Do you even like your adult sibling?

We’ve kind of drifted apart over the last three years and I just know we wouldn’t be friends if we met in real life. In fact, there isn’t one single place that she goes that I’d have any interest in going to. Shame but it’s just how it goes.

No, she's a relentless bully. Aggressive, critical, snobbish. Just an unpleasant person to be with.

I only have one, a DSis. We speak daily, sometimes for 2 hours! I adore her.
I am from a huge (Irish) family with many first cousins and we all get along brilliantly. I honestly can't ever remember any drama. I think I'm closer to my cousin's than most of my friends are to their siblings.

I've got 3 siblings. I don't love them but I wouldn't want anything to happen to them. We don't talk much. Youngest is egotistical and self centred. Older siblings is kind but dopey at the best of times and other sibling I get on with the most and we're aligned in our values but lives the other end of the country.

Disappointing but our childhood was disjointed so I can see why we never formed bonds.

We are pretty close growing up, despite an age gap. He changed when he got his job and even more so when he met his slightly odd now wife.
We mostly get on when we are together but he irritates me because he’s a bit ‘know all’. He also said some quite nasty things about me a couple of years back, which I confronted him about. He’s certainly tried to improve his behaviour towards me since so I think he realised he was wrong.
I guess relationships change but we can still have a laugh together.

Yes, she's one of my favourite people in the world. I can take or leave my stepsiblings, but there is a big age gap so we didn't grow up together.

Ups and downs galore.

My sister has always been there for me, l love her ❤️.

Love my Dsis but she lives abroad and lives also increasingly in the past. Since leaving Britain she has talked on loop about our childhood and, depending on the type of influences she is around she paints a more and more distorted picture and wants me to agree with her. When I refuse she threatens to cut me out so it’s a delicate dance staying in her good books.

I don’t like or love my brother: he is a selfish, materialistic snob. I used to see him once or twice a year to keep the peace but now I just say no. Sad but I literally have no pleasant feelings towards him at all. I don’t think it helps that he was a vicious child and my mum has never acknowledged that..

Yes, she's fab! There's nobody I enjoy us spending time with more than my sister and her family.

One brother, even as children we weren’t close, now see each other a couple of times a year through our parents. When they are gone I doubt I’ll ever see or speak to him again. No massive animosity I just feel nothing for him and I’m sure he feels the same way

as said above, our core values are the same.

yes but we see each other rarely, living so far away, i have to search my memory to find things she has annoyed me about,
that's siblings for you.

My older half sister and I have had serious ups and downs. We grew up together like full siblings but she obviously has her childhood traumas. She chose not to attend my wedding and for me thats the straw that broke the camels back. Right now we just tolerate each other

Not sure there is a normal/ not

My sister is my best friend, and I can only think of one time -around age 8-10, that we weren’t

We both thought this was very common, until we spoke to friends and realised they don’t see each other very often 🤷‍♀️

Yes very close to my 4 brothers and 3 sisters and there hubbies and kids, we all live in the same county do loads of family things together and can always rely on every single one as they can me

Adore her. And my younger brother when he was alive. They are the other pieces of my heart.
Now it’s just her and me and we’re close. I live overseas so don’t see her as much as I’d love to but when I’m back we spend a lot of time together.

Shes one of my best friends.

This is really hard, Im in the same situation and mine is overtly vindictive and tried to destroy my relationship with my parents through lies and manipulation.

I adore 2, like 1 and despise 1, it’s an entire social experiment. Also have some half siblings who I really like.

I have 3 brothers & 2 sisters (8 years between the oldest & youngest) and we all get along well and see each other often. The oldest lives interstate but he phones regularly. No. 3 brother passed away a year ago and it was an awful time for all of us. Not long after, no. 2 brother had a very serious accident with lifelong consequences and we are always there for each other with love & support.
I grew up thinking all families were loud & funny & close like mine, but only realised as an adult that this isn’t the case.
DH also has 5 siblings and speaks catches up with a brother regularly, but hasn’t had contact with the others for 20+ years. Big falling out that couldn’t be mended and while it was devastating from him at the beginning, his life is so uncomplicated now and my siblings treat him like a brother anyway.

One, yes. I love her and absolutely adore my niece and have great relationships with both. The other, no. I don’t even like her as a person but I do wish she lived closer so I could bond with my other nieces. I disagree with her parenting and the choices she makes but I’d love to get to know those little girls better. TBH I’d love to show that sibling how to be a better parent. I do miss my sister but as a mum myself (with a child much older than her kids) I wish I could change her parenting style, especially as they get older. It’s not all social media for laughs.
Our DM can fuck off. After causing us all so much damage only the sister mentioned above lets her into her life. Another misguided action.
Arent families just so fucked up? 🙈

No. I love my niece very much though.

Nope. She did something I couldn't forgive but I pretended was ok for about a year relating to "adoption" of two beautiful children.

Cue massive alcohol fueled argument where I told her what she had done literally made me feel sick. And that I hadn't truly supported her "return' when things went wrong and all my "guidance" had been about protecting the children, not her.

She proceeded to kick the shit out of me in front of my then 11y and 8y olds (she had previous for this with a record of multiple GBHs, never before against me). I couldn't leave the house for a week cos of the bruising. Thankfully my work let me WFH without cameras (this was pre COVID).

But honestly, I do think it was my fault, obviously I don't mean the assault. But I guided her to do things that made the children involved safe, I didn't act in her interests but theirs. Because she wanted to send them back like a handbag.

I then acted like our relationship was fine when I felt repulsed by her. Once the children were safe I should have said enough is enough, not waited for alcohol and violence to go NC.

But still NC 7 years later and I'm now ok with it

I like my sibling but we are low contact due to living in different countries. We have very different lives, they are younger than me and their children a lot younger than mine, and we don't have much in common. However, they are a good person and they look after our very elderly parents because I can't due to distance, and I respect and appreciate that.