To think it's really rude to keep your shoes on when you visit someone's home

I’ve made this point before but still got jumped on. I really think it depends a lot on where you live and how people are travelling to your home. I’m in London and everyone travels everywhere by public transport and walking. We are surrounded by dog households. The council have not cleared all the autumn leaves. The leaves and dog mess have got smushed together. There aren’t enough street lamps. It gets dark at 4pm. I walk home at night from the station with my phone torch out so I can watch my step for dog mess. I have twice accidentally stepped in it when I’m wearing my baby sling and so can’t see directly ahead of me. We have to check pram wheels and spray them when we come in from outside.

There is absolutely no way in hell anyone would dream of not taking off their shoes at the door, and guests factor in wearing nice socks or bring smart slippers.

I was surprised to find when going bowling for the first time in ages, that bowling shoes are no longer a thing and haven't been for some time. People keep their own shoes on now.
Something to do with the floors being upgraded?
Maybe not the same everywhere but thank god they are dying a death.

Yes I agree it's rude to keep shoes on if the house is clearly a shoes off home and they have new carpet/light colour carpet etc. Some homes don't mind shoes on. I don't allow them because of all the germs being brought in.

I'd love to have a shoes off policy but could never enforce it on my home . It just doesn't seem to be common in any house I have been to . I try to have slippers that are only indoors but then forget and run out to the car or back door . What a conundrum. 😁

It’s the last big class signifier. Shoes on = U; shoes of = non-U

i cannot imagine being so uptight as to ask for people to remove shoes.

I haven't stepped in dog poo since I was a child. I'd rather people kept their shoes on in my house than I had to put up with their smelly feet.

Ewwww, I'd rather have shoes and risk the rare occurrence of poop than have people sweaty foot jam on my carpets and floors. 🤢

Lol, my other half won't go into people's houses if he has to take the shoes off. He lives in converse and can't be bothered to unlace them.

Maybe go and read one of the 8,000 threads on this subject rather than starting another one. It's not inherently rude to leave shoes on or to want people to take them off. It's simply a matter of what you're used to. Ideally, observe what your hosts do, then do likewise. But making a big fuss about it (either out loud or in your head) is just twatty (unless they actually do knowingly and visibly tread dog poo onto your floor).

I always take shoes off in anyone’s house. We live on a farm. There is literally horse and sheep and chicken shit all over outside. You don’t bring that in the house.

Similarly, I used to live in a city and I’d routinely step on used condoms and needles just walking about my neighbourhood (yes, really). Didn’t want that tracked through my house either.

I would only not take off my shoes if the hosts looked utterly freaked out by my attempt to do it.

YABU.

I have a shoe free house but not every house is the same. If you want people to remove their shoes - ask them.

Agree, there is actually far less dog poo about than there used to be, but maybe it's an age thing.

It’s more rude to ask people to take their shoes off.

What on earth are you talking about? Where are you walking that you’re treading in dog poo on a daily basis? If I put on shoes, walk to the car, drive to your house and walk from the car to your front door I’ve probably done 50 steps and as I look where I’m going it’s safe to say I would know if I trod in something. If you ask me to take my shoes off I will but your apparent poo obsession is completely unreasonable.

Yay, another shoes off thread! These are much better entertainment than the shite which will be on telly this Christmas.

Grabs popcorn, pulls up chair, puts feet up, wearing shoes of course!
Dame Patricia Routledge might no longer be with us, but the legacy of Hyacinth Bucket lives on. "Under no circumstances do I allow alien shoes on my herringbone wood block, or my grade one Axminster."

I’d never ask guests to take off their shoes. I think it’s rude, inhospitable and renders them undignified.

It's really rude for guests to assume they can walk in with shoes on

You just need to tell them at the door. We ask visitors to remove shoes. If they refuse they either don’t come in or we have shoe covers .

I would point-blank refuse to enter a house where the owners wanted me to wear sweaty, fungus-covered shared slippers, full of toe cheese and god knows what.

It is literally my worst nightmare. Bowling shoes are bad enough, and they are hard, non-porous, and are sprayed with disinfectant after every use.

I think it's gross to have shoes on in the house at all. No matter who's home it is. I automatically remove mine and would never keep them on in someone else's home.

It's a tiny detail but I always notice it.. that "topsy and Tim" cbeebies show my DD watches, the kids always have their shoes on, not just T&T but the visiting kids too and in the very first episode they are clambering all over the BEDS with them on 🤢🤢🤢 Its so grim I can't even look!!

Communal slippers, oh the joy!

I genuinely do not understand why people have carpets when they seem to cause nothing but stress.

Just get laminate, LVP, or vinyl and a steam mop.

I wouldn't ask people to take their shoes off to come into our house. We have easily cleaned floors and also a downstairs bathroom so there's no need for a visitor to go upstairs. If anyone is staying, I ask them to use slippers or just socks upstairs.

The regular MN shoes on/shoes debate again!

Anyone coming in to my house must leave their shoes on. There's a mat they can wipe their shoes on before they come in.

Hell will freeze over before anyone is allowed walk around my house in their potentially sweaty, smelly socks or barefoot with fungal infections, athlete's foot, veruccas etc.

If anyone has a problem with that (no one do far), they can remain on the doorstep.

I have a lot of Scandinavian / Eastern European friends and family to whom shoes off in the house is non-negotiable and at this point I really can’t imagine sitting on a sofa with a cuppa and being comfortable having shoes on. Most of the above friends / family have slippers to borrow if necessary, and obviously socks are a thing.