For fuck’s sake - I cannot take this anymore

I'm totally with you on this - especially if it's cutting into family finances. There are so many better things to be spending money on for the kids.

For those saying "charity shop the toys"... These
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are the sort of things that you get on the front of magazines. What charity shop could be dealing with all those little bits. Even if you had all the parts that came with the teaset it's about the size of a 10p coin and the paint your own doll would be worthless if someone had started it. They're cheap crap that migrates everywhere in the house and doesn't get repeat playing. It's teaching an easy-come easy-go attitude to just having shiny "stuff"

If DH has his own car, bag it up & stick it in his boot or back of the car & don't let it back in the house & if it creeps back, keep putting it back in the car. If it impacts the children being in the car etc he'll get rid & it might eventually curb his compulsive tat buying. I got the idea from DD whose ex used to leave cans, bottles, fag packets, gum wrappers & all kinds of crap littered about which she put in his car so I adopted it for my partner. In my experience men can be very precious about their cars, much more so than having a tidy home.

I’ve seen this advice before on MN and it just doesn’t work. All that happens is you get increasingly stressed and anxious over the mess; it has a detrimental effect on your state of mind while your DH carries on regardless. Ask me how I know …

Stop throwing it away. Stop cleaning & tidying, too. Let the crap pile up on every surface in every room. Eventually your DH will realise it's rubbish and stop buying it. He can't see it now because you keep cleaning up after him.

Is he just carrying on buying it because you keep throwing it all away?

If you didn't chuck it away then would be less likely to 'replace' it? Do the kids actually get any enjoyment out of the things?

Show the approximate cost of everything he has bought that year and get him a library card - mine flipping loved the library. We also used charity shops if they really wanted some tat - 5 items for £1 from a little basked. Then it go donated back there.

🙈 I have also been know to adopt a one in one out policy 🤣

Show your husband a compound interest calculator. If he stopped buying the tat, put the same value into a junior ISA for your kids each month, this is how much they would have at adulthood with very little effort.

Well you are the one chucking them away. I hope you dont really mean that and you give them to a charity shop instead.

I completely understand the pleasure he gets from buying little gifts for his kids.

He has a gift of cramming things in 😆

Put all the tat in a box in his personal space! And just keep adding it as it comes through the door. His office, pant drawer, wherever. He may then become sick of it too 🤞🏼

I think I see where the problem is

Where does he put the stuff when the cupboard is full? Making my husband do this has helped!

Same here.

Did you see my suggestion? I understand that this type of stuff is literally going into landfull and not good for charity shops. And clutters the house, and the kids don't need it.

I think we’re married to the same man.

I have exactly the same from my DH. He can’t seem to go to get milk without returning with something. In the last month we’ve had numerous inflatable santas, glasses with reindeer in them, Christmas novelty pens, those purses (what are they about) etc.

It can really take over and the worst thing for me is my ds in particular has become so careless and offhand with items - not just his but everybody’s - because of this easy come, easy go sort of approach.

It is so frustrating but I just wait until no one’s watching and bin it. They don’t notice.

They do have some great toys so I don’t know what it is with the crap.

Comics are fine, without the crap plastic. He should subscribe to a comic for them if they read them, my 7 yo loves The Phoenix and it has the novelty of arriving in the post for them too.

Maybe keep sending DH science articles and videos about all the microplastics lodged in our water supplies, soil, wildlife and our own bodies & he might twig that the plastic tat toys are contributing to the problem ?

I remember buying those comics for my DC when they were young. Def not as a weekly treat though - they were expensive then so Lord knows how much they are now. I get the issue re the plastic shite / i would def speak to DC about it re the planet in an appropriate way. Are there comics that don’t have the crap attached to them?

He’s doing what he wants to do, that isn’t being kind
Surely he knows by now, his partner, is unhappy about this, because they haven’t got room for it all and they can’t really afford frivolous rubbish also all this is just going in landfill! What an absolute waste!
@Rosealea when you’re in a relationship with children, it’s not just about what 1 person wants to do, it’s what’s best for the family, especially when it’s causing friction.

Someone else might love it! Definitely don't bin it that's an appalling waste.

The Okido magazine is excellent. I completely agree the magazines with plastic tat are awful

You seem fixated on the “China, plastic tat” bit when surely the most important factor right now is, you can’t afford it. If he has continued on that path despite it being a problem financially then you haven’t actually had a proper conversation with him.

I’d be asking, if he wants to keep bringing it, what does he want to forego in return?

Or not as the case may be. I don't think you're right and neither does your husband 😂😂😂

He's doing a nice thing. This is a you problem, him buying bits and pieces is part of being a parent as is having stuff around the house. He sounds like a lovely dad who is having some lovely bonding time with his kids. I'd rather they remembered that than their mother blowing a gasket about mess and their dad buying them wee mindings.

I hear you! We got a subscription to the Phoenix comics. I can’t stand the crap plastic toys on kids comics. And the comics themselves are usually rubbish and hardly read.

the pheonix is great though It’s a quality subscription - comes weekly - has no adverts or toys. And it can easily be recycled or passed on when longer needed. It’s a real treat every week when it arrives and it is read cover to cover every time…