I just wish people would stop sending me Christmas cards

They are DH friends and yes they were nice when I last saw them. That's the thing – why not ring up and suggest we meet? Much nicer.

But I'm trying to say that if they wanted to support a charity they could have done so to a greater degree by donating what they spent.

And @Sesma yes it was sent first class. Of course second class is cheaper (still costs more than the card tho). But our post is only delivered on certain days and second class can take 3-4 days or more. Often more IME (we had a letter from the NHS (of course! Why would you text or email) that took 12 days to get to us.

I'm apparently working class according to the OP because I give my mum a card when I see her at Christmas. Apparently that's a "working class" thing to do

Do people really put first class stamps on cards, second are much cheaper.

That’s a fair bit of overthinking! Are they not nice people?

That's a point @Davros about raising awareness.

But really – a card we got this year was a charity card for a local hospital. Cost? (I have no idea but let's say £5 for 10 - does that sound right?) so say 50p. Plus £1.70 for the first class stamp (yes indeed). And literally all it said was "from Suzanne and Peter". So to me, that's performative - "ohhh look, we support the hospital aren't we nice" – but they are not nice enough to write info about their family or ask us about ours – plus if they had just donated the £2.20 to the hospital it would have got a lot more money. And no one would have been bothered.

This is exactly it. Years ago when I first got married we had loads of Christmas cards sent to us. Loads. Now only one or two a year. Like myself, many can't justify the cost of stamps. The DC get loads from their school buddies but not us oldies🤣

Is a working class card one from Card Factory

Well I’ve opened it, read it and recycled it, what more use can a card have?

A bit off topic but what are working class type cards?

I send them to people I rarely see. Husband has to write his own messages to people who are more his friends. I do working class type cards to assorted working class relatives... but my mother in law gets a generic one.
Im not in the UK and horrified that sending me a card is £3.40 so I am expecting to add some to my non sender list.
And I want to know if anyone makes them into pretty gift tags for next year. My cards and envelopes become shopping lists.

Not a bit.

I assume that the sender got some pleasure out of writing them so they are happy but I don't want the mess they make.

The corporate ones are just trash. Complete waste of time and money.

Because someone has made an effort to send you something and you dont care/havnt made use of it. And it would upset them if they knew? It was more to those who dont even read them which is really rude.

I’ve gotten two probably won’t get more. I don’t mind them but I have generally moved onto writing on a gift tag instead (to, from and maybe a little ‘Merry Christmas’).

@Roobarbtwo you had best start a saving account, first class stamp will likely be c £2.75 next year !

I’m not the poster you replied to but I too put cards straight into recycling but feel no guilt - why would I?

love this thread, it’s like Mumsnet twenty years ago, a great blast from the past 😊

I always feel
guikry if
I miss
someone and that theyll think I dont care! I guess Ill worry less now.

Next year I'm going to buy 100 and send them in honour of this thread - joking

We love cards here . I write loads and get loads back but we have always done it . I don't mind if others don't send back at all .

I’ve not sent any for over 30 years. I get maybe 2 or 3 now. I don’t suppose it’ll ever stop completely. The people that send them know I won’t send one to them but are ok with it.

We don't bother with cards or presents at Birthdays or anniversaries, waste of money and time. The rellies don't sent these cards either just the Christmas ones.

Send to older relatives and neighbours only.

I just never sent them back and I’ve pretty much stopped receiving them from most people. I don’t like them either.

Cards arw so much more effort and part of my Christmas display whcih obviously changes every year. The kids love opening them up and seeing who theyre from. Then we choose a place to put it up. If people dont like it then fine, tell the person. I guess my friends are quite similar to me as we all like writing. Also to be angry at people trying to be kind and not even reading them (when there could be an important message in there) is pretty depressing.

My brother does not like to receive or send cards. It's been his way for the past 10 years or so. Last year, his boss, on retirement said he won't be sending cards any longer and of course, the £50 enclosed within! My brother had been putting the card straight in the bin without opening. Do the maths!

I love them, it’s a great way to keep in touch plus it decorates my lounge 😀