To think it's really rude to keep your shoes on when you visit someone's home

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Shoes off in our house. I would always do that or ask to do that in someone elses’s house but I also usually have slippers with me everywhere.

Do you really want feet like this on your floors!

I have hardwood floors throughout the house so it doesn’t bother me if people take their shoes off indoors or not. Might be a different matter if it were carpet. Most guests take them off or offer to take them off anyway. My Asian guests will always take them off even if I tell them it’s okay. British, white people will usually leave them on.

Of course I do. That's why I have a mat at the door.

I think you have overconfidence in people's personal hygiene standards. Even lots of MN posters don't shower daily and don't actually wash their feet, just let the water trickle down!!

My house, my rules and I won't risk potentially smelly feet in it. I would rather have to clean the floor than deal with obnoxious odours.

And what about dogs and their feet? And what are hoovers for?

You do realise there is dog and animal piss all over pavements, right?
On what planet do you think their shoes are cleaner than their socks/feet both of which are likely clean that morning/ washed daily?

That poster said they think its rude, so they are right to say people think differently. No contradiction there.

You’re contradicting yourself there - claiming it definitely is rude, but then saying different people think differently….?

Babies dribbling on the floor
pets bums on the floor
food crumbs on floor
foot sweat on the floor
dead skin and toenails on the floor.

I don’t want to walk on that with my bare feet!
You’re floors aren’t as clean as you think!

I don’t bother, but each to their own I guess. 🤷‍♀️

If I had a shower and changed into my pjs, I would put my slippers on. If I came in from a muddy walk, I would probably just wipe my feet and then sweep and mop once the mud dried because the dog would be covered in mud anyway, so taking my shoes off would be pointless, there'd still be mud on the floor, and my slippers would get covered in mud.

Just thought about this and I automatically go to take mine off if there's carpets but keep them on if it's wooden flooring. The sight of carpet sort of triggers me into taking my shoes off but I wouldn't think to otherwise.

I agree!
I can’t imagine snuggling up on the sofa with shoes or boots on. What the hell! Especially at the moment when it’s wet or muddy outside. Why would anyone do that!
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have all their shoes by the front door and everyone takes them off before going in.

I always go to take off my shoes and am met with a ‘oh no don’t worry about taking your shoes off!’ Which then leaves me feeling awkward that if I leave them on am I being a dirty bitch, or if I continue to take them off do they think I’m weird for wanting them off even though they don’t have to be 🤣

We wear slippers in the house. Shoes on for everyone else unless good friends/family and they want to get comfy.

The more I think about this the more questions I have - so if you came in from a muddy walk, everyone would take off their muddy trainers/wellies and change into normal trainers? Or if you get a shower and change into pajamas you then put shoes on? Surely no body does this?! Or is it just guests that you want to leave their shoes on??

Tbf when I used to visit peoples homes as part of my job, and worked with some achingly posh people (genuinely full of real class, they were all amazing people), it was LC/WC and UC that werent shoes off, with MC/those who thought they were UC that were shoes off.

WC/UC care more about guests comfort, MC is more about their home and maintaining the appearance of being higher class than they are.

Bacteria is everywhere. There are bacteria on your feet, on your socks, on your slippers, on your food, in your mouth, in your lungs...

"Fungus all round my home." WTF are you talking about?

It's this obsessive belief that you can live in some hypo-allergenic laboratory because you took your shoes off that is nuts.

I think it’s incredibly rude to ask
someone to take them off. Different strokes for different folks.

I wear my slippers, my own slippers, that no one else is allowed to wear, first thing on a morning. When I get dressed, I put my shoes on and leave them on until I get changed for bed. If I've been out and have fancy shoes on and not my comfy trainers, I might change back into my slippers when I get home.

If you want shoes off OP you do actually need to communicate that somehow….

I’ve seen competitive undereating on MN before I hadn’t till now seen competitive poor hygiene!
I’d rather be low class and not have bacteria, fungus etc all round my home if I can avoid it ! I saw something once where they swabbed shoes and it was horrendous!

It's polite to check first - always! The UK gets muddy and damp and shoes can bring in a lot of debris. In hot dry climates it is not that often etiquette to remove shoes, IME.