AIBU to ask what's the worst thing you've ever overheard someone say about you?

My DS does this all the time. I give zero fucks and always dance like no one is watching. I have been told many times by others that I'm a good dancer.

Overheard my then boyfriend and his mates discussing how I looked like chewbacca (I was 15 and had a lot of downy fluff on my face) 35 years on, countless shaving, waxing, electrolysis, tweezing, laser, PCOS treatments, etc. I'm still self conscious and hate my face.

I lament the years and years I spent wearing roll neck tops, and a scarf to try and cover my face.

I still hate them. Ive spent thousands trying to fix something normal.

When I was 14 I had 2 best friends. We would go to my cousins to see her baby. Her mum was there one day. We all went into the bathroom to wash our hands and as we were coming back in she said “gosh her friends could be models, shame about her really. What they’re doing with her I’ll never know”.

Honestly I have felt completely disgusting ever since

Large group of friends with one thing in common which links them. My husband is one of them. It would be Impossible to cherry-pick invitees for a party. The invitation is put in a WhatsApp group and everyone is invited.

I was also the least conventionally attractive girl in my friendship group and though the girls were never mean, the boys would often say horrible things about me and how non of them would ever be interested. I mean, I was never that bothered that they didn’t find me attractive and the feeling was mutual. Now I’ve seen some pop up on Facebook I’m very glad haha.
Weirdly, once I was in my 20s one of the most popular boys in the group told me he’d really fancied me back then, as I had something different about me. I found that fascinating. He wasn’t ever mean to me but 15 year old me would have been gobsmacked

On separate occasions I overheard my mum telling her friend that she always wanted a dark haired girl (I don’t have dark hair) and that my outfit would look better on a skinny kid.

My parents would argue then say awful things about me like ‘your fucking kid is xyz’
I was also seen as the problem child in my home and I’d hear my mum slagging me off to my aunties. I’m not experienced it as an adult- maybe because I have fewer pricks in my life 🤣 But honestly, I think my family aren’t my people and I suit my life and circumstances much better now Ive chosen who I spend time with

You poor thing that hurts my heart and makes me so angry. Those two heartless selfish people dimmed your sparkle and possibly deprived us of a brilliant playwrite!
Although it's never too late to realize your potential. You could make them eat their words 🤞

I overheard my ex on a works call tell everyone he was at a friend's house. They were asking him where he was, as they obviously didn't recognise the background and he said he was at a friend's. We'd been together years at that point.

Two boys in highschool made comments while sitting next to me. "She's a carpenter's dream, flat as a board" and "a pirate's dream, sunken chest" I can't believe now that I allowed those comments to hurt my feelings. The funny thing is that at my 50th class reunion those guys were fat and disgusting and I was looking pretty hot(even with my small boobs)

Do people just generally tell you to your face that you're an insensitive humble bragger, then?

I used to wet the bed often when I was a child and when I was about eight I'd wet the bed and my dad had got me up to the toilet and changed the sheets. I got back into bed but before I fell asleep I heard my mum ask him if I'd wet the bed again. He said I had and then I heard her say that she wished she'd never had me. That comment has always stuck with me. As an adult now, I'm sure my mum didn't mean it and probably forgot she'd even said it by the next day but hearing it as a child totally affected me.

I overheard two grown women at the bus stop who i have never spoken to , say that the woman (me) who owns the salon thinks she's all that she too expensive and not that great , she started to collect for the local food Pantry just to get customers ,bet her business doesn't last .
10 years later still in the salon that wouldn't last , still collecting for the local food Pantry, still being all that !

I once heard a colleague talking to other colleagues saying he bet them £50 he could shag me in the car park.
I have no idea why he said it, I had never given any indication that I would shag any of them.

Spastic a poster said further up she overheard someone at school say she ran like a spastic.

What's the s word?

Fucking hell - you invited them to your house for a barbeque after they’d called you fat, ugly and boring? What the hell is wrong with you?? You should’ve stormed out of that cubicle and ripped them both a new arsehole!!

dance teacher talking to my mum when i was about 10 'she is going to have to watch her weight as she gets older, she has big bones' which basically gave me a hatred of my big bones and thinking I am fat for my whole life. Before that I really hadn't noticed.

I unfortunately have all the mental load at home, as well as the stressful job which pays the bills. We have 3 kids of varying ages all requiring different things.For a long time my toddler didn’t sleep and only wanted me at night. My husband has severe ADHD and struggles with a lot of practical life admin. He works very hard in a minimum wage job. He does all the stuff he can do - driving the kids everywhere, a share of the cooking and cleaning etc. Theres lots he can’t do, eg homework help and financial stuff.

at a party in a pub with his group of friends (who I sort of know but not very well), I arrived late as I’d been somewhere else during the day. I went straight to the loo for a wee as I was bursting and to check my make-up. Whilst in a cubicle I overheard two women in this group comment on the thoughtful present my husband had brought the birthday girl (I had actually chosen and wrapped the present). They then commented on how fantastic my husband is and how they can’t believe he’s with someone so tired, ugly and boring as me. They commented on how much personality he has and how he brings such good vibes to every get-together they have. They felt sorry for him living with someone who is so uptight.

i kept it to myself but it goes to show that people often comment without really knowing the background info. When they came to our house for a bbq, I gave them both the fatty bits of meat when serving food. Petty but made me feel a bit better.

Aged about 20, a much older bloke at work said about me: ‘There’s something about her that would put me off women for life.’ Charming. I was pretty, but assertive. Maybe that was why.

An old family "friend" had accidently called my dad's cell phone and left three messages where she was ranting and raving about how incredibly spoilt I am and what a horrible daughter and human being I am.

This was after I had moved home for eight months to sort out the mess after my mother died and my father was in early stages of dementia. They left a complete financial and legal mess and three houses in various stages of hoarding.
I'm still working on it two years later. It felt very unfair, but I am glad that I heard what she said so I could cut contact.

Oh, she also used things I said in desperation while venting to her to call in council nurses, get dad into assisted living and try to sell his house behind my back. The nurses were very suprised to find dad's place in order, dad well taken care or and that he had a daughter who is very involved in his life - don't know what "friend" had told them.

It was a huge blow in an already incredibly stressful situation, will never forgive her.

That’s disgraceful - in that situation I can only think that they were threatened by you in some way. Were you very good at art?

There are some very nasty people around with serious psychological issues. As I said earlier in the thread, the things these losers say are absolutely no reflection on you - THEY are the ones with problems.

One night when I was about 10, I couldn’t sleep and was reading. My mother came in, told me to settle down. I then overheard my father tell my mother that I would never achieve anything and I must get ‘it’ from her side as it certainly wasn’t from his whatever ‘it’ was. He always thought the worst of me right through his life but I survived and I achieved in spite of his opinions.

In a pub with my friend playing pool and three guys standing nearby talking about us and how one of them was going to ask my friend out. His friend replied, oh great, guess im stuck with the chubby one. Having always been overweight that stung and although I'm quite gobby i wimped out and pretended not to hear it.

On a positive, at my works do this year the guy I've been crushing on for a while was having a conversation I overheard (i have freakishly bat like hearing) with another guy about which girl they would go for if we didn't work together and he said instantly, my name followed by she's gorgeous. The dancing when we got to the club that night definitely proved it wasn't just words 😂

I'm the same weight and size i was in the first story so it was a huge confidence boost even if nothing would happen because of working together!

Not overheard, it was a Facebook status about me. Sorry, it'll be a long one!

I think i used to have body dysmorphic disorder and hated pictures of myself. Never felt comfortable in shorts but I run hot, so basically have no other options in summer.
I was at a friend's house one day and her neighbour, a really pretty woman, said how she'd kill to have legs like mine. Said how she'd tell her husband to look how toned they are, then told him not to look... It really made me feel good, coming from her.

So I changed my Facebook profile, had a full length picture of myself as my profile picture. I felt great and validated when I got a decent amount of likes (this was a good while back!) Then an hour later I saw it. 'Some people just can't help themselves but to be a slut 🤷'. It felt targeted at me and she didn't talk to me when she next came to my friend's while I was there. I asked my friend who it was about and she said she didn't know. So, I lied and said some kid who used to hang around the houses had told me she'd overheard pretty woman talking about me...

My friend asked pretty woman if it was true and she looked shocked and she only said 'kid shouldn't be listening to her when she's talking to her friends!' which confirmed it. As did a year later, when they'd broke up, I bumped into her now ex husband and he said it had been about me and she hated me for flirting with him... All over a profile picture that she'd made me feel comfortable to go ahead with, just for her to absolutely smash me back down again.

I try to tell myself it wasn't about me, she and her ex had trust issues. I'd barely talked to him so no idea how she thought it was his benefit. I sometimes feel like reaching out to her, telling her I'm far from a slut, she'd made me feel good and I was glad to have received that compliment from her... But it'd be wasted as she's clearly horrible on the inside, despite how pretty she is. Still hurts though, feels like I should just keep myself hidden away to avoid any other weirdness from people.