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To find DH’s outfit for dinner really unsuitable?

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MarieJh · 22/12/2025 21:49

Meal out at a nice restaurant yesterday. DH wearing smart trainers, jeans and…a black Stone Island roll neck jumper. With badge on sleeve.

He says it’s smart/designer and suitable for the occasion.

I disagree. AIBU?

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/12/2025 11:09

Anything with a brand or logo emblazoned on it, is often seen as not smart, if not actually trashy. Even ‘designer’ brands with logos, however expensive, can be seen as trashy in a good many people’s eyes.

However in your dh’s case, if the venue didn’t insist on no jeans/trainers, I wouldn’t have made a fuss about it.

AgapanthusPink · 30/12/2025 10:58

‘Smart trainers’ is always an oxymoron. Having said that as long as long as he wasn’t wearing a beanie or baseball cap to the meal I could probably live with it.

topcat2014 · 30/12/2025 10:09

Designer = common..

FarmGirl78 · 30/12/2025 10:08

I do wish more people would realise that "designer" ≠ "smart".

BluesBird19764 · 29/12/2025 19:45

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 22/12/2025 21:58

Stone Island and football hooligans isn't something I'd link tbh

Sounds fine to me

Oh it absolutely is at least for certain lads on away fixtures. The sort of lads who also think getting coked up and aggressive is a great idea.

GingerbreadSkinnyLatte · 27/12/2025 22:52

Are you Mrs Tommy Robinson?

ZenLikeAlways · 27/12/2025 22:47

TheSweetestCon · 22/12/2025 21:58

Stone Island is what football hooligans wear for a few pints and a punch up, isn't it? I wouldn't be happy with DH wearing that for any occasion, tbh.

Jeans and trainers can be fine even for a 'nice' restaurant (depending on the jeans, trainers and restaurant in question) but Stone Island, no thanks. Bad vibes.

This

Purpleberet · 27/12/2025 22:41

Ineedanewsofa · 22/12/2025 22:02

Does he know Stone Island’s reputation? Did he also wear his gucci man bag and slim leg nike joggers with a balaclava?!

hahaha this! Im dead 😂

Acommonreader · 27/12/2025 21:14

CurlyhairedAssassin · 22/12/2025 22:06

Would football hooligans be happy with getting a 300 quid jumper ripped?

I only know that because I don't know anything about Stone Island so had to look it up, but it seems they're not cheap. I don't know any football fans who'd be going out in something like that.

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Stone Island is the very well established uniform of hooliganism. . I’d be very disappointed and surprised that see anyone I know wearing it. The connotations are extremely well known. I expect Tommy Robinson wears nothing else.

LubyLooTwo · 27/12/2025 20:54

Depends on the venue but Jeans and trainers are not smart. Pity he can't make more of an effort. What a slob l.you are right to be disappointed.

UniquePinkSwan · 27/12/2025 19:42

Could you imagine a man coming on here and criticising what his wife wore to a restaurant?

Cherrytree86 · 27/12/2025 19:38

is he proper buff, OP? A roll neck jumper isn’t the most forgiving of garments for a man…
@MarieJh

Quincette · 27/12/2025 19:30

It’s a bit chavvy, but I’m sure he looked smart.

Cherrytree86 · 27/12/2025 19:27

Outrageous.

he should have been in a tuxedo

Shedeboodinia · 24/12/2025 12:09

ImogenBrocklehurst · 24/12/2025 08:55

😱 We need a picture.

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It would be too outing as literally noone else would wear such a t shirt 😂

thenightsky · 24/12/2025 12:09

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 22/12/2025 22:07

@SledgingSlide, the roadmen round our way wear 'high-vis' jackets except they don't seem to be 'high-vis'.
In fact we don't 'vis' them at all, which is probably why we still have a lot of pot-holes.

That's what I thought roadmen were all about too!

TwoBagsOfCompost · 24/12/2025 11:56

Sidebeforeself · 24/12/2025 09:01

I thank God that I have no idea what you are all going on about!

Yep this never heard of the brand before but the Millwall/hooligan connotations are very amusing and are definitely painting a picture 😂🤣

TwoBagsOfCompost · 24/12/2025 11:54

ObliviousCoalmine · 22/12/2025 21:53

Was he expecting to encounter a group of Millwall fans and have a scrap?

I found this way funnier than I should 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ManyPigeons · 24/12/2025 11:54

Ohjoyohbliss · 23/12/2025 18:22

I'm also a football season ticket holder and follow my local team and England. Stone Island is absolutely worn by football hooligans and wannabes, often linked with "limbs" and concourse culture. We see more at England games than local ones so perhaps that's why PP is unaware.

DH and I roll our eyes and mutter "Stone Island wanker" when one is acting like a knob in our vicinity. I wouldn't be at all surprised if most of them are fakes but, as they seem to have enough money to get coked up and throw expensive pints in the air instead of drinking them, maybe they can afford the real thing.

Tradies make £150+ an hour so I’m not surprised they can afford it. The lower paid manual workers of the past are usually higher earners nowadays.

luckylavender · 24/12/2025 11:52

Catza · 22/12/2025 21:54

So he is wearing trainers to a "nice" restaurant and you have a problem with his choice of a top?

And jeans

ManyPigeons · 24/12/2025 11:51

PInkyStarfish · 24/12/2025 11:13

Trainers, jeans and a roll neck jumper with a visible brand is suitable for Wetherspoons not a nice restaurant.

I mean young men don’t wear shirts and trousers anymore do they? My husband even wears jeans to work in finance.

ManyPigeons · 24/12/2025 11:50

I don’t see the issue with wearing a roll neck jumper? The outfit sounds a bit ugly but not inappropriate just casual.

Flowerslamp · 24/12/2025 11:16

PInkyStarfish · 24/12/2025 11:13

Trainers, jeans and a roll neck jumper with a visible brand is suitable for Wetherspoons not a nice restaurant.

These things must be really regional. In London people would be dressed exactly like that in all the fanciest restaurants. I still wouldn't want to be with someone wearing Stone Island.

PInkyStarfish · 24/12/2025 11:13

Trainers, jeans and a roll neck jumper with a visible brand is suitable for Wetherspoons not a nice restaurant.

Sidebeforeself · 24/12/2025 09:01

I thank God that I have no idea what you are all going on about!