To be annoyed about the guy who took his top off in a roomful of women?

That’ll be it! 🤦‍♀️

It was funny, though.

My daughter played in an orchestra, ok, 20 years ago, they got changed together, girls would go to one side. Nobody batted an eyelid.
I play a sport, both sexes. Often if loos are busy, one or 2, male or female will quickly change in the corner. Particularly if they are heading off to work after training. Not about power play but practicality and knowing each other really well.

If he then put a different top on then he was just changing his top. He doesn't have to do it at your preferred tempo.

You are being ridiculous. A man taking his top off is hardly 'low level shitty behaviour'. I've heard it all now. No-one I know would turn a hair, we are quite used to seeing men with no tops on where I live.

What a stupid comparison. People are scantily clad on beaches and at swimming pools. Standing half naked in a room full of fully dressed people is unnecessary. If he were just changing his top, a quick old top off / new top on was all that was necessary. Anything more is just exhibitionism. I wouldn’t be offended but I would think ‘what an absolute dick’.

Of course he would e done it in an all male choir, have you been in a men’s changing room after a football or rugby match? They’re not concerned with nakedness.

Maybe they were in a round room and he was told to stand in the corner?

I hear you @naturenaturenature

Don’t complain, because you’ll sound ridiculous, but I know exactly what you’re talking about. Men like this know what they’re doing, and just hover under the radar in terms of their behaviour but it’s low level boundary testing.

If you complain, you’ll end up being seen as a pearl clutcher or something. And that gives these men more power. You’ve seen him, and you’re vigilant. Do you think he’s more than an annoyance?

You could call him out on the spot but sometimes men like this thrive on a bit of mockery so you can be unwittingly colluding in their grubbiness.

Oh course they do, but we all know the difference between a topless man and a topless woman.

I get you, OP. It's cringey and subtly boundary pushing. Discreetly changing his top on a corner of the room would probably have been fine, but standing around topless for ages is weird - I bet he wouldn't have done it in an all-male choir.
Comparing it to the beach or to a changing room environment is disingenuous IMO - it's about context. Toplessness (male or female) is socially acceptable on the beach or in a single-sex changing room, but in the supermarket or on the school run (or in a room full of women after choir practice) it's weird and performative, especially in December.
I wouldn't complain, but I'd roll my eyes and lose a bit of respect for him.

In the corner in the middle of the room!

Well I agree with you entirely OP, I’d be uncomfortable and annoyed. He should have done whatever any of the women would have had to do had they needed to be fully topless ie bugger off and do it where no one can see you. My choir is women only and it’s genuinely blissful.

Do women not get hot? Do they have some kind of internal fan?

As I said previously OP is
the story!

How is the corner of the room also the middle of the room? I used to be in a choir, it was quite common for changing together to happen, everyone had underwear on so you can’t see anything that you wouldn’t see at a swimming pool.

Probably. Men are weird like this.

*piss

Taking the puss or being light hearted!

Come on!

In your OP, you said he was in the corner. Now you've posted he was in the middle of the room.

Im not sure how you feel it's dominance but I'm sure you'll have some elaborate way of twisting that too.

You sound rather unpleasant trying to twist a bare chested man into a dominating monster.

Happy to see topless men at beaches though... very bizarre

Exactly this!! If you’re looking for things to be offended about, find something real before posting in AIBU.

In this situation I wouldn't have been bothered about a woman changing her top either, assuming a bra underneath (which a lot of women are happy to do).

Because there are different social norms. However at the gym I do see women in what would appear to be just a sports bra & I’ve yet to see a topless man. Maybe there is just different scenarios to when it accepted. I think a man changing his top isn’t odd to do in front of people after a concert & he’s wearing something he that’s more of a uniform. I wouldn’t complain if a lady did it either id be impressed with her confidence because that’s all that holds us back on doing such things. I change in a cubicle of a female dressing room if I can not for decency but because I wouldn’t expose anyone to the horror of my body if I can help it