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To think that adults are supposed to go to the dentist too?

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YourTealBalonz · 20/12/2025 16:29

It feels like so many people act like the dentist is optional once you hit adulthood, only going when something hurts or skipping years altogether. But surely we’re supposed to still be going regularly?

Isn’t part of being a functioning adult keeping up with this stuff - like check-ups, cleaning, prevention, etc?

Or AIBU and it’s fine to just… not?

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UneAnneeSansLumiere · 20/12/2025 18:13

I agree, but it's shocking how few NHS dentists there are. I don't know why the government thinks it is acceptable.

Cuwins · 20/12/2025 18:11

readingisallowed · 20/12/2025 17:09

Unfortunately there are not many NHS dentists that take on new patients.
But also the cost is expensive. DD went for an hygienist appointment last week and it cost
over £100. Check up was £70. She and her family are considering going private.
The difference in NHS and private dentist is not that much anymore.

I have a private dentist. This costs £24 per month. With that I get
2 check ups per year
2 hygiene appointments per year.
Upto 2 fillings per year with out an increase in cost.
I had no choice in going private as I was involved with cancer treatment and need a dentist.

I’m amazed by that price as an NHS appointment. Mine is private and normal check up is about £60, last week she did a through cleaning as well and it was £90. I go every 9m- 1y (her recommendation) and about every 3rd appointment she does X-rays which adds to the cost (I think then it’s about £90 for check up and X-rays but it has been 2 years so might have gone up) but I could refuse them if needed.

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 18:10

soupyspoon · 20/12/2025 18:04

Good teeth are largely genetic, Im mid 50s and have 3 fillings and they were in my 20s.

No they are not. Apart from some very rare syndromes like amelogenesis imperfecta all teeth are the same.

What can be passed down families are poor diet , lifestyle and cleaning choices. Over 90% of dental decay is preventable www.rcseng.ac.uk/news-and-events/media-centre/press-releases/children-almost-twice-as-likely-to-go-to-hospital-with-preventable-dental-problems-than-for-asthma/

BlackCatFanClub · 20/12/2025 18:04

Mine insists on every 6 months and although I’ve had issues in the past I’ve not had work done in years.
I always push the date though, so I’m always busy so it’s more like 7/8 months.

soupyspoon · 20/12/2025 18:04

BeNoisyFish · 20/12/2025 17:58

Is your diet low in sugar?maybe you eat once or twice a day only? Very impressive.

Good teeth are largely genetic, Im mid 50s and have 3 fillings and they were in my 20s.

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 18:04

BeNoisyFish · 20/12/2025 17:58

Is your diet low in sugar?maybe you eat once or twice a day only? Very impressive.

For the vast,vast majority of people long as you eat or drink something sugary or starchy no more than three times a day then you shouldn’t need a filling (except if you have dry mouth or other mitigating factor ). Keep sugar/starchy food and drinks to meal times and you won’t have a problem.

Unfortunately in the U.K. children eat more than 7 times a day , on average and both adults and children, on average , eat many times the recommended daily amount of sugar . https://www.drwf.org.uk/news-and-events/news/report-on-diet-finds-most-people-in-the-uk-are-consuming-almost-3-times-the-recommended-daily-sugar-intake/

Most people in the UK consume 3x the advised daily sugar intake - Diabetes Research & Wellness Foundation

A newly published report on the state of the UK diet has found that many people are eating well over the recommended daily sugar intake.

https://www.drwf.org.uk/news-and-events/news/report-on-diet-finds-most-people-in-the-uk-are-consuming-almost-3-times-the-recommended-daily-sugar-intake/

soupyspoon · 20/12/2025 18:03

Flowerslamp · 20/12/2025 16:52

Of course it should be, but every time I go to the hygienist (£120 last time) I think it must just be out of the question for many many people.

Yes the hygenist at my NHS dentist is 90 quid

about a 15 min appointment as well

conxray · 20/12/2025 18:00

I was more reacting to the attitude I hear sometimes that dentistry just stops mattering in adulthood rather than the very real structural barriers that make access difficult

Who on earth is saying that? I don't know anyone whose reasoning for not going to the dentist is because they think it doesn't matter in adulthood.

I am a recovering dental phobic. I've posted about my struggles under this username in case it helps anyone. I didn't go for 30 years. I knew it mattered but I was absolutely terrified. Most people don't understand dental phobia. It's not the nervousness or anxiety that I suspect most people experience to some extent when going to the dentist. It's completely debilitating. Anyway, I overcame it with the help of a fantastic dentist.
I think there are a lot of people who don't go to the dentist because of fear.
I knew perfectly well that it was important to go, I just couldn't. And now I can go and I go once a year because my dentist said with my good oral hygiene I don't need 6 monthly check ups.

The second reason people don't go is because of finances. Again, they know they are supposed to go, but what are they supposed to do if they can't afford it and can't find an NHS dentist who is taking people on. If you move areas you're fucked basically. This happened to a relative of mine who couldn't find an NHS dentist in the area she moved to and it took her 5 or 6 years to be earning enough to afford private treatment.

That's why people don't go.

  1. Fear
  2. Lack of money
BeNoisyFish · 20/12/2025 17:58

PigeonsandSquirrels · 20/12/2025 17:55

… you’re acting like it should be prescribed in law. Most adults can make their own decisions about their health.

I’ve never had a cavity in 30 years. I go to the dentist every 2 years, every time they say my teeth are perfect and I leave. Why would I go more often when I don’t need to?

Is your diet low in sugar?maybe you eat once or twice a day only? Very impressive.

Coconutter24 · 20/12/2025 17:58

I go once a year for a check up. It’s a NHS dentist. I’ve been with them since being a child and continued to go, my children are with the same dentist and go every 6 months

PigeonsandSquirrels · 20/12/2025 17:55

… you’re acting like it should be prescribed in law. Most adults can make their own decisions about their health.

I’ve never had a cavity in 30 years. I go to the dentist every 2 years, every time they say my teeth are perfect and I leave. Why would I go more often when I don’t need to?

LaurieFairyCake · 20/12/2025 17:52

No, I go when I need to. It’s about every 5 years. And I always need about two fillings so I get them done.

I don’t have the money to go constantly, I’m paying for private as it’s more expensive for nhs where I live as you have to go every 6 months or you get struck off.

PeloMom · 20/12/2025 17:47

Agree. It’s easier and cheaper to maintain regularly than to fix teeth. I go every 6 months and usually it’s a quick check up and clean. Only once I had a 4 year gap between appointments because life happens and paid ‘000s to fix whatever developed.

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 17:45

renthead · 20/12/2025 17:33

I am a little bit sceptical of the recommendation that everyone needs to visit the dentist 6-monthly. I haven’t been in several years (could afford to but just haven’t bothered) and I haven’t had any problems. You don’t go to the GP “just because” - it would either be for a medical reason or for a specific screening program at a fairly drawn out interval - so I do wonder where the suggestion to see the dentist so frequently has come from. I’m somewhat cynical about it tbh.

The NHS , for many years, has not recommended 6 month check ups for everyone , checks can range from every 3 months to two years , according to risk .

However the recommendations are for a check up every year , by many authorities, because part of a check up is checking for oral cancer. Rates of oral cancer, particularly amongst younger people , are rocketing and more people die every year from oral cancer than cervical and prostate cancer combined.

Also many problems like gum disease and early decay have no symptoms , until they become a big problem, and can only be detected by a dental examination and , possibly, x rays .

However it’s not how often you see the dentist that determines your oral health but what you do inbetween ie what you eat and drink, if you smoke, have diabetes and how well and effectively you clean.

BeNoisyFish · 20/12/2025 17:44

Surely you understand that some people are scared or/ and can't afford it.

XenoBitch · 20/12/2025 17:41

After many years of not having one, I finally got registered with an NHS dentist. They do fuck all. I am in and out within 10 minutes each time. I have issues with a few teeth, but they just x-ray and say there are no cavities, so nothing gets done. I am convinced it is because I don't pay at all.

Sarah2891 · 20/12/2025 17:40

renthead · 20/12/2025 17:33

I am a little bit sceptical of the recommendation that everyone needs to visit the dentist 6-monthly. I haven’t been in several years (could afford to but just haven’t bothered) and I haven’t had any problems. You don’t go to the GP “just because” - it would either be for a medical reason or for a specific screening program at a fairly drawn out interval - so I do wonder where the suggestion to see the dentist so frequently has come from. I’m somewhat cynical about it tbh.

I don't think most people need to go every 6 months.
But just because you've not had trouble doesn't necessarily mean there's nothing wrong. I thought mine were ok after not having been for years, had no pain etc. But I went for a check up and had a couple that needed filling.
Best to catch decay early before needing root canal etc.

renthead · 20/12/2025 17:33

I am a little bit sceptical of the recommendation that everyone needs to visit the dentist 6-monthly. I haven’t been in several years (could afford to but just haven’t bothered) and I haven’t had any problems. You don’t go to the GP “just because” - it would either be for a medical reason or for a specific screening program at a fairly drawn out interval - so I do wonder where the suggestion to see the dentist so frequently has come from. I’m somewhat cynical about it tbh.

23Shadows · 20/12/2025 17:27

I'd love to see a dentist but I can't find one, NHS or private. The nearest private dentist accepting new patients is a 7 hour round trip away.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 20/12/2025 17:27

The younger generation are more on, excluding those who have them filed down and covered by ridiculous plastic looking turkey teeth.

Mikart · 20/12/2025 17:26

I go every 6 months and 4 times to hygienist. Pay £28 a month. Worth every penny

EmeraldShamrock000 · 20/12/2025 17:24

The problem is similar to ireland, as a nation, a lot of us we don't have nice teeth.

Braces are unaffordable to most families. DD's cost nearly 7000 as she required sedation for a lot of the work.
My parents couldn't afford braces, my sister got them as she likes e a rabbit.
I visit the dentist regularly now but my teeth are in shit due to an eating disorder and neglecting them as a child. I have spent a fortune, crawling my way to a healthy mouth. I had implants in the back but can't afford the front 6 for another while.
Dental work on the hse/NHS is limited and hard to find a dentist.

BellissimoGecko · 20/12/2025 17:24

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 20/12/2025 16:33

Not everyone can afford it. If a tooth needs taking out I can usually do it myself anyway.

What?! 😱😱

Starsea · 20/12/2025 17:23

I think every 6 months check up is unnecessarily frequent if you have few problems/take good care of your teeth to be honest. I think once a year is fine. I think I have to go every 6 months though of I lose my place (at a private dentist). Dentistry is expensive, there's basically no nhs dentist availability where I live and many people just can't afford private or nhs.

Justlostmybagel · 20/12/2025 17:23

I love going to the dentist! The only place I get a glowing report on my work lol.