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Husband told my sister to ‘fucking grow up’

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HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 16:34

I’m stuck in the middle over something which happened last night. Myself and DH met up with my Dsis and her partner for a dinner in a local restaurant.

The service was a bit slow and DH was getting a bit fed up/hangry. When it eventually came out, everything was placed into the middle for us to share out (think Chinese/thai type meal).

DH immediately started serving items on to his plate and my Dsis basically asked him to stop so she could get a video. He asked why and she said so she could upload on her to her social media. He then said the fucking grow up comment and there was an awkward atmosphere.

DH hasn’t apologised and I’ve had a shitty text off Dsis today. Luckily we aren’t spending Christmas together.

I absolutely think DH was in the wrong but he’s protesting his innocence and said having waited long enough for the food to arrive he shouldn’t have been told he couldn’t eat it.

OP posts:
Purplewarrior · 21/12/2025 17:06

Yeah #TeamDH

JoshLymanSwagger · 21/12/2025 17:06

@HusSisargument why the fuck did she need to video food??

She can post a photo of empty plates at the end, or maybe eat cold food on her own.

Your sister owes your OH an apology.

shhblackbag · 21/12/2025 17:06

Why do you think he's "absolutely in the wrong"?

This is some Instagram nonsense.

Dollymylove · 21/12/2025 17:06

Im on team DH but I dont think he should have sworn

AbbaCadaBra · 21/12/2025 17:06

I guess he was hangry.

AdjustingVideoFrameRate · 21/12/2025 17:04

I’ve just seen the sister is 33! I was expecting teens or early 20s.
33 is way too old for this videoing food nonsense.

butterdish93 · 21/12/2025 17:04

No. He was rude, regardless of if she was being slightly annoying. It’s not ok to speak to anyone, let alone family like that. I couldn’t be around people like that

BettysRoasties · 21/12/2025 17:04

Team dh.

If she wants to take photos or worse videos of the food she needs to order her own plate not expect others to let their food get cold for her own ego posting.

So yes she needs to grow up and adult.

Elmspringwater · 21/12/2025 17:04

Im team husban.
I said the same to my own sister kid once, she was 17 at the time.
I cant stand people that do this i want to eat my food not take pitchers and videos off it.

People have to post everything, they will post their own shit next, oh wait that happens on MN.

grinchmcgrinchface · 21/12/2025 17:04

Fuck that. Hes right.

Pineappleice43 · 21/12/2025 17:04

33? I thought you were going to say 17.

Yeah I'm with your DH on this one

pinkyredrose · 21/12/2025 17:02

Team Husband here. Why the fuck should he wait for his food when he's hungry because she wants to piss about taking videos!

shhblackbag · 21/12/2025 17:02

Nah, she really does need to grow up. Why should he apologise? I absolutely wouldn't have.

HappyFace2025 · 21/12/2025 17:02

Upsetbetty · 21/12/2025 16:36

I’m with your dh sorry. Fuck that.

Same here. Your DSis was very rude to want to video the meal when you had been waiting for the food to arrive. DH slightly over reacted but how old is DSis???

Snorlaxo · 21/12/2025 17:01

Your dh is right. If your sis was 13 then I’d expect him to be a bit more considerate but your sis is unreasonable to expect people to wait for a video to be taken.

Did she announce the video intention before the meal? I would expect that as a minimum and for her to back down in situations like last night when people were hangry.

They both owe an apology - especially your sister who does need to grow up. Has she done this before? How long does it take her to record the meal before everyone eats?

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 21/12/2025 17:01

XWKD · 21/12/2025 16:41

Team DH here.

Me too.

MotherTuckinGenius · 21/12/2025 17:01

I think your DH was quite restrained!

#Team DH

BellissimoGecko · 21/12/2025 17:01

She was annoying, but he was really rude and overreacted. Both should apologise.

Katjolo · 21/12/2025 17:00

Team DH

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 21/12/2025 17:00

She's 33? I thought you were going to say around 17!

RitaandtheTiarasgonewiththewind · 21/12/2025 16:59

Ooo a video of egg fried rice
How will I cope with never seeing it.👍😁

luckylavender · 21/12/2025 16:59

I with your DH. Language not great but he was hungry & self absorbed Instagrammers are very irritating.

FerrisWheelsandLilacs · 21/12/2025 16:59

She could’ve taken a video while he was serving himself? Or is she of the view that people’s real life experiences should be infringed upon for the benefit of strangers who watch videos on social media, and a video of him serving himself is not pleasant enough viewing for those strangers.

Because you have to admit, that is a really dystopian stance of the world, and no one should be having a worse time just because Social Media.

liamharha · 21/12/2025 16:59

HusSisargument · 21/12/2025 16:34

I’m stuck in the middle over something which happened last night. Myself and DH met up with my Dsis and her partner for a dinner in a local restaurant.

The service was a bit slow and DH was getting a bit fed up/hangry. When it eventually came out, everything was placed into the middle for us to share out (think Chinese/thai type meal).

DH immediately started serving items on to his plate and my Dsis basically asked him to stop so she could get a video. He asked why and she said so she could upload on her to her social media. He then said the fucking grow up comment and there was an awkward atmosphere.

DH hasn’t apologised and I’ve had a shitty text off Dsis today. Luckily we aren’t spending Christmas together.

I absolutely think DH was in the wrong but he’s protesting his innocence and said having waited long enough for the food to arrive he shouldn’t have been told he couldn’t eat it.

I'm with hubby .

gingercat02 · 21/12/2025 16:59

Sister is a insta twat, husband quite right!