Do you even like your adult sibling?

I don't dislike my brother. It would be very easy to resent him as my Mum always favoured him over me, but I know that's not his fault and he's never used that against me. We just don't have a whole lot in common and when my Mum nagged me to call him during Covid I told her this and apparently he said the same thing. We were very close as children but have been drifting further apart for years now, we live very different lives. I do love him but we just don't connect much.

No, I despise him. We haven't spoken in 15 years except regarding our mother's funeral. I'd have been much happier as an only child.

Feel a bit meh about them op. We 50s. Just texts if they need something or a lift to a function for our mam. Families in my friend group they same not mad on their siblings lol. So its only if they want something)

He is my favourite person in the whole world

I'm no contact with my brother. Well, I cut off all social contact because of him and his toxic wife, and blocked them on all social media.

I have needed to contact him on issues relating to my late mothers estate but he refuses to respond. He has lied about things and refusing to share information about a matter related to the estate.

My life is better without him and his awful wife in it. It's so odd. Because I'm not the sort of person who has drama, fallings out with people, or altercations with others. I'm known for my diplomacy. I used to feel like I had failed somehow, because of having an estranged family member, but I have no control over how he chooses to be, but I do have control over who I let into my life, and there is no space for toxic behaviours.

No! Mine is an absolute turd - we were close growing up but he’s been so vile for 25+ years. Can’t wait to never have to speak to him again

I love and like my sis. I don't think she loves me as much, though. She doesn't want to see me much. ☹️

Yes, I like mine. We are all very different and have different values though

Not seen my brother in three years. My nephew even longer. Never got on. Our parents are dead so it’s a shame really.

Sister - adore her. Didn’t get on as kids because narc mum divided us deliberately but as soon as we clued ourselves into that as adults we were firm friends. Would absolutely be my bestie even if we weren’t related.
Brother - profoundly disabled so yes I love him but there’s no relationship as he’s not capable.
NB youngest sibling - much much younger so no close relationship. I love him but wouldn’t be friends with him in real life. Too young and also completely different personality to me.

What happened? Also had a schism with my sister but i think we are slowly getting back to normal

I have one full sister and two half brothers. My sister and I get on really well now having not got on when we were younger, now we have a lot of shared history and values and have one another’s backs.

I get on well with one half brother although I don’t see him often as he lives abroad. The other I am virtually NC with because he’s a narcissist and has a long history of turning family crises into opportunities for self pity and his wife is toxic. I don’t know if I will ever see him again.

I always find it bizarre when people say that its important to have siblings. Its a complete lottery as to whether you will like or have anything in common with them.

Maybe I am? Maybe I should never have vented my dislike of her children's names here, even though I wouldn't in real life.

But growing up, one of my best friends was scared of her, and later, my then partner found her to be generally rude and unfriendly. So, it's not just me.

Judgemental much? You sound nasty. Maybe you’re the problem

Have an older brother and a younger sister.

Um, can't remember when I last spoke to either of them other than a quick hello.

Actually it was probably last Christmas I last spent time with my sister at my parents.

My brother, possibly the spring?? Not entirely certain if that was this year or last though?!

Well, I love him but he’s an addict who drains all our lives. So no, I don’t really like him.
I’ve just got on the phone from him, and he told me he won’t be seeing my parents this year at Christmas as he wants to be alone before he goes into a long term rehab centre.
We were close as kids but hard to believe how different we’ve turned out.

DP has 3 siblings, and only enjoys spending time with 1 of them.
In my eyes; siblings are over rated.

I get on with my sister more often than not. In some ways we are very similar and in others we are total opposites. There's no doubt that she's hard-working, capable and can be very helpful, but she can also be bossy and has a superior attitude that drives me mad if it comes out too often. Also, I think she expects everyone else to fit around her plans, but our parents don't think she does, so maybe IABU?

We generally get on better now we've got kids as I love her kids and she loves mine. Hers are absolutely adorable and I enjoy their company. But one thing I'd never say to my sister's face is that I don't like her eldest child's name much and think the youngest's name is awful. People always say on baby name threads that your family will get used to your chosen name and see it as part of the child. Nope, I feel embarrassed when people ask me what their names are. Poor kids.

I don't have any full siblings but have a half brother and sister (twins) and I absolutely adore them and the ground they walk on - the fact that they are the sweetest and cutest 2yr olds is a huge bonus😂

Dh has a sister and 2 brothers and he, they, their partners and I are all super close, some work together and are without a doubt best friends, love and appreciate them all

Yes. Her personality is 90% one of my favourite people ever. Shes hilarious and generous and silly and smart and sensitive.

10% of her is like a great rift between us. Dramatic, selfish, overly emotional, always starting arguments and not behaving appropriately (drinks too much, brings men home around the kids, picks abusive or drug dealing men). She also is constantly in debt over crap.

I want to shake her and make her see how amazing her life could be.

Don't get on/am nc with all my brothers

Two are the golden children,another the invisible child and I'm the scapegoat

If they where all killed tomorrow,my day would go on as normal

One claims to be desperate to make contact again but hasn't bothered to reach out (bar a vague message via my dd) and I would refuse as hes not doing it for a relationship,hes doing it to put me back in my place as the scapegoat

It's very sad but it's life and the hand I'm dealt with in life

I have dp,his mum and my friends-I dont need nor want a relationship with them

I'm very lucky, my sister is my best friend. I literally couldn't be without her.

The care needs of our parents have caused us to fall out. We still speak, but it's a veneer. I think my sister is selfish and twists conversations, so now I make all arrangements with her in writing via WhatsApp so that she can't say "but that's not what I agreed" and equally, can't try to tell me that I agreed something that I didn't.

No. I really dislike my younger brother. I have very little to do with him.

I love and like my older brother. Some of the things he does annoys me (he would probably say the same about me) but I still enjoy his company especially now that he has a child and we can relate to each other about parenting.

I only talk see and speak to one sibling.
No contact with anyone else in the family.