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To think that some women care more about their careers than their families and that this isn’t always a good thing?

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ThatRedBeaker · 21/12/2025 14:14

Not trying to start a war but I’ve noticed a growing trend where some women (not all!) seem to put their career above everything, including their partner or kids. Obviously, everyone has the right to pursue success but I do wonder if there’s a point where it becomes too much. Like… is it unreasonable to think that some people might be prioritising the wrong things?

Genuinely curious what others think.

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GooseyGandalf · 21/12/2025 14:21

I can’t think of a single person I know who does. Most women are juggling, and feel enormous pressure and guilt, but have bills to pay. Having a career IS how they care for their families

NotMySkill · 21/12/2025 14:21

No, I have not seen a growing trend for women to prioritise their career over their children. I have seen more women being clued up about their rights and understanding of the need for financial independence in case they split from their partner in the future. There does seem to be a trend for women to try and plan for a stable future for themselves and their children. Is that what you mean?

WhereAreWeNow · 21/12/2025 14:21

Is it equally concerning when men prioritise their careers?

Catza · 21/12/2025 14:20

Would you still feel the same way if you replace a "woman" on your statement with a "man". If no, that's your answer.

MagneticSquirrel · 21/12/2025 14:19

@ThatRedBeaker why is prioritising their career the “wrong thing”? And as other posters are asking is it wrong, in your opinion, for men to prioritise their career too?

LeonMccogh · 21/12/2025 14:19

So get offline and back in the kitchen then 🙄

MrsPatrickDempsey · 21/12/2025 14:18

There has to be more behind this OP as it’s such a general statement that I can’t agree with it.

Comedycook · 21/12/2025 14:18

I don't know any women who are like this. I know women with successful careers, but I don't see them putting them above their families. They're usually doing their best to juggle everything

xoxogosssipgirl · 21/12/2025 14:18

Squirrelblanket · 21/12/2025 14:16

It doesn't effect you so what difference does it make what other people choose to prioritise?

Does it not affect society though? I think it probably does.

CherryBlossom321 · 21/12/2025 14:17

I think far more men do this than women.

JudgeBread · 21/12/2025 14:17

Men are allowed to do it without other men making posts on the internet bitching about it.

Wonder why that is.

ValenciaOrange · 21/12/2025 14:17

Do you worry some men do this too OP or is it just women that concern you?

Squirrelblanket · 21/12/2025 14:16

It doesn't effect you so what difference does it make what other people choose to prioritise?