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Husband told my sister to ‘fucking grow up’

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HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 16:34

I’m stuck in the middle over something which happened last night. Myself and DH met up with my Dsis and her partner for a dinner in a local restaurant.

The service was a bit slow and DH was getting a bit fed up/hangry. When it eventually came out, everything was placed into the middle for us to share out (think Chinese/thai type meal).

DH immediately started serving items on to his plate and my Dsis basically asked him to stop so she could get a video. He asked why and she said so she could upload on her to her social media. He then said the fucking grow up comment and there was an awkward atmosphere.

DH hasn’t apologised and I’ve had a shitty text off Dsis today. Luckily we aren’t spending Christmas together.

I absolutely think DH was in the wrong but he’s protesting his innocence and said having waited long enough for the food to arrive he shouldn’t have been told he couldn’t eat it.

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PluckyChancer · 22/12/2025 03:30

Is your sister a teenager? Team DH all the way. I’d have told her to get to fuck too if I was feeling hangry.

Eenameenadeeka · 22/12/2025 02:48

They were both wrong. She should not have asked him to wait so she could video the food, it's rediculous. But also, he should not swear at her because that's not an appropriate way to speak to people.

Theslummymummy · 21/12/2025 23:10

No need for him to speak to her like that. Rude and crabby

ChristmasCookie1 · 21/12/2025 23:08

TheAutumnCrow · 21/12/2025 22:25

Yes, this.

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Seriously! Do you really not understand how Instagram works!? No one posts photos of random kids fgs, it's of the food!

TheAutumnCrow · 21/12/2025 22:25

JudgeJ · 21/12/2025 22:13

Anyone taking photos of another person without their explicit consent deserves far more than he said. Let her take her pathetic snaps of lots of children eating and post those on one of the idiot websites, I wonder what the response would be?

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Yes, this.

purplecorkheart · 21/12/2025 22:17

Hangry is an excuses for a toddler your dh needs to grow up and be able as adult deal with silly people aka your sister. He should be able to tell her she is being stupid and ridiculous and start eating. No need to involve you.

JudgeJ · 21/12/2025 22:13

sharkstale · 21/12/2025 21:07

This

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Anyone taking photos of another person without their explicit consent deserves far more than he said. Let her take her pathetic snaps of lots of children eating and post those on one of the idiot websites, I wonder what the response would be?

NiceCupOfChai · 21/12/2025 22:11

ChristmasCookie1 · 21/12/2025 22:06

Honestly I think you must live in a different world. It's nothing new either. Most families will have hours and hours of 90s home videos of families toasting before a meal, or serving up. It's just a different medium now.

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That’s very different to videoing the actual food. The home videos you’re talking about are generally of important occasions, and as you say yourself they are of families toasting the meal not the food itself. It sounds like this person just videoed the food with the sole purpose of posting it on social media. It’s self indulgent and odd, who wants to see a video Of someone’s restaurant food? Different maybe if she’d made the meal, or it was some very special restaurant.

shhblackbag · 21/12/2025 22:08

ChristmasCookie1 · 21/12/2025 22:06

Honestly I think you must live in a different world. It's nothing new either. Most families will have hours and hours of 90s home videos of families toasting before a meal, or serving up. It's just a different medium now.

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I probably do. We've never done it in my family or friend groups. If that's a different world, I'm happy in it.

ChristmasCookie1 · 21/12/2025 22:06

shhblackbag · 21/12/2025 21:48

I'm the opposite. I want to know what is happening to the world that videoing your food for strangers is acceptable and asking your family to wait for you to finish the video when they are wanting eat.

It's weird when teenagers do it. A fully grown adult? Self-indulgent and annoying as fuck.

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Honestly I think you must live in a different world. It's nothing new either. Most families will have hours and hours of 90s home videos of families toasting before a meal, or serving up. It's just a different medium now.

NiceCupOfChai · 21/12/2025 21:54

Nobody wants to see a video of your sister’s tea, it’s odd behaviour.

pilates · 21/12/2025 21:51

@CalmTheFuckDownMargaret & @shhblackbag you are my people 😂

ExtraOnions · 21/12/2025 21:51

Amazing how many people have allowed their hatred of social media to make a man being aggressive and swearing acceptable, as the “lesser of two evils”

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 21/12/2025 21:49

Stopping others eating so you can upload shite on social media is self-absorbed rudeness. I think more people should be told to grow up when they are sitting there filming their coffees and meals tbh.

shhblackbag · 21/12/2025 21:48

ChristmasCookie1 · 21/12/2025 21:41

Honestly this place is WILD. I cannot believe people are acting like swearing at a family member at a civilised dinner in a public place is better than wanting to take a 5 second video. What is happening to the world!?

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I'm the opposite. I want to know what is happening to the world that videoing your food for strangers is acceptable and asking your family to wait for you to finish the video when they are wanting eat.

It's weird when teenagers do it. A fully grown adult? Self-indulgent and annoying as fuck.

pilates · 21/12/2025 21:48

Good for your husband - I agree with him how bloody annoying.

Shoxfordian · 21/12/2025 21:43

Both rude and he should apologise because he swore at her

ChristmasCookie1 · 21/12/2025 21:41

Honestly this place is WILD. I cannot believe people are acting like swearing at a family member at a civilised dinner in a public place is better than wanting to take a 5 second video. What is happening to the world!?

NoKidsSendDogs · 21/12/2025 21:29

Your sister sounds awful, I would have said the same.

TwooooDoooozenRoses · 21/12/2025 21:20

Your sister sounds absolutely tedious especially with her follow up bullshit about how it’s the done thing now 🙄 but your husband was terribly rude and overly aggressive. I’d be expecting him to apologise for swearing at her and telling her to grow up, but I’d understand that he didn’t want to wait. There’s ways of saying things!

Pricelessadvice · 21/12/2025 21:17

I’m with your husband. Your sister does need to grow up and stop living her life on social media.
Nobody gives a shiny shite what she’s eating for dinner. Nobody.

BadgernTheGarden · 21/12/2025 21:16

He was hungry, probably you all were, yes pretty immature to want to video for her socials before you are allowed to eat. Team DH here.

FollowSpot · 21/12/2025 21:16

Incredibly rude and aggressive for him to react like that, swearing, when out for dinner.

Yes she was very annoying, but your DH is neither a toddler nor a ravenous dog and diving into the food like that, serving himself before checking what dishes others wanted to start serving, was also rude.

Your sister needs to recognise what an idiot she was being but really I would be mortified and furious if my DH spoke like that to my sister or any friend or family of mine over an irritating photo moment.

A mental eye roll would have sufficed. Or ‘nooo DSIL, take pity! I’m hungry’’

bluesunnyskies · 21/12/2025 21:16

It may seem like a small comment but I know from experience how these things can blow out and suddenly you are in the middle for more than one thing like this. No advice just hope it blows over.

FromageTime · 21/12/2025 21:15

Both rude. I can’t imagine my husband serving himself first in a group setting. And I mix with actual adults that don’t want to video food for IG.