Not to have known his true age before sleeping together?

Yes, could not give a toss what consenting adults do

Honestly I think a lot of the discomfort here is women who have sons that age.

Yep typical mumsnet.

Oh come on, it's a non thread. Anyone who thinks their opinion over who is sleeping with whom has any influence on anyone is being really odd.
Personally I don't care who does what providing they are over the age of consent, are freely able to consent, and that it's legal.
Sex is a part of life. People do what they want. Get over it.

What an icky answer, what because 27 year olds don’t have it?

utterly creepy.

Very curious thread, a recent thread on here had a 33 year old ex sleeping with a younger woman in this range, can’t recall she was 21 I think and people were calling him a paedo, when he had said he also didn’t know.

Staying power?

At the end of the day if a 28 yo man has a ONS with a woman who says they were 18+ but turns out to be 15 then they could be in trouble. It isnt enough to say they told me that they were 18. If you want to protect yourself then you would want to be 100% certain. If that means not sleeping with someone you dont know, or getting some sort of proof then so be it. Not saying its ok that people lie but that's not a legal defence if it's one word against another.

Obviously the OPs situation is different as the person was legally an adult so all works out well!

People saying check-what are you supposed to do-ask for ID!!!! I am sure he is thrilled with the situation! Don't sweat it.

18 year old man.
Not a "schoolboy".

Depends.
If the OP had hung around the gates of the local school chatting up the 18 year olds she likes the look of then that's not good and very ewww.
If she met an 18 year old (who happens to still be in 6th Form/college) at a pub/bar/club then it is different because she wouldn't automatically think "school boy".

No, we’ve been through this. Not school aged. First year uni age. An adult. A young one, but very much not a child.

Also, “a mature woman” - she’s in her 20s. A mature woman makes her sound like she’s middle aged.

That vague "education or training" rule only applies in England.
It's so vague that it's perfectly fine for a 17 year old to be in a full time job.
17 doesn't mean "school boy".

Ultimately hes not schoolboy age HTH.

Ultimately it's a mature woman bringing a schoolboy age kid she's never met before back to a hotel room for a shag.

Grim behaviour.

The 18 year old in question is 19 in April so should have left school / college last June assuming they even were in a school sixth form or college snd not doing an apprenticeship.

Actually I don't see the problem particularly as I can't see how any harm would be caused.

An 18 year old could easily still be at school if they have an early birthday. My DN is in their first year of sixth form - the pay had their 17th birthday in September this year. They will be 18 in September next year. They will remain 18 until the end of the school year. Still ok for a 28 year old to shag them?

When I was 18 I happily slept with the very cool goth club owner I was friendly with, who must have been early thirties minimum.
So what if my brain was still allegedly developing? I was legally an adult and years into sexual maturity.

The only thing that could possibly have harmed me would have been someone forcing me, and that remains true decades later.

Well I live in England, I am referencing my own experience on the legal requirements.

ONS doesn't make it better.

The UK consists of more than just London and England
And wether you like it or not he's 18,legally hes an adult
I can't see what an 18 year old and 28 year old would have in common
But its a one night stand they are not getting married.

Oh my god, this is so exasperated I was responding to the pervie comments about 17 year olds from another poster not the OP!

Did you read my reply - evidently not, my sixth form comment was a tool to highlight the level of maturity we are discussing and it was also in response to someone suggesting 17 would be ok as over the age of consent. The OP's encounter may/may not be in sixth form who knows still gross as he's 18!!

You are wrong about the full-time employment as legally you are required to do what I listed. It is irrelevant that this might not happen or there are 17 year olds that do nothing with their lives, it is fact and the law. I am not sure of the wider laws in the UK, I assumed UK as this is a London based forum so it's not exactly left field to think we are discussing the UK.

@Goldenbear- she said the young man is 18 about to turn 19 so he’s first year uni age, he’d only still be in 6th form if he’s repeated a year.

OP I can see why you were upset, while he’s an adult, there’s a big difference between someone who’s only just an adult at 18 and someone who’s still younger than you, but in their 20s. While some 18 year olds are very mature, your upset is understandable. The good news is everyone involved was a consenting adult, so your age assessment is off but not that bad.

Yes, I agree about the different sexes.