Neighbours using me as a parcel drop off!

You are definitely not being unreasonable. Things are so much easier now to get deliveries. I have mine delivered to work, but have had them delivered to lockers.

My 15 year old, at the time, accepted a parcel for a neighbour. It was massive double bed. When the neighbours got home, they said they’d tried to cancel the order so didn’t want it. The thing sat outside our house for a week!

Remember, no good deed goes unpunished.

No doubt he’ll get shitty with you now you’ve had enough.

get a parcel box and put a sign on it stating parcels addressed to this house please drop in the box. Any parcels addressed to any other house will be returned to sender.
I guarantee that will stop the parcels.

You've got more than enough reason to put a stop to this due to your additional difficulties having to keep answering the door. But I put a stop to this as well - I am fit and active, my husband isn't, I work outside the home 3 days a week and another day sometimes more from home. I put a stop to my neighbour doing this for several reasons. One, my neighbour doesn't work and isn't physically disabled just out all the time...and was using us as a depot! My husband kept accepting parcels even though he has difficulties getting to the door. Then after a long day at work or trying to rest on a weekend was either getting doorbell rung on a weekend morning when I was trying to grab some sleep (am husband's carer too so this was no joke, I'm always tired) or neighbour of an evening to pick up his parcels when I was trying to get a meal done! Last straw was when I was working from home one day 3 parcels in one day. Work from home is just that, am working and often on phone. I stopped my husband accepting them anymore, I put a sign on the door- we only accept parcels for our own names and address. Do not ask us to take in parcels for others. Please do not ring the bell otherwise. Disabled resident and other WFH. I got really angry towards the end of it. People order stuff now knowing they will likely not be in to accept it, thinking someone else will. Its beyond cheeky, and it's entitled and inconsiderate. In our case even more so, juggling my work and caring is hard enough, my single neighbour has none of these challenges, is just never in. I told him no more. You order something, be in for the delivery. It won't get accepted by us.

My next door neighbour is disabled and can hardly walk. I wouldn’t dream of putting their house number for a parcel drop off. She did offer but I said no because I have a lot of parcels at this time of the year.

Did you take this parcel in or refuse?

Please take the sign off your door advertising your disability. That's inviting criminals.
Definitely get a camera doorbell. And absolutely tell your cf neighbour you cannot accept their parcels as it has become too much.

your neighbour should have asked you and they probably don’t understand the impact they are having on you. Leave a note on your door (as suggested by others) and explain to your neighbour the situation. Even if they were thoughtless it’s worth maintaining neighbourly relations.

I feel your pain OP. I too have mobility issues and live alone. Its not just being disturbed to accept the unwanted parcel. Its the the stress of waiting for the intended recipient to come and collect it at their convenience, never yours. And there are some people who never come to collect their parcels. They expect you to deliver them. Yeah, right.

Ring doorbells can be made to open on a variety of devices - phones. tablets, computer monitors and (if you have Alexa) smart TVs. So you can monitor who is at the door. If some courier asks you to take in a parcel and its not yours just say "Im on the app and away from home. Sorry your breaking up ..." and hang up. Another good ploy is to tell them (courier) that you are going to be away from home for a few days. That will prompt them to try elsewhere.

My doorbellc amera has software which enables me to respond in different voices _ my own, a robot voice or a deep male voice. When Im not expecting anyone deep male throat usually answers.

"I have a large pre-printed sign on my front door saying that I am disabled and so no cold callers etc."

Change this notice to include 'Parcels not for this address will NOT be accepted'.

Inform your neighbour you won't be taking in any more of his parcels. Do not be polite when you do so!

Definitely get a video doorbell (Ring, Blink etc) so you can speak to people at the door. Handy even if it’s just to say you’re on your way! But if the delivery was for someone else you can just say no without the hassle of getting up.

You ask about vandalism. They’re becoming so commonplace I’ve not heard of people stealing or damaging other people’s door cams. Also not smart to do when they’d be filmed doing it haha

1. Tell the neighbour you won't be taking in any more parcels
2. Put a note on the door saying you won't accept parcels for any other addresses
3. You must know approximately when your Amazon parcels are going to arrive because they send notifications on the phone "Out for delivery" etc. So if you aren't expecting one, don't answer the door. Tell friends and relatives to ring the bell in a certain pattern so you know it's them.

I had a problem a while back as I WFH for most of the week and couriers started bringing stuff to me all the time for all the neighbours in the block (even when I could hear that the neighbours were in). It only took a few days of ignoring the doorbell for all of that to stop.

I agree with this 👆
I would post a note through his letterbox saying, "Please stop sending parcels to my house, as its too much for me now to keep answering the door. Please send them to a parcel shop instead, if you're not going to be in."

Big sign centrally on the door stating that you only accept parcels for this address.
Definitely look into Ring doorbells. I absolutely love mine. Would be really helpful for you anyway with your mobility issues as you can talk to the person on the doorstep before committing to getting your walker.

Yanbu to just tell him that it's too much for you to keep answering the door for his parcels. He shouldn't need to be told, but some people have no sense.

I am fit and well but still getting annoyed with a neighbour doing the same to me. If there's a lot of parcels, it's really disputing.

Ring cameras are really good. It can be safety screwed in, so shouldn't be vandalised. And it would save you a lot of journeys to your door.

Big sign on the door. “I don’t take parcels for neighbours, please don’t knock”

Suggest to your neighbour they get their parcels delivered to the nearest parcel locker or shop. They can then pick them up at their leisure. I do this if I’m not sure I will be home.

Do as I do in your position. I have a ring door bell. I tell the courier to leave the parcel in my porch.

The parcel is covered and not visible. Then I text my neighbour and tell them where their parcel is.

I don't have to leave my chair, and I don't have any responsibility. Job done.

OP, this might be useful for you in more ways than just these cheeky neighbours deliveries.

Totally cheeky and rude. A neighbour up the street also put me down as accepting their parcels, all because my son, who doesn’t live here, once did. It was a big box and they took days to collect it - turned out they don’t actually live in the house. So twice since big boxes have been attempted to be delivered and I’ve refused - that’s when I found out they had put me down as an alternative. After the second refusal either the courier changed it or they did as I’ve never been bothered again.

I would stop answering the door and then you won't be able to take them in.
I don't specify a neighbour on mine, but I have in the past put 'leave with any neighbour' in the hope that they'll keep trying until they find someone at home.
However, now I usually use the local co op as a pick up point instead, it's much easier. Maybe suggest to your neighbour that he does something like that, if you have a nearby collect point.