Neighbours using me as a parcel drop off!

We take them in for neighbours but we are young with no physical disabilities, I don't blame you for not wanting to if its a lot of effort to get to the door

My neighbour has it set on their Amazon settings that they should knock at my house. It grinds my gears. The neighbours also don’t come and knock to pick up the parcels. I principle I now just leave the parcel in my hall, and wait for them
to come rather than me looking for when they are in and taking it round. I had a parcel for a week a while ago before they knocked.

People don’t vandalise or even look at Ring doorbells because they’re so ubiquitous nowadays. I’d definitely get one, that way you can tell the courier through the doorbell that you won’t be taking parcels in. Put a note on the door in the interim too. He’s an absolute chancer.

That’s so cheeky of your neighbour! They should’ve asked you.
Mine did the same - I’m a new mother on maternity leave and hubby WFH. Neighbours kids were ADDRESSING their parcels to be delivered to my door not theirs! Their mother had the cheek to ask, “don’t you work from home?” when I refused their parcels as it doorbell kept waking my baby up.

This was happening with my Amazon parcels. Neighbour was fed up of parcels getting dropped off even though I never said to leave them with her. I have a safe place they can be left at. But if they hadn’t been left with neighbour I was finding them behind a bin or in recycling bin. I managed to reset my safe space. The safe space is an enclosed side entrance that doesn’t need a key. It’s pretty much next to our front door so hard to miss. But you have to confirm every so often they can be left in there. If i don’t confirm they can’t open the door and leave parcels in there.

Yeah I had a similar issue with a neighbor, so I bought a do not disturb sign for my front door and hang it when I don't want to be disturbed. They too had put me down as delivery person 😒
I don't mind the occasional packes but when it becomes a weekly or daily occurrence it takes the mick.
You can get this sticker from Amazon. I'd buy it and get it on the door pronto.

Insist he comes in for a cup of tea every time he pops round to collect a parcel, and have a few favours lined up for him to do for you while he's there. Be extremely insistent. They'll soon stop.

There is taking in the odd parcel for your neighbours and there is turning your house into a post office holding depot.

One is being kind and doing the odd favour for your neighbour. The other is taking the piss.

Letting them knock and not answering is really not an option.

OP posted on 20/12/2025 22:45 -

"I can't just not answer the doorbell. I also myself buy on Amazon, as does my house-mate. It's quite enough for me to have to go to the front door once or twice a day for our own parcels. The neighbour is doubling that!"

Let them knock. Means nothing. Eventually they’ll have to leave

My love, it’s a massive imposition even if you were more mobile, you’d still have had your counselling session disturbed , your dinner and cooking interrupted.

they have not even asked you!

they are being huge CF, and you have every right to put up a note saying you’re not accepting deliveries for their household, or anyone else’s except your own.

please don’t think twice about refusing, this has gone on long enough and they are totally in the wrong for imposing this on you.

you’ve been very kind until now, it’s been abused, so things have to change.

🤔 I wonder what they would do if op didn't answer the door? Knock all day?! No they would eventually get fed up and leave. The reason they keep knocking is because they know op will answer the door eventually.

But they keep knocking until the OP answers the door

The selfishness these days is appalling. I think you need to be direct and tell your neighbour you cannot do it. Put a note through his door.

The ring doorbell could be a good idea.

The utter selfishness of comments saying it's not a big deal and it is neighbourly is dreadful too. It is not neighbourly to expect people with disabilities to be inconvenienced and in pain for your convenience!

My next door neighbours are elderly and have health problems. I don't put them down as my usual place if I'm not in, because I don't wish to put on them. Because I'm considerate. They always say they don't mind if the postie does it occasionally, but I certainly don't like to bother them.

I can't believe the lack of empathy around. So poor.

Put your foot down @SecretNameforMN .

It means that you have chosen to interrupt your therapy session to answer the door and you could instead choose not to. I never answer the door when I am in a meeting or it isn't convenient. It isn't about blame, it is about taking charge of your own response to other people's behaviour. He would soon stop using you as a post box if you stopped answering the door.

I used to take in parcels, then I got a parcel box, and they don't bother me now.

It's also much easier all round. They don't have to wait, and I don't have to wonder if I've time to nip out, or have a shower, or put the washing on (can't hear knocks at the door when it's spinning).

My neighbours and I take in parcels for each other ad hoc, and I don't resent doing it at all – it's beneficial to us all.
But I'd be pissed off if any of them actually put me down as their place to deliver to.
Tell your neighbour you never gave him permission to give you as his drop-off person and he must change it. And you won't be answering the door or accepting any more of his parcels.

I don’t take parcels for one of my neighbours because we don’t speak. After you say no a few times then the courier/postman stop asking.

My neighbour did this. They had me down on Amazon as their chosen drop off, without asking me. I got very fed up of answering the door. Some days I was still upstairs getting ready. Fortunately the neighbour moved. She didn’t even call round to tell me she was moving, although I’d seen it on Rightmove. Another neighbour had bought her children Christmas presents every year but she couldn’t be bothered to knock and say goodbye.

Some people are definitely CFs. I now have a lovely Muslim couple living next door. The original neighbour was white British. It makes you think!

Refuse from now on @SecretNameforMN . You aren’t obligated in any way.

Also agree about the notice - no cold callers will suffice , they don’t need to know why. I used to deliver to someone who had a note saying to allow extra time as she was disabled, so it meant being more patient before looking for a safe place but I always felt it was an invitation for nefarious types.

I deliver parcels as part of my job and I hate asking a neighbour - I would only do that when I can’t find a safe place to leave it instead, but the time pressure delivery drivers are under, especially at this time of year, they just need to get the parcel dropped and go, so I don’t blame the driver at all. Your neighbour however…

if you feel awkward talking to him about it, tell him that he’s not the only one who’s put you down and then tell him all the ways you’ve been disturbed and how much pain and trouble is causes you. I imagine he’s just thoughtless rather than actually nasty so hasn’t really considered the impact on you.

FWIW when I’m working at home I often have my hands covered in sticky stuff so always answer the door with gloved hands waving in the air and ask the driver to set it down inside the door for me so I don’t have to touch it. They are always happy to do so. If they’ve left before you open the door, leave the parcel there. Not your problem.

I don't think it's the wildest of cheeky fuckery unless you've said something to him. Given you acknowledge any parcels left on doorsteps will get nicked where you are, and given you literally are home all day and presumably have been friendly handing over any parcels I can kind of see his logic. Would I do it - no, I'd have asked first and he has been rude there! Instead of getting grumpy just explain to him (you should have done it the very first parcel I think) - sorry, my disability makes it really hard to answer the door, please can you arrange another safe place. We get loads of parcels for basically our whole road and I love having a chat on the doorstep and I'm in most of the day so don't mind them using me- nobody has ever asked. I'm not disabled though and it causes me more bother, I'm sure if your neighbour knew it was a problem they'd stop. Just tell him.

As often happens in this forum, it seems to me you're asking the wrong question. The question should be, How should I stop this?

Seems to me a simple answer is at hand. You put a sign on your door, preferably printed from your computer in large type:

This is 1001 Elizabeth Street. Please do not leave ask about leaving packages for 1002 Elizabeth Street, which is next door.