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To find DH’s outfit for dinner really unsuitable?

187 replies

MarieJh · 22/12/2025 21:49

Meal out at a nice restaurant yesterday. DH wearing smart trainers, jeans and…a black Stone Island roll neck jumper. With badge on sleeve.

He says it’s smart/designer and suitable for the occasion.

I disagree. AIBU?

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ImogenBrocklehurst · 24/12/2025 08:57

LaughingCat · 23/12/2025 19:46

I’ve just looked it up as I’m sadly behind the times these days and it looks like a smart, fitted rollneck that costs, checks again, £400 bloody pounds.

My, football hooligans have gone up in the world these days 😂😂😂

The Casuals (as they were known back in the day) were always expensively dressed. A lot of Burberry, which I seem to remember the company being not particularly happy about.

ImogenBrocklehurst · 24/12/2025 08:55

Shedeboodinia · 23/12/2025 20:08

Stone Island to me is a brand for a certain type of 'geezer' when he is doing 'geezer' activities. Like watching football or shouting at the telly or drinking in the boozer with Danny Dyer.
But my DH wears some questionable things too. I had to put up with a diamonte encrusted tight t shirt he wore to a party with me once. He is 52. I was not impressed.

😱 We need a picture.

ImogenBrocklehurst · 24/12/2025 08:54

I wouldn’t know a Stone Island jumper from an M&S jumper, and only know it’s a roadman brand from teens in my life. As long as he looks smart I can’t say I’d be that bothered.

ConstitutionHill · 23/12/2025 23:54

ObliviousCoalmine · 22/12/2025 21:53

Was he expecting to encounter a group of Millwall fans and have a scrap?

This is the first thing that came into my mind.

Miaminmoo · 23/12/2025 23:29

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 22/12/2025 21:55

Wearing football hooligan attire to a nice restaurant is a no.

🤣 it’s not 1985

cramptramp · 23/12/2025 22:08

BettysRoasties · 23/12/2025 19:48

Most of them will be knock off. Seen some Dubious items with the badge on them.

You can buy the badges and sew them on to clothing.

Shedeboodinia · 23/12/2025 20:08

Stone Island to me is a brand for a certain type of 'geezer' when he is doing 'geezer' activities. Like watching football or shouting at the telly or drinking in the boozer with Danny Dyer.
But my DH wears some questionable things too. I had to put up with a diamonte encrusted tight t shirt he wore to a party with me once. He is 52. I was not impressed.

Evaka · 23/12/2025 19:52

I'm just back from a high end restaurant where my brother (corporate attorney) was wearing jeans scruffy trainers. No one cared, noticed or had a worse experience for it.

LZ5M · 23/12/2025 19:51

A male should interpret "the situation" well enough to understand the correct dress code to lead into the event with his partner beside him, so she is comfortable in his presence without question.

IMHO, if you are questioning his etire then you are questioning the respect within your relationship.

BettysRoasties · 23/12/2025 19:48

LaughingCat · 23/12/2025 19:46

I’ve just looked it up as I’m sadly behind the times these days and it looks like a smart, fitted rollneck that costs, checks again, £400 bloody pounds.

My, football hooligans have gone up in the world these days 😂😂😂

Most of them will be knock off. Seen some Dubious items with the badge on them.

LaughingCat · 23/12/2025 19:46

TheSweetestCon · 22/12/2025 21:58

Stone Island is what football hooligans wear for a few pints and a punch up, isn't it? I wouldn't be happy with DH wearing that for any occasion, tbh.

Jeans and trainers can be fine even for a 'nice' restaurant (depending on the jeans, trainers and restaurant in question) but Stone Island, no thanks. Bad vibes.

I’ve just looked it up as I’m sadly behind the times these days and it looks like a smart, fitted rollneck that costs, checks again, £400 bloody pounds.

My, football hooligans have gone up in the world these days 😂😂😂

BauhausOfEliott · 23/12/2025 18:37

TableRunners · 22/12/2025 21:50

Trainers? Jeans? Neither of these are "smart".

A decent pair of dark denim jeans with leather, non-sportswear trainers are completely appropriate for a meal in the vast majority of nice restaurants. Even most Mayfair restaurants are happy for you to wear jeans provided they're not ripped/distressed styles.

OP, I loathe Stone Island but smart jeans, trainers and a roll-neck jumper are perfectly OK to wear to a restaurant.

Plmnki · 23/12/2025 18:28

Sounds like he was dressed for a trip to Tesco, not a meal out. He should have worn smart shoes / trousers / collared shirt / blazer. He needs to make an effort.

Ohjoyohbliss · 23/12/2025 18:22

I'm also a football season ticket holder and follow my local team and England. Stone Island is absolutely worn by football hooligans and wannabes, often linked with "limbs" and concourse culture. We see more at England games than local ones so perhaps that's why PP is unaware.

DH and I roll our eyes and mutter "Stone Island wanker" when one is acting like a knob in our vicinity. I wouldn't be at all surprised if most of them are fakes but, as they seem to have enough money to get coked up and throw expensive pints in the air instead of drinking them, maybe they can afford the real thing.

Yourlifeinyourhands · 23/12/2025 18:13

Sounds chavy.. were you at Wetherspoons?!

exaltedwombat · 23/12/2025 18:12

Anything with a logo is naff in my book.

Sometimessmiling · 23/12/2025 18:00

MarieJh · 22/12/2025 21:49

Meal out at a nice restaurant yesterday. DH wearing smart trainers, jeans and…a black Stone Island roll neck jumper. With badge on sleeve.

He says it’s smart/designer and suitable for the occasion.

I disagree. AIBU?

I can't imagine getting worked up about something so trivial

strange25 · 23/12/2025 17:54

I think he sounds fit

cramptramp · 23/12/2025 17:48

MandemChickenShop · 23/12/2025 17:31

Are you married to Pep?

I wish they still had the laughing emoji thingy on here.

Flowerslamp · 23/12/2025 17:33

shuggles · 23/12/2025 17:27

It's highly unusual. You're talking about a tiny % of the male population that's into fashion.

You probably wouldn't call it fashion but both my DF and my DP are very particular a kit what they wear. Neither woukd wear Stone Island, but they do like good quality clothes.

DS2 is almost anti fashion, but he still know what he likes to wear and DS has a very fixed style.

I have teen DNephews, one is very into his clothes and the other like to be smart at all times.

For the men I know, keeping certain standards with their clothes is very important, even of they're not following trends.

MandemChickenShop · 23/12/2025 17:31

Are you married to Pep?

shuggles · 23/12/2025 17:28

@TheSweetestCon Tell us you dress badly without...etc etc

I ensure my clothes are clean and appropriate for the situation, which I think is enough.

Is not dressing fashionably the same as dressing "badly"? I'm not sure. What would dressing fashionably do to benefit me? Nothing. The only difference would be that I would have less money because I would be buying more clothes and more expensive clothes.

shuggles · 23/12/2025 17:27

Minjou · 23/12/2025 00:30

Wtf are you on about? Men have outfits. Men are fashion designers and stylists and models and a great many men think about their clothes that deeply.
My teenage sons have outfits.

It's highly unusual. You're talking about a tiny % of the male population that's into fashion.

DuchessofStaffordshire · 23/12/2025 13:42

I hate anything with obvious logos or badges on, so it would be a 'no' from me.

PomPomSugar · 23/12/2025 13:10

My husband wears Stone Island as the cut of the clothes fit him well. Crucially though, he ALWAYS takes off the badge.