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Boyfriend in the wrong? Or did I overreact?

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Rachhj · 21/12/2025 18:08

BF and I met his friend and someone he has been seeing for a couple of months last night at our local for drinks.

This was the first time we’ve met her, lovely girl and we got along well.

When she went to the loo, my BF turned to his friend and said something (not exact quote) like ‘I bet you can’t wait to get stuck into that later’ and they both laughed.

I told him afterwards I thought that was not a pleasant way to speak about her and he said that we were in a pub, had a couple of drinks and that’s just how blokes talk to each other, and he meant no disrespect.

AIBU to have found this unkind?

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OtterlyMad · 21/12/2025 18:11

No that’s gross. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and never heard him speak about another woman in that way, even when he has been drunk with all his mates in the pub.

fishfingerbutty · 21/12/2025 18:10

Surely you mean your ex BF?
What a horrible man he is.

sprigatito · 21/12/2025 18:09

No, you’re not overreacting. He’s a revolting misogynist pig. And he’s not remotely bothered about showing that in front of you 🤮

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