-related people. It’s good to mix with people completely opposite to you in a lot of ways tho. We often say if we were combined into one person we’d be normal!

I really don't like my sibling. It makes me sad but it makes me much sadder being with her.
She really hates me and her aggression, criticism and talking shit about me triggers me to feel feelings of low self worth, confusion and kicks off my depression.
So it's much better we're apart. I would never choose a friend like her. Fortunately i have lots of friends who find me acceptable so I'm ok.

Funnily enough I just posted about mine. Slightly different reasons but my brothers a brag and loves to brag about what his 9 month old is doing that my 18 month old delayed, extremely premature deaf bay can’t 👍🏼 it’s possible not to like your sibling, just because they’re blood and forced into your life doesn’t mean they can treat you different ways and expect your life to be the same as theirs in wants, needs and opinions.

I love my brother, we see each other regularly as we are a close family… but I can’t stand him at times, especially his new sound first time father bragging attitude.

my husband can’t stand his brother on the other hand. His brother steals money from his parents ( steals I mean, they lend and they never give back… think nearly 50k yup ) and his mum works to pay his 37 year old brothers rent. Won’t let him near my kids. He’ll probably start asking my 5 year old for the money in her savings account.

No. One is a deceitful alcoholic and the other is very self absorbed. I genuinely wish I’d been an only child! I’ve only had one myself as a result. I don’t know any ‘pair’ of brothers who get on as adults, literally not one. The two I mention above also are no contact which makes life awkward for everyone in the family which to me shows how selfish the pair of them are tbh.

I could have written the OP, apart from its been 30 years rather than 2.

Big age gap between me and youngest sibling. Doesnt like me, alcoholic who blames me for their poor life choices

Love mine. We are close, message pretty much daily, do things often and live about 15 minutes drive apart. We are closer now than we were as teens for sure. We are quite different personalities, but it seems to work.

No, another golden child situation, which has also altered my relationship with my parebts because I'll never forgive them. He's extremely selfish, not a nice person and delighted when things go wrong for me.

I love her, but I don't like her - for a range of reasons stretching back a long way. I have tried very hard to give her the benefit of the doubt so many times. But the way she treats my parents is unacceptable in particular. As I say, I love her, but if we weren't related there is no way we would be friends IRL.

No. Brute. Cut all contact when we had our first child. Not seen him for 30 odd years. His life story proved me right.