For fuck’s sake - I cannot take this anymore

Op i don't disagree with you, it is plastic tat, and the accumulation of it is why I started to phase out buying the comics with it on after a couple of years.

However, my kids did read the comics, or we would sit and read them together. They did play woth the toys about the same.. and my exh was of the same opinion as you on endless crap that ended up in the toy draw never to be seen again.

My feelings on it were they enjoyed it, it made them happy to receive it, and for a few hours we got to do something together.

That to me was more important than the environment factor at the time.

Perhaps that is what your H is thinking.

You’ve said multiple times that you’ve told him to stop/stated it’s bothered you/told him about waste going to landfills, etc. What you haven’t done (or said you’ve done) is gone ‘Why do you keep doing this despite all this?’

That would be an actual conversation. It wouldn’t be ‘digging deep into psychology’, it would just be normal adult communication. I’m not sure how much clearer I can be, or why this wasn’t your first port of call.

Do you and your husband not have conversations? Do you not know how?

In principle, of course I agree with you. In practice, I bet being taken to the shop to buy a treat with their dad will be a treasured memory for your kids. Maybe he’s prioritising that.

I get you! While DH doesn't buy toy tat, he will come in with whole loads of stuff, especially gadgets, because he's a spender. I will have cleared the cupboards out and created space, which gets refilled with new stuff we just don't need. Same as shopping, weekly shop bought, comes in with bags of other stuff, no room in fridge, freezer or cupboards.

I do tell him but falls on deaf ears. Xxx

I’m still with you OP. I think PPs must be unaware of the shitness of these magazines + toys to think you could possibly donate them to charity. None of it lasts more than a day. It’s ridiculously overpriced. Go and look at the rubbish on offer at the local Tesco if you don’t understand what the OP is referring to.

This would definitely do my head in too. I’d have to leave it in his wardrobe as soon as the kids ignored it

Perhaps I need to dig deeper into why he feels the psychological need to do this.

Or just have a proper conversation with your husband about something that upsets you? It clearly massively bothers you. It’s a financial burden. You’re chucking toys out on a weekly basis. But you haven’t sat down and asked him ‘why?’

I have a female friend who did this when her DCs were young. I couldn’t get my head around it, as she’d recently divorced and money was tight.

Strangely, as soon as her finances improved she seemed to stop doing it.

Aw op, l don’t understand anyone who doesn’t understand where you’re coming from.
What you’re saying is, wouldn’t it be better to save up for quality toys🤷‍♀️Sounds perfectly reasonable

I can't believe you're still going after this.

Have you had a conversation with him about this? An actual conversation, not ‘don’t do this because I’m right’? Asked him why he keeps doing it? Discussed how it distresses you and the fact that you simply can’t afford it?

If so, what’s his reasoning?

Well you can't actually force him to stop. You can try to have an adult conversation with him about plastic and the planet and waste and teaching your children about sustainability, and try and reach some sort of agreement or compromise. Or you could be childish, save it all up in a bin bag and then dump the whole lot on his side of the bed?

Honestly it all sounds like really cheap and tiny stuff that could easily be chucked into a basket.

Whilst I do understand (I live in teeny tiny house with 3 kids) the space issue, I think binning it is wasteful and only encouraging him to buy more.

They are not small for long you know, it's just not worth the battle IMO - let him buy things for his kids, in a couple more years they will be over toys anyway.

Ah well I was the one who used the word impose but maybe someone else did too

No I'm not a bloke, despite the posting name.

Not saying you have to accommodate anything - I would probably keep throwing it out if DH did this too, which TBF he does a bit, just not as frequently as you describe. I just fundamentally disagree with the point you keep bringing up which is that you are "right" therefore he should listen to you and doesn't get a say in the matter. It would be weird and controlling if it was the other way around. The reasonable approach is to talk about it and/or find a compromise though which TBF I did suggest in my first post.

I might be taking the whole thing a bit too literally though and maybe you are joking in which case I apologise (sometimes I find jokes hard to read online).

The issue with your DH buying toys for your children seems to have been going on for a while. I find it unlikely that all charity shops in your vicinity have said they permanently want no toy donations, ever.

I mean, if they have somehow actually said that, then fair enough, but then it may have been worth mentioning that on this thread from the get go, to save all excessive the back and forth about why not take them to the charity shop (which you repeatedly answered with "I don't think it's fair to offload plastic tat on charity shops" not "my charity shop has a ban on toy donations").