Page 4 | To think it's really rude to keep your shoes on when you visit someone's home

Pavementworrier · 2025-12-21T14:29:43+00:00

There's so much dog poo about now it's basically a trampling of dog poo

Topseyt123 · 22/12/2025 03:49

No. It is not rude to wear shoes in someone else's house provided they are clean and not caked in mud.

It is very rude though to make a visitor take shoes off (unless clearly caked in mud as above).

JHound · 22/12/2025 01:45

Frequency · 21/12/2025 14:46

I genuinely do not understand why people have carpets when they seem to cause nothing but stress.

Just get laminate, LVP, or vinyl and a steam mop.

Some of us don’t have a choice. My landlord has carpets so that’s that.

FleurDeFleur · 21/12/2025 21:12

Frequency · 21/12/2025 14:46

I genuinely do not understand why people have carpets when they seem to cause nothing but stress.

Just get laminate, LVP, or vinyl and a steam mop.

I know. It's bizarre.
Surely a floor is there for you, you're not there for the floor.

sprigatito · 21/12/2025 21:09

Whereisthesun99 · 21/12/2025 19:14

We are shoes off house (as our all our family) I find it very rude people who don’t ask if they need to remove there shoes and then walk around my clean home with their dirty outside shoes ! I have had one person trample mud all over my carpets! When I was childminding this was one of my rules no shoes on in house, when Prospective families came around, those that kept there shoes on and did not ask if they should remove them were never offer a childcare space as I saw it as total disrespect of me and my home.

In fairness I wouldn’t choose someone obsessed with clean carpets to care for my young child either. I would be looking for someone able to unclench and let the children play normally, which for a healthy toddler sometimes includes making a mess. So with respect, it’s probably a lucky escape for both parties.

LizzieSiddal · 21/12/2025 21:04

beebee25 · 21/12/2025 18:58

I have a friend who makes us take shoes off...I hate it.. my feet are always freezing

Take some warm socks or slippers with you next time you visit!

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JHound · 21/12/2025 18:20

No.

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Suit yourself. Just trying to help but never mind.

XWKD · 21/12/2025 19:55

chipsewfast · 21/12/2025 14:58

It's really rude for guests to assume they can walk in with shoes on

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No it's not. It's incredibly rude to ask them to take their shoes off. At least tell them in advance so they can stay away.

Twodogsonthecouch · 21/12/2025 19:44

TimePutASpellOnYou · 21/12/2025 19:33

The hall? This is mumsnet. Do you not have a large boot room? 😉

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You’re right, I’ll bow my head in shame and leave now 😳😉

FrightfulNightfull · 21/12/2025 19:43

What do you do (shoes off people) do about crutches or wheelchairs?

TimePutASpellOnYou · 21/12/2025 19:33

Twodogsonthecouch · 21/12/2025 18:53

I have 32 people coming to my house on Christmas Eve for a fork supper and mulled wine…I cannot imagine 32 pairs of shoes in the hall and 32 barefoot people in my house

The hall? This is mumsnet. Do you not have a large boot room? 😉

DollarsSign · 21/12/2025 19:26

Twodogsonthecouch · 21/12/2025 18:53

I have 32 people coming to my house on Christmas Eve for a fork supper and mulled wine…I cannot imagine 32 pairs of shoes in the hall and 32 barefoot people in my house

People usually wear socks in winter under their shoes? Wouldn’t be barefoot

Whereisthesun99 · 21/12/2025 19:14

We are shoes off house (as our all our family) I find it very rude people who don’t ask if they need to remove there shoes and then walk around my clean home with their dirty outside shoes ! I have had one person trample mud all over my carpets! When I was childminding this was one of my rules no shoes on in house, when Prospective families came around, those that kept there shoes on and did not ask if they should remove them were never offer a childcare space as I saw it as total disrespect of me and my home.

katseyes7 · 21/12/2025 19:14

I have laminate flooring downstairs (rented house). My floors are FREEZING (besides the bit under the big rug).
I don't expect people to take their shoes off.
But when l go to someone's house where they have carpet l take my shoes/boots off at the door.

suburberphobe · 21/12/2025 19:13

OP, you need a hobby.

I'm not taking my shoes off when visiting someone unless they provide - clean! - slippers.

Newyearawaits · 21/12/2025 19:13

ilovepixie · 21/12/2025 14:31

Just don’t step in dog poo! Simple!

There is dried dog poo that is hard to see and left over bits of poo after someone has scooped it up. Sorry if that is Tmi

Namesss · 21/12/2025 19:10

ilovepixie · 21/12/2025 16:17

Babies dribbling on the floor
pets bums on the floor
food crumbs on floor
foot sweat on the floor
dead skin and toenails on the floor.

I don’t want to walk on that with my bare feet!
You’re floors aren’t as clean as you think!

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Your shoes aren't as clean as you think.

People should really do some research about the toxins they bring into their homes when wearing shoes inside, they'd then know babies dribbling should be least of their worries.

Cosyblankets · 21/12/2025 19:06

spirit20 · 21/12/2025 18:46

If you're going to expect people to have their shoes off, then I think you need to have spare slippers to borrow. Nothing worse than hosts who will wear slippers themselves but expect their guests to wear their socks.

I'm not wearing someone else's slippers

Noodge · 21/12/2025 19:05

Doesn't bother me at all if folk don't take their shoes off. But I am not houseproud and if any mess gets in the house, it cleans up.
I wouldn't be happy if someone trampled a load of mud in without a care of course, but normal shoes that aren't especially dirty is fine.
Having said that, I do ask others if I should take off my shoes when I visit their house, unless I am aware that they're definitely not a 'shoes off' house.

Cosyblankets · 21/12/2025 19:05

Dustybuns · 21/12/2025 16:02

For the people who are shoes on - so you just lounge around your own house with your shoes on? Do you put shoes on first thing in the morning? I don’t know anyone who keeps shoes on in the house it just seems so not comfortable to me. I’m just imagining mumsnetters standing cooking in their kitchens with their shoes on 😂

If I'm out with the dog the shoes obviously come off at the door
If I'm staying in then the slippers are on
If I'm in and out in the car the shoes stay on until I'm not going out again.
If we have a visitor who asks i say it's up to you
If a visitor leaves their shoes on that's absolutely fine. No one is going to die and the chances are they've only gone from door to car to door anyway

beebee25 · 21/12/2025 18:58

I have a friend who makes us take shoes off...I hate it.. my feet are always freezing

Hotchocolateandmarshmellow · 21/12/2025 18:57

It’s a bit like marmite. You are either a shoes on or off house and like to follow to the same rules where you visit.

However if you visit another house of the opposite rules you have to follow them and be prepared. Doesn’t matter if you agree or not it’s that’s persons house.

MagicStarrz · 21/12/2025 18:54

Yes I think people should at least ask not offer to remove shoes

Twodogsonthecouch · 21/12/2025 18:53

I have 32 people coming to my house on Christmas Eve for a fork supper and mulled wine…I cannot imagine 32 pairs of shoes in the hall and 32 barefoot people in my house

Thepeopleversuswork · 21/12/2025 18:53

It’s down to the individual household. I don’t care either way: I’m not offended if asked to take shoes off and will happily comply but nor do I think shoes on households are unhygienic. It’s more to do with respect. If you visit someone’s home you respect their customs.

Hygiene is an irrelevance really: you are just as likely to pick up germs from someone’s carpet as from the pavement.

spirit20 · 21/12/2025 18:46

If you're going to expect people to have their shoes off, then I think you need to have spare slippers to borrow. Nothing worse than hosts who will wear slippers themselves but expect their guests to wear their socks.