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Cold teenage boys

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Franpie · 21/12/2025 12:36

AIBU to expect my DS14 to wear a coat?

I don’t think I am, it’s bloody freezing but he simply refuses. He says coats are not cool and no one wears one.

Every day he goes out in just a hoodie with his friends and comes home cold to the bone.

He sometimes calls me to pick him up after he’s left his friends because he’s too cold to walk home.

I’ve begged him to choose any coat from any shop that he’d be willing to wear (after him deciding that his Uniqlo puffer from last year is soooo uncool) but he is refusing.

Does anyone else have this with their teenage DS? What do I do? Any suggestions of coats that your teenage DS likes? We are going away for Christmas and it will be cold! Not to mention skiing in February which I’m now dreading if he refuses to wear anything other than a hoodie!

I know people will just say let him crack on and he’ll learn, but I don’t want him moaning whilst we’re away that he doesn’t want to walk around and site seeing because he’s cold. It’s also hard to watch your child turning blue!

OP posts:
tostaky · 21/12/2025 12:53

Three DCs, only one wears a coat…. 😭
this too shall pass!!

Ginisatonic · 21/12/2025 12:50

One of my DC refused to wear a coat to school. She would wear thermals though.

GKG1 · 21/12/2025 12:47

Kids can be so stupid!!! Clear evidence that the brain is still developing. I remember going out at night aged 16/17 in skimpy dresses and no coat. There’s no way I was going to listen to my mum. I did just need to learn for myself. I’m interested in the motivation for him though - are jackets not cool? Do his friends wear them? Did he show any reflection after you had to pick him up for being cold? That seems a good place to influence him a bit more.

Iwilldoitnowinaminutemam · 21/12/2025 12:43

My DS who is 15 has a north face puffer that he will wear. We also have compromised on days he doesn't want to wear it with a north face gilet over a hoody. It is surprisingly warm

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