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To think that adults are supposed to go to the dentist too?

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YourTealBalonz · 20/12/2025 16:29

It feels like so many people act like the dentist is optional once you hit adulthood, only going when something hurts or skipping years altogether. But surely we’re supposed to still be going regularly?

Isn’t part of being a functioning adult keeping up with this stuff - like check-ups, cleaning, prevention, etc?

Or AIBU and it’s fine to just… not?

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MrsSkylerWhite · 22/12/2025 12:44

We haven’t been able to access an nhs dentist in over 10 years. Moved and finally have appointments in February. Dreading what they’ll find!

HopefulYankee · 22/12/2025 12:41

Six month check ups are a money making scam. You don’t need them that often if your teeth and gums are healthy.

PigeonsandSquirrels · 22/12/2025 12:34

Lollygaggle · 22/12/2025 12:30

Genetically better diet not teeth! The average U.K. child eats more than 7 times a day , the average U.K. adult 5 to 6 times a day and adults eat or drink twice the recommended daily sugar intake and children three times .

The odd snack is not a problem is what people are doing every day and most people are snacking and drinking too much sugar/starch.

Well you say that but throughout my 20s I was severely bulimic (sister was too), I drank way more alcohol than was healthy (I’m now sober but I wasn’t for a long time) and I binged on sugary snacks and desserts and cereals. So no… my diet wasn’t better than a lot of people’s for a very long time. In fact it was worse.

Still don’t have cavities or any dental issues. So I’d say it was genetic or else I have enchanted teeth.

Lollygaggle · 22/12/2025 12:30

PigeonsandSquirrels · 22/12/2025 11:15

I eat 2-3 times a day usually. Lunch and dinner and perhaps a snack every so often. But I’m also a baker (so lots of sweet things on offer for those occasional snacks) and drink coffee and diet fizzy drinks a fair amount. I do use interdental brushes and interstitial brushes for the back plus an electric IO. That probably helps.

Personally I believe I just have genetically strong teeth. My sister is the same, she’s 33 and no cavities.

Genetically better diet not teeth! The average U.K. child eats more than 7 times a day , the average U.K. adult 5 to 6 times a day and adults eat or drink twice the recommended daily sugar intake and children three times .

The odd snack is not a problem is what people are doing every day and most people are snacking and drinking too much sugar/starch.

Lollygaggle · 22/12/2025 12:23

everdine · 22/12/2025 08:40

Sometimes there is over diagnosis like in breast cancer. Some cancers are so slow growing they will never cause harm but the treatment can.

Oral cancer has poor survival rates compared to breast and prostate because it is often diagnosed late . This is where annual routine checks show their worth and oral cancer is but one of the over 200 conditions that can be picked up on a dental check.

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 22/12/2025 11:40

I'm 36 and I last went to the dentist about 16 years ago. I have never had a toothache, I just practise good dental hygiene and don't eat sugary snacks or drink sugary drinks all day. I don't see my GP when I feel fine so why would I see a dentist? Especially as getting an NHS one is harder than getting Taylor Swift tickets. I did see a private hygienist once for a clean and it was £90 so I dread to think what a private dentist costs. I have better things to spend my money on.

Cuwins · 22/12/2025 11:29

PigeonsandSquirrels · 22/12/2025 11:23

That’s literally NHS prices… extremely cheap. My private dentist is £120 for a check up alone.

This seems to vary hugely. I’m in the south east and my private dentist check up last week was £60, add another £30 if they are thoroughly cleaned or I need X-rays.

PigeonsandSquirrels · 22/12/2025 11:23

llamadrama16 · 20/12/2025 18:36

Sorry I just don’t think that’s true. We pay privately for the dentist in London; it’s £27 for a checkup, about £13 for an x-ray (needed once every few years if no issues), and £60 for a hygienist appointment for a full clean. Obviously that’s if no work needs doing, but catching stuff early is the best option.

I don’t see how people can’t budget £120 a year-ish for two checkups and one hygienist appointment.

That’s literally NHS prices… extremely cheap. My private dentist is £120 for a check up alone.

PigeonsandSquirrels · 22/12/2025 11:15

BeNoisyFish · 20/12/2025 17:58

Is your diet low in sugar?maybe you eat once or twice a day only? Very impressive.

I eat 2-3 times a day usually. Lunch and dinner and perhaps a snack every so often. But I’m also a baker (so lots of sweet things on offer for those occasional snacks) and drink coffee and diet fizzy drinks a fair amount. I do use interdental brushes and interstitial brushes for the back plus an electric IO. That probably helps.

Personally I believe I just have genetically strong teeth. My sister is the same, she’s 33 and no cavities.

RudolphTheReindeer · 22/12/2025 10:32

I have an nhs dentist so make sure I go regularly to keep my slot! I can see how it may become one of those things you don't get round too if you're not having any problems and have a busy life though.

CustardySergeant · 22/12/2025 10:31

I have always gone to the dentist every 6 months for check-ups as well as, of course appointments to treat specific problems. I am 71. My husband (79) on the other hand, hasn't been to the dentist in the 50 years that I've known him.

Kpo58 · 22/12/2025 10:05

Lollygaggle · 21/12/2025 22:12

More people die of oral cancer than prostate and cervical cancer combined and rates are rocketing, particularly in younger people. For this reason dental checks are recommended at least every 12 months. This is without the problems of gum disease which over 50% of the adult population have and decay .

There are over 200 diseases you can diagnose from looking at the mouth and tongue, from leukaemia , to Chrons , to diabetes , to b12 deficiency .

prevention is much, much cheaper than treatment which is why blood pressure checks , blood glucose checks , smear tests , bowel cancer tests, mammograms , vaccinations , prostate checks etc are routinely carried out in the NHS.

Almost 3000 road accidents a year are caused by poor driver vision . Eye tests will also pick up things such as diabetes , high blood pressure etc.

For the £36 per person treated per year (including patient charges) the tax payer has had a bargain from NHS treatment but one that has been paid for from dentists pockets.

Good medicine is not waiting until there’s a problem, it’s finding it and treating early ?

Because they cannot afford the treatment. A one off payment of £50 for a private checkup they may just be able to afford yearly, but any actual treatment is just simply unaffordable, even at NHS prices and it's just not worth it mental health wise to know that you have a cavity that you cannot afford to do anything about.

HostaCentral · 22/12/2025 08:57

Ive been privately for years, and I only go every two years, as advised by those dentists! So not that expensive overall. Luckily I have very good teeth. Only been to hygienist twice in my ife too.

I think if you are blessed with good teeth and gums, you don't need to go so often. I think it's been suggested to lengthen the time gaps for NHS too.

Children and pregnant mums need free access to NHS dentistry. Everyone else should probably go privately. It's the norm in the rest of Europe.

MerryKissmass · 22/12/2025 08:47

IsItSnowing · 20/12/2025 17:18

I go regularly. I don't actually know anyone who doesn't though.

Some people won’t admit to not regularly visiting the the dentist, for whatever reason, whether it’s the expense, the lack of NHS dentists, or just plain fear.
So although you THINK you don’t know anyone that doesn’t visit, it might just be a cover up so as not to confess.
No judgement, it’s their body, their choice.

everdine · 22/12/2025 08:40

Lollygaggle · 21/12/2025 22:12

More people die of oral cancer than prostate and cervical cancer combined and rates are rocketing, particularly in younger people. For this reason dental checks are recommended at least every 12 months. This is without the problems of gum disease which over 50% of the adult population have and decay .

There are over 200 diseases you can diagnose from looking at the mouth and tongue, from leukaemia , to Chrons , to diabetes , to b12 deficiency .

prevention is much, much cheaper than treatment which is why blood pressure checks , blood glucose checks , smear tests , bowel cancer tests, mammograms , vaccinations , prostate checks etc are routinely carried out in the NHS.

Almost 3000 road accidents a year are caused by poor driver vision . Eye tests will also pick up things such as diabetes , high blood pressure etc.

For the £36 per person treated per year (including patient charges) the tax payer has had a bargain from NHS treatment but one that has been paid for from dentists pockets.

Good medicine is not waiting until there’s a problem, it’s finding it and treating early ?

Sometimes there is over diagnosis like in breast cancer. Some cancers are so slow growing they will never cause harm but the treatment can.

bonesandbooth2025 · 22/12/2025 08:34

latetothefisting · 21/12/2025 20:05

I literally don't know anyone who has regular opticians appointments when they don't wear glasses or anything.

I used to go every 2 years before I had laser eye surgery but only because I needed the prescription to get new glasses.

You are very privileged, and must have a wealthy social circle if you can all afford to pay just to check for problems you don't have. Lots of people can't afford to go to the dentist/opticians even when they have issues!

You still haven't explained why it's necessary to have pre-emptive regular check ups for 2 parts of your body (eyes and teeth) but not the other 99%?

Edited

My eye tests are free as I’m over 40 and my dad has glaucoma. Lots of workplaces will cover eye tests too
my dentist is about £27pm and includes 2 check ups and 2 hygienist appointments so I already pay for it

Lollygaggle · 21/12/2025 22:12

latetothefisting · 21/12/2025 20:05

I literally don't know anyone who has regular opticians appointments when they don't wear glasses or anything.

I used to go every 2 years before I had laser eye surgery but only because I needed the prescription to get new glasses.

You are very privileged, and must have a wealthy social circle if you can all afford to pay just to check for problems you don't have. Lots of people can't afford to go to the dentist/opticians even when they have issues!

You still haven't explained why it's necessary to have pre-emptive regular check ups for 2 parts of your body (eyes and teeth) but not the other 99%?

Edited

More people die of oral cancer than prostate and cervical cancer combined and rates are rocketing, particularly in younger people. For this reason dental checks are recommended at least every 12 months. This is without the problems of gum disease which over 50% of the adult population have and decay .

There are over 200 diseases you can diagnose from looking at the mouth and tongue, from leukaemia , to Chrons , to diabetes , to b12 deficiency .

prevention is much, much cheaper than treatment which is why blood pressure checks , blood glucose checks , smear tests , bowel cancer tests, mammograms , vaccinations , prostate checks etc are routinely carried out in the NHS.

Almost 3000 road accidents a year are caused by poor driver vision . Eye tests will also pick up things such as diabetes , high blood pressure etc.

For the £36 per person treated per year (including patient charges) the tax payer has had a bargain from NHS treatment but one that has been paid for from dentists pockets.

Good medicine is not waiting until there’s a problem, it’s finding it and treating early ?

LighthouseLED · 21/12/2025 20:11

latetothefisting · 21/12/2025 20:05

I literally don't know anyone who has regular opticians appointments when they don't wear glasses or anything.

I used to go every 2 years before I had laser eye surgery but only because I needed the prescription to get new glasses.

You are very privileged, and must have a wealthy social circle if you can all afford to pay just to check for problems you don't have. Lots of people can't afford to go to the dentist/opticians even when they have issues!

You still haven't explained why it's necessary to have pre-emptive regular check ups for 2 parts of your body (eyes and teeth) but not the other 99%?

Edited

If that’s true that could go some way to explaining the increasingly bad driving / parking standards - people don’t realise they can’t see!

latetothefisting · 21/12/2025 20:05

TheTaupeScroller · 20/12/2025 17:21

Most people do have yearly or fairly regular optician appointments, even with good eyesight?

Hygienist appointments are a need

Check-up are a way to fix problems quickly instead of waiting for them to be too bad to be fixed!

I literally don't know anyone who has regular opticians appointments when they don't wear glasses or anything.

I used to go every 2 years before I had laser eye surgery but only because I needed the prescription to get new glasses.

You are very privileged, and must have a wealthy social circle if you can all afford to pay just to check for problems you don't have. Lots of people can't afford to go to the dentist/opticians even when they have issues!

You still haven't explained why it's necessary to have pre-emptive regular check ups for 2 parts of your body (eyes and teeth) but not the other 99%?

GarlicBreadStan · 20/12/2025 21:39

YANBU but in my area, the waiting lists are over 5 years long. I moved back just over 2 years ago. And I can't afford private dentistry either 🥲

bonesandbooth2025 · 20/12/2025 21:13

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 21:09

Two things
biodentine means original decay was very close to the nerve so teeth can be very touchy afterwards

these teeth can sometimes have a nerve supply coming from unexpected places so different injections may be needed. I suspect the main problem is the proximity to the nerve.

Yeah last time he drilled through right to the nerve which was not fun. It’s worked though and means no root canal unless it starts again

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 21:09

bonesandbooth2025 · 20/12/2025 21:02

Yes, second molar from the back
it was just removing a small amount of the biodentine stuff and adding a permanent filling on top

Two things
biodentine means original decay was very close to the nerve so teeth can be very touchy afterwards

these teeth can sometimes have a nerve supply coming from unexpected places so different injections may be needed. I suspect the main problem is the proximity to the nerve.

bonesandbooth2025 · 20/12/2025 21:02

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 20:47

That’s why it needs a vasoconstrictor . Also I presume the filling was on a lower back tooth. The block for this can be challenging and there are various techniques when this block fails to work .

Yes, second molar from the back
it was just removing a small amount of the biodentine stuff and adding a permanent filling on top

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 20:47

bonesandbooth2025 · 20/12/2025 20:45

Oh that’s a good tip! I have naproxen and dihydrocodeine at home, thank you
if he does get me numb it’s worn off in 15 mins and there’s a lot of “you and bloody anaesthetic” Grin

That’s why it needs a vasoconstrictor . Also I presume the filling was on a lower back tooth. The block for this can be challenging and there are various techniques when this block fails to work .

bonesandbooth2025 · 20/12/2025 20:45

Lollygaggle · 20/12/2025 20:44

Ask your dentist for which painkiller is best , but in general if you take a painkiller with an antiflammatory action around two hours before the proceedure and the dentist uses a local called articaine with a vasoconstrictor and leaves time for it to work even people who have difficulty numbing up will be numb.

Oh that’s a good tip! I have naproxen and dihydrocodeine at home, thank you
if he does get me numb it’s worn off in 15 mins and there’s a lot of “you and bloody anaesthetic” Grin

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