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Not to have known his true age before sleeping together?

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Lockingthegins · 20/12/2025 22:03

He’s bloody 18! Not 19 until April

Casual conversation and flirting lead to hotel room and sex.

Really mortified to discover he is actually 18. No, he didn’t actually tell me. I assumed he was about 21. I am 28.

I feel so, so awful. Really panicked when I found out the morning after. He doesn’t seem bothered and thinks it’s all fine. Grinning like a Cheshire ca

Good lord, I haven’t scarred him for life, have I? Please someone assure me I’m not sick in the head

I would be furious if I was his mum!

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DeathStare · 20/12/2025 22:14

Well you lucked out didn't you? He could just as easily have been 17. Next time check.

TeaRoseTallulah · 20/12/2025 22:12

Even if he was 19 I think 28 is too old even if it is legal.

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Lockingthegins · 20/12/2025 22:12

NormasArse · 20/12/2025 22:12

It’s not illegal!

Did you enjoy it before you found out?

Yes I did. But now I feel so much remorse and shame

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NormasArse · 20/12/2025 22:12

It’s not illegal!

Did you enjoy it before you found out?

Missj25 · 20/12/2025 22:10

Ratioed · 20/12/2025 22:05

Ick.

Why didn’t you ask? And look for proof?

What age are you?

Edited

She does said she is 28 🙄

Chickenhorse · 20/12/2025 22:09

Little bugger, but slightly funny. A 21 year old is better but not much. You will be his older one story for ever.

Gunpowder · 20/12/2025 22:08

He’s 18. He’s not a child! It sounds like he’s thrilled. You aren’t his teacher. Unless there’s a massive backstory about how you coerced him, you haven’t done anything wrong.

oviraptor21 · 20/12/2025 22:08

You weren't to know. And it's not illegal anyway. Even if you had asked him, he might have lied.
Nothing to worry about. You did nothing wrong.

tartyflette · 20/12/2025 22:07

Well, he is already an adult, so...
And his Mum is not your problem. I doubt very much that he's going to tell her.

Lamentingalways · 20/12/2025 22:07

He’s an adult don’t beat yourself up. Probably best to check in future though.

Eyesopenwideawake · 20/12/2025 22:06

Don't sweat it. You'll be a happy memory until his dying day.

Hope it was equally good for you.

Ratioed · 20/12/2025 22:05

Ick.

Why didn’t you ask? And look for proof?

What age are you?