Not to have known his true age before sleeping together?

What do you ask for? He probably doesn't have a driving license. GCSE certificates 😅 as if we go round asking potential partners for ID.

Why exactly??

I'll ask President Macron.

Oh I wouldn’t worry. To me at 28 you’re practically a baby yourself at that age. Just have some fun!

Look for proof....?

'HI, I know it seems a little crazy, but ... I always like to check the drivers license of the person I'm about to sleep with..?

'Birth Certificate?'

None of those? Hmmm...(Thinks) 'How much time would you say you spent on TikTok? Have you ever voted? What memories of the London Olympics do you have?

I mean come on....

OP You've done nothing wrong, and that guy will remember you forever...in a good way...
😀

Mine will be.

I never understand the feelings of disgust this type of thing elicits from some, especially when it's age difference of 10 years or less. Whether the older party is male or female, if it's within legal limits and both consent (and neither are cheating), I simply can't care that much. If you're honestly bothered, ask for ID next time.

So they both lied about their age.Hmm that’s convenient for him, it’s not a lifelong happy memory for him now, well maybe he shouldn’t have lied then, clearly he suspected, she was much older than him if she was indeed 40.

What are you expecting the responses to be, whether you agree, or not, he’s an adult.
To clarify there’s a 10 year age gap, as l’m sure you already know, there are plenty of older men, who have sex, with much younger women, young enough to be their daughters actually, so therefore, why would there be judgment here🙄

I can't imagine finding an 18 yo man attractive at 28, I didnt even find them attractive when I was 16/17 and wpuld have gone for 28+ yo old at that age. Obviously legally nothing wrong but any MN thread about the other way round has very different answers.

It was obvious what your post meant about being U18 in clubs. I have done much the same.

I personally know 2 people convicted, one was fairly high profile, they had a relationship with a 15 yo, she had lied abiut age but he continued things once he knew (consensual but her parents decided they didnt like it when he ended things) and the other person met her in a pub (ons) and her parents reported him when they found out, this was over 50 years ago, he was only 19 but it was on his record and I knew of it due to his police checks for work.

I thought of that storyline immediately I started reading OP's post! It is very similar!

Maybe so but the op didn't know he was only eighteen, thought he was older. There's no need to make her feel worse than she already does. She isn't a child molester and isn't going to do it again.

I’m a mum of an 18 yr old, I would just think , hey ho , off you go. Please don’t worry about it

One of my sons was 'picked up' in a club at 18yo. I think he rounded up and she rounded down, but next morning she had an attack of the guilts and admitted she was 40 and married with children.

I can assure you it is not a lifelong happy memory for him!

I was extremely unimpressed with both of them but especially her. He'd been in school uniform a few hours earlier!

Georgie was 17 though which i think was under the age of consent for Texas. But they got married etc

I mean it would be weird to pick up a teenage boy dressed in his uniform at say Tescos. Or outside a school.

but a young man dressed up at your usual town nightclub (assuming it’s not student night but even then they are all legal) wouldn’t strike me as someone I needed to demand prove of age from.

Well, here's a big ick for you. I married my DH when he was 21 and I was 31.

Honestly, some of you are just ridiculously prudish.

But eighteen and a half isn’t really very far off "about 21", is it?

I doubt he's scarred for life but it is weird for 28 year olds to sleep with teenagers. Even if he was 19 it would still be weird. He's of the age of consent so you aren't in legal difficulty, but don't teens seem very young to you? When I was 28, sex with a 19 (or actually 18) year old would have felt predatory and deeply unappealing.

It would still have been legal 🤷‍♀️

18 is OK. He's an adult.

But this trope of teenage boys (not adults) wanting an older woman isn't always true. Rod Stewart was seduced by a much older woman when he was 16, and the resulting song - Maggie May - makes it clear that this was not a positive experience.

Only after I and others pointed out that her story didnt line up. Then she claimed to work with sex offenders. Originally she implied that she knew "loads" of men who had been sent down through her own sex life as an underage teen.

I don't think its a big deal OP and I don't understand why people get so bothered about age gaps, whichever way it goes. What really annoys me is the constant assumption young women are too stupid to know their own minds and make their own decisions. The laws are there to protect vulnerable teens from predators. Most women are not vulnerable and are well able to manage themselves, yet we constantly undermine them.

She said she works in the prison service and has met them through her professional role