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I just wish people would stop sending me Christmas cards

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iCod · 20/12/2025 15:00

They're pointless, wasteful and a poor form of communication. All I do is read the "Happy Christmas from Joe and Julie" and walk them to the recycling.

I haven't sent any for over 25 years and I just don't see the need for them at all.

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eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:56

I use the glitter ones for cheerful shopping lists...things like icing sugar and birthday candles. I only have one with glitter this year so far.
I like a corporate card especially if big and shiny. We used to get a fabulous one from a local politician because my son did work experience in his office.

HaveaVeryMerryBerryChristmas · 20/12/2025 19:55

I give individual cards to dh, the dcs and dm, we send 2 in the post to elderly relatives and that's it. I only give neighbours one if they give us one (and hope they don't). They're definately dying out now. Sometimes dc will write odd couple of small ones out for his friends.

Namechange2211 · 20/12/2025 19:54

I moved house 2 years ago and no one asked for my new address. I’m guessing i won’t get any except from my kids. Maybe that’s an idea for you?

PickledMuffin · 20/12/2025 19:53

I don’t send them but appreciate that people
take the trouble to write them and send them to me.

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:53

clary · 20/12/2025 19:50

I don't find reading a card signed with just their names makes me feel special (or think they were thinking of me)? I mean they could have written it any time in the last year as one of a huge batch and then just added names and addresses on the front. In fact I imagine that's what they did – it's just a pointless chore.

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I think youre missing the point.

clary · 20/12/2025 19:52

Roobarbtwo · 20/12/2025 19:39

She said that to me - but that's not how I write my Christmas cards. A few assumptions going on there I think. Apparently it's not the done thing to give cards to people you actually see at Christmas. Never knew that either

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You feel free to give cards to people you see. I find that odd but you're not giving them to me :)

Gloriia · 20/12/2025 19:51

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:49

Quite possibly. I would quite like an M&S mince pie though’

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Yes I do like a mince pie just along with a glittery hedgehog card 😍

clary · 20/12/2025 19:50

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:30

Because from their pov, they were letting you know they were thinking of you and chose a nice (im assuming nice design?) for you to read, feel special and then put up if you desire. Poor people probably thought it made you happy.

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I don't find reading a card signed with just their names makes me feel special (or think they were thinking of me)? I mean they could have written it any time in the last year as one of a huge batch and then just added names and addresses on the front. In fact I imagine that's what they did – it's just a pointless chore.

Gloriia · 20/12/2025 19:49

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:47

I don't live in the UK so Im not really able to answer the specifics on Waitrose Asda and National Trust. I seem to have several with deer on them this year...little fawns up to big stags. Not reindeer. But no hedgehogs.

Oh I love a little fawn and a hedgehog. Bit of glitter too though that cocks up the recycling they don't like glitter.

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:49

Gloriia · 20/12/2025 19:45

Just miserable and tight maybe, cupboards probs groaning with M&S mincepies but cba to wish others a Merry Christmas Xmas Grin

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Quite possibly. I would quite like an M&S mince pie though’

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:49

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:47

I don't live in the UK so Im not really able to answer the specifics on Waitrose Asda and National Trust. I seem to have several with deer on them this year...little fawns up to big stags. Not reindeer. But no hedgehogs.

Sounds pretty middle class to me!

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:48

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:36

Op mentioned that ones like 'To dear mum at Christmas ' are working class.
I have a spare 'son and daughter in law' if anyone needs it. Because I found 'Christmas greetings to your cockapoo' which will thrill that household.

The ones who have who it’s to on the front? Well I had no idea that was working class! Thats so funny.

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:47

I don't live in the UK so Im not really able to answer the specifics on Waitrose Asda and National Trust. I seem to have several with deer on them this year...little fawns up to big stags. Not reindeer. But no hedgehogs.

Gloriia · 20/12/2025 19:45

Sesma · 20/12/2025 19:42

Is OP a Toff

Just miserable and tight maybe, cupboards probs groaning with M&S mincepies but cba to wish others a Merry Christmas Xmas Grin

BatshitCrazyWoman · 20/12/2025 19:44

I love getting Christmas cards, and sending them. I like birthday cards too, and 'thinking about you' cards (I had cancer and got a few lovely cards from people). They aren't dying out here - and there are 3 cards shops in my high street, always busy.

Sesma · 20/12/2025 19:42

Is OP a Toff

Gloriia · 20/12/2025 19:42

I quite like them. Folk spend a fortune stuffing their faces at Christmas I think it's quite nice to donate to charity by buying cards and wishing others well. It's a nice thing to do specially for older people who don't do whatsapp group chats.

Roobarbtwo · 20/12/2025 19:42

CalzoneOnLegs · 20/12/2025 19:02

@Roobarbtwo you had best start a saving account, first class stamp will likely be c £2.75 next year !

Thankfully I live in a very long street and I can hand deliver them :)

Sesma · 20/12/2025 19:40

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:36

Op mentioned that ones like 'To dear mum at Christmas ' are working class.
I have a spare 'son and daughter in law' if anyone needs it. Because I found 'Christmas greetings to your cockapoo' which will thrill that household.

Mine had hedgehogs on from the National Trust shop, what class are they.

Roobarbtwo · 20/12/2025 19:39

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:36

Op mentioned that ones like 'To dear mum at Christmas ' are working class.
I have a spare 'son and daughter in law' if anyone needs it. Because I found 'Christmas greetings to your cockapoo' which will thrill that household.

She said that to me - but that's not how I write my Christmas cards. A few assumptions going on there I think. Apparently it's not the done thing to give cards to people you actually see at Christmas. Never knew that either

Roobarbtwo · 20/12/2025 19:37

Sesma · 20/12/2025 19:31

I would be interested to know what a working class card is, is it the actual card or is it one you send to your lowers

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Never heard of a working class card in my life - is it one you buy from Asda instead of Waitrose?

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:36

Op mentioned that ones like 'To dear mum at Christmas ' are working class.
I have a spare 'son and daughter in law' if anyone needs it. Because I found 'Christmas greetings to your cockapoo' which will thrill that household.

Sesma · 20/12/2025 19:31

eggandonion · 20/12/2025 19:07

I send them to people I rarely see. Husband has to write his own messages to people who are more his friends. I do working class type cards to assorted working class relatives... but my mother in law gets a generic one.
Im not in the UK and horrified that sending me a card is £3.40 so I am expecting to add some to my non sender list.
And I want to know if anyone makes them into pretty gift tags for next year. My cards and envelopes become shopping lists.

I would be interested to know what a working class card is, is it the actual card or is it one you send to your lowers

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:30

clary · 20/12/2025 19:27

They are DH friends and yes they were nice when I last saw them. That's the thing – why not ring up and suggest we meet? Much nicer.

But I'm trying to say that if they wanted to support a charity they could have done so to a greater degree by donating what they spent.

And @Sesma yes it was sent first class. Of course second class is cheaper (still costs more than the card tho). But our post is only delivered on certain days and second class can take 3-4 days or more. Often more IME (we had a letter from the NHS (of course! Why would you text or email) that took 12 days to get to us.

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Because from their pov, they were letting you know they were thinking of you and chose a nice (im assuming nice design?) for you to read, feel special and then put up if you desire. Poor people probably thought it made you happy.

Lelophants · 20/12/2025 19:28

Roobarbtwo · 20/12/2025 19:24

I'm apparently working class according to the OP because I give my mum a card when I see her at Christmas. Apparently that's a "working class" thing to do

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giving in person as opposed to sending? That’s wc? 😆

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