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Husband told my sister to ‘fucking grow up’

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HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 16:34

I’m stuck in the middle over something which happened last night. Myself and DH met up with my Dsis and her partner for a dinner in a local restaurant.

The service was a bit slow and DH was getting a bit fed up/hangry. When it eventually came out, everything was placed into the middle for us to share out (think Chinese/thai type meal).

DH immediately started serving items on to his plate and my Dsis basically asked him to stop so she could get a video. He asked why and she said so she could upload on her to her social media. He then said the fucking grow up comment and there was an awkward atmosphere.

DH hasn’t apologised and I’ve had a shitty text off Dsis today. Luckily we aren’t spending Christmas together.

I absolutely think DH was in the wrong but he’s protesting his innocence and said having waited long enough for the food to arrive he shouldn’t have been told he couldn’t eat it.

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HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 18:13

Haha no she is not an influencer. Although I did joke once that she was starting to sound like one with her ‘monthly dumps’!

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Starandflowers · 21/12/2025 18:13

Fair enough doing all the video nonsense if you are on your own (or at a push if you are with your patient partner) but when you are in company then it’s just rude to make everyone stop so you can get an Instagram story

Your husband maybe wasn’t tactful the way he reacted but he was spot on telling her to get a grip

Topseyt123 · 21/12/2025 18:13

HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 17:51

That she was shocked he was so rude and it’s not her fault he doesn’t do social media so isn’t aware that’s the done thing with a lot of people in this day and age. And that it was a 5 second video for her story so could he not have just waited as the food wouldn’t have gone cold.

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I'd go back to her and tell her to stop being so utterly stupid.

tigger1001 · 21/12/2025 18:13

HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 17:51

That she was shocked he was so rude and it’s not her fault he doesn’t do social media so isn’t aware that’s the done thing with a lot of people in this day and age. And that it was a 5 second video for her story so could he not have just waited as the food wouldn’t have gone cold.

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She sounds very self absorbed.

is it not possible to go out without posting it on social media? Did she ask before the food arrived?

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 21/12/2025 18:12

Team nobody.

She was annoying.

Your husband was way ruder than her annoyingness warranted.

And you and your sister's partner just sat there and said nothing?

What a family.

aperollingintotheweekend · 21/12/2025 18:12

It is extremely irritating. If the food has had a long wait and it hadn’t been mentioned prior I’d have been tucking in too.

sleepandcoffee · 21/12/2025 18:09

He was overly rude but also she is ridiculous and need to grow up

Aintgointogoa · 21/12/2025 18:09

Team DH !

Hankunamatata · 21/12/2025 18:08

He shouldn't have sworn at her and been rude. He could have easily just said 'no, Im hungry' and carried on

He should apologise for swearing at her

soupyspoon · 21/12/2025 18:08

She needs to see this thread

metalbottle · 21/12/2025 18:07

Honestly, if I knew your sister was one of the annoying types who insists on documenting everything for her 'socials' I'd have served myself even more quickly. Does she thinks she's an influencer @HusSisargument ?

soupyspoon · 21/12/2025 18:07

Yes she would spend ages doing all the angles and not wanting shadow in it, and moving glasses out of the way and 'oh, just wait until that person sits down theres shadow', 'oh and now the waiter', can you lean this way you're in the way, can you move the napkin, now can you swivel the plate round....

TheMorgenmuffel · 21/12/2025 18:07

Im with him. I probably wouldn't have said it but I'd certainly have thought it.

TheatricalLife · 21/12/2025 18:07

He was rude, but spot on. This is something my teenage niece and nephew would do. Nobody gives a shit about watching a video of someone else's dinner, it's a story that would be immediately scrolled past by everyone.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 21/12/2025 18:06

“the done thing “

For wankers!

hattie43 · 21/12/2025 18:05

Who starts videoing a meal , ridiculous when people are wanting to eat .

Sunshineo · 21/12/2025 18:05

Your ds was rude. She does need to grow up.

SlashBeef · 21/12/2025 18:05

She does need to grow up. He could have been more polite about it but she was rude to ask him to wait for a nonsense reason.

Snorlaxo · 21/12/2025 18:03

A 5 second video doesn’t take 5 seconds to film.

H was wrong to swear but your sister is too old for filming her meal crap.

Lifealwaysgetsbetter · 21/12/2025 18:03

HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 17:51

That she was shocked he was so rude and it’s not her fault he doesn’t do social media so isn’t aware that’s the done thing with a lot of people in this day and age. And that it was a 5 second video for her story so could he not have just waited as the food wouldn’t have gone cold.

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She does need to grow up! Nobody will care about her story. Yeah maybe he shouldn’t have said fire up but it’s rude to stop guests eating so you can try to show off on your story (and most folk reading that would also think ffs and 🙄)

RecordBreakers · 21/12/2025 18:01

Not a fan of his language, but I'm also with dh.

Your sister is being ridiculous.
I have social media, but food is for eating, not filming.

BettysRoasties · 21/12/2025 17:59

It’s not the done thing apart from teens, idiots and influencers.

Moonnstarz · 21/12/2025 17:59

I would find it incredibly rude to be out for a meal and for someone I was with to get their phone out at the dinner table. To me your sister was rude doing this, especially as it was to video the food 🙄

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 21/12/2025 17:56

HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 17:51

That she was shocked he was so rude and it’s not her fault he doesn’t do social media so isn’t aware that’s the done thing with a lot of people in this day and age. And that it was a 5 second video for her story so could he not have just waited as the food wouldn’t have gone cold.

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"The done thing"?

Nope.

shhblackbag · 21/12/2025 17:56

SVR16 · 21/12/2025 17:41

Your sister is 33 and videos meals. She sounds pathetic and childish.

DH was well within his rights to call her out on such ridiculous behaviour. If I were him I’d avoid her completely in the future. Life is too short to spend with people like that.

Agree. Perhaps someone should have called her out sooner.