Not to have known his true age before sleeping together?

Actually you can work full time.
But anyway.... it's not relevant.
If he did 6th Form/college he would have finished last summer.
Also who said the OP is in England.

At 18 I had a boyfriend of 27. I ended it not because of his age, but because he was a knobhead

Legally ok, I suppose, morally repugnant - yes!

Nobody checks though.

Exactly. It may be 'legal' for a 40 year old to shag someone of 16-17, but it's still gross.

And as has been said, the answers would be quite different if the 40 year old had been a man, and the 16-17 year old a GIRL.

Don't even pretend the responses would be the same. Just don't!

If the answer IS 'well that would be OK too!' then I pray anyone thinking that does not have daughters.

This. ^ Some bizarre posts on here! The one where the poster said her ex shagged his mate's mum ... when he was like 16... WTF? Honestly, I think that's enough internet for me for a few hours!

Er, in England the law requires the following: "must be participating in education, training, or work with training until you turn 18". So you can't just work full time, this is why I referenced the Customer Service course. Either way rebuffing my point with your deflective bilge, doesn't make it any less gross.

Education or training ,so he may have started an apprenticeship at 16 and be working full time
But tbh no one really checks my son ,s friend has dropped out of two college courses, at 16 and 17 and nobody checked what he was doing.

Education is mandatory until 18 isn't it? This guy was 18 in April so he'd have left in the summer. He could be at university though

@Goldenbear 17 year olds are not actually required to be in "education" at all.
Even so if his 19th birthday is next April he would have finished sixth form/college last June.

Some young men look like boys and some like 30 year old men. Particularly weathered rugby, farmer types.

It's very kind of you to share your repressive views on sexuality and relationships.

I was respondinng to the comment about 17 year olds being over the age of consent and I wasn't being literal, it was a sarcastic remark highlighting the fact that is the age of sixth formers. You have to be in education of some kind until 18 so at 17 it will be college for kids of some kind even with a customer service course or some such thing, the point is - gross, a child!

Yes, in the OP's case he could be in the sixth form.

28 is close/around 30 it is late 20s and way too old for an 18 year old lad!

All these people saying OP should have asked his age. If he wanted to have sex with her he would probably have lied anyway.🙄

Totally nothing wrong here. He is an adult, as are you. If you both consented, there’s nothing wrong, the age doesn’t matter. I was 33-ish when I slept with a 22 year old. He thought I was about 25 and I didn’t correct him, I was not looking for a relationship and neither was he. We had fun and that was it. Don’t worry about it!

Exactly.
He could have a full time job.
He could even be working in the pub/club I assume the OP met him in.

Why?
He still would have been over the age of consent.

What’s done is done. I wouldn’t feel bad if he was just as keen to participate as you were. Hope you both had a great night.

I’m your age but I always prefer older men. I’m not attracted to younger ones but will acknowledge there are many handsome ones.

I wouldn’t sweat. I dated men in their late twenties at 18 and it had no ill lasting effects.

Its not around 30 its two years off 30 .

Why would you assume hes a sixth former ?
He's 19 in April for a start
And not everyone goes to sixth form.

28 is nearly 30, it is 'around 30', it is certainly not 18 that's for sure - just saddo thing to do, whether man or woman

But ,he wasent ,and even a year younger he would be over the age of consent ,nobodies going to prison for consensual sex

The Op doesn't though ,it was a one night stand and she's finding g the age gap icky anyway.

@Zov yes many people are immature til 25 but many are not, and it's obviously deemed that the majority reach adult maturity at 18 otherwise that would not be the acceptable age of adulthood. There are many people in their 20s, 30s 40s and beyond who are emotionally immature, people who don't leave bad relationships because of insecurity, people who are addicted to gambling, substances, gaming etc. Many many adults are not of adult maturity and God knows we'd all be better off if some couldn't vote, but we can't have a society that doesn't allow adults make decisions, that is literally the opposite of a liberal society.

I can only speak subjectively but at 18 / 19 I was 100% in control of my decisions and was not easily swayed. I found men (and often women) my age incredibly immature and preferred older company. I had a relationship with a 26 yr old man when i was 18 but ended it because he was emotionally needy, i was very much the stronger person in the relationship.

What I don't like is the idea that young women are too stupid to take responsibility for their actions but young men are expected to do so. It's a double standard and a sexist one. It demeans women. It's a new narrative that is different from a few years ago when it was generally accepted that women mature faster than men.