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Christmas burnout

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tiredofchristmas · 20/12/2025 22:36

I’m sorry but I really hate this time of year. It doesn’t help that I have 2 young kids who are up all night (4-5 times usually) and work full time in a stressful job, but my goodness I hate this time of year. The constant battle to think of meaningful Christmas presents for relatives you don’t particularly know well but have expectations of the perfect present. The endless shopping, the money dripping away, the social expectations (off no sleep and long hours at work), the to do list 10 x longer than normal, the relatives emotionally blackmailing you into contorting yourself into doing things (visiting people mainly) when you have no time and no energy, feeling pressured into eating and drinking unhealthily and your kids being fed non-stop junk, trying to stop your kids pulling the tree down on themselves. I’m so tired I can’t talk. I’m getting more and more depressed by the day.

Christmas is supposed to be a Christian festival to celebrate the coming of God’s son. Can we go back to that please? I can do a carol concert and maybe cook a roast, eat some mince pies and spend more time with my husband and kids. The rest is beyond me.

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mondaytosunday · 20/12/2025 22:44

So stop. Tell your relatives you are no longer giving presents to adults and don’t expect presents either. Say no to any parties you have no desire to go to. Say no to visiting if it’s not convenient. Sure a few will be pissed off but so what? If you don’t care for these people why do you care what they think? They’ll have to accept it and a few more people may take the opportunity to do the same!
And no one is forcing you to eat - stop being ‘polite’ and make a stand! It may be awkward the first year but next year expectations will be tempered and the following year hopefully they won’t bother asking you. Result.

cestlavielife · 20/12/2025 22:43

Just tell relatives you doing your own family christmas
Eat a mince pie
You are in control of what you choose to do here

GalaxyJam · 20/12/2025 22:40

The thing is, you can do whatever bits of christmas that you choose to do. No one is forcing you to eat and drink unhealthily, or feed your kids junk, or visit everyone under the sun, or go to social events that you don’t want to go to. You can do a Carol concert and mince pies if that’s what you’d like to do.
I’m not religious in any way so Christmas is a mid winter festival for us, but we pick and choose the bits we actually want to do.

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