AIBU? 4 day Fever and I’m panicking

A parent with health anxiety is not a normal parent. Constantly checking, fussing, catastrophising. That will do more harm to your DD than a bug.

What help have you sought with your anxiety?

I don't think responding to the OP is helping her - it's just giving her something to argue against and more reason to post and fuel her anxiety.

You're not just concerned, you're panicking and anxious to the point of blocking out proper medical advice from an actual doctor in favour of nursing and feeding your anxiety. Those are completely different things and spectacularly selfish.

Your child doesn't have a fever. She has a slightly raised temperature. They're completely different things.

This isn't prolonged. It's a completely normal period of time for an otherwise well child to have a slightly elevated temperature.

This is NOT a normal response as a parent AT ALL. You don't even see that your reaction is completely abnormal.

What do you want from this thread? What are you looking for? To just fret and worry and have people listen to you wasting your time and attend to you fretting and worrying and wasting? Is it an audience you want? Or do you want people eot tell you you're right to worry? Do you want people to worry alongside you? What do you actually want?

Ds3 (8) recently had a 10 day fever...with no other symptoms. He didn't have so much as a runny nose, just a burning fever which was above 40 when unmedicated, would drop to 38 with meds then go back to 39 or 40.

After a trip to OOO then a trip to the GP, they sent us to the paeds ward at our local hospital on day 6. I was beside myself and convinced he had some awful cancer. They tested him for 20 different viruses, all were negative (all the main flu's, covid and a few others). Throat swabs all negative. A battery of blood tests which showed no indication of bacterial infection markers and no concerns of anything more serious. They let us out and said if we hit day 11 with a fever we'd have to go back.

On day 10 he woke up with the same fever. By 6pm he said he felt hungry...his fever was gone and that was it. Right as rain.

Paeds have put it down to a virus for which he had no symptoms except fever. So yes it can happen and can be entirely 'normal'.

Your posts are a bit manic and not at all normal, understandable because of circumstances with your DS but still, not normal.

PP have said, treat the child, not the fever. Fever's are good, it means the body is responding to the virus. If DD is eating, drinking and playing (i.e. not lethargically slumped on the sofa all day) then there really is nothing to worry about.

But 5/6 days of a fever when you know the cause, have started treatment and her is starting to feel better in herself isn’t a need to worry.

I use a thermometer when ill or feeling different on myself and DD1 because we both have very poor interoception but it sounds like you’re over relaying on the theremometer. It’s one tool to access health.

No it isn't a normal response
But you're not listening

Please see a professional for your health anxiety. Your children shouldn’t have to grow up with this.

Is your child eating and drinking? Are they lethargic or playing fairly normally? Is the fever causing distress or discomfort? Any shivering?

Hi @CaffeineChaosandCuddles I know a fever in your child can be really worrying but it is the body’s natural response to a virus. Raising the temperature of the body is the most effective way to kill off a virus. By constantly reducing your child’s temperature you are effectively prolonging the infection because it stalls her immune system’s response. If your child is drinking and eating, let the fever run its course, I would only treat if she was in distress with a fever.

I really hope your child feels better soon.

I don’t think you’re even reading replies.

You do not have to give calpol for a temperature. Your child is getting better.

She's eating, she's drinking, she's alert

She's ok OP.

The raised temperature is a sign her immune system is doing it's job and fighting the virus. Its a good thing. as PP have said, so long as she's drinking and even better eating, don't stress about the numbers

@CaffeineChaosandCuddles Do yourself and your family a favour and throw that bloody thermometer out of the window. You are doing you and your children no favours. Do you want your daughter to end up like you, do you?

But you won't do any of that will you?

You will ignore all the people who are talking sense, only listen to those who feed your anxiety.

I feel sorry for your family.

Have you read the thread?
Or are you simply determined to believe that your daughter should have recovered after just a few hours?

We've all told you that your daughter has a viral illness which will last for several days.

Nothing is wrong. She's improving.
FGS stop taking her temperature.

It'll be up and down for a few days.
This is normal.
Throw away the thermometer.

What you should actually be worried about is passing your anxiety onto your children.

People are trying to help you, but you're not taking any advice on board.

Your behaviour is unusual.

Loads of quite nasty responses on here I'm sorry for that OP. I think for tonsillitis a fever that long is quite normal. As she's starting to eat and drink that's a good sign and hopefully her throat is feeling better.
If you're concerned try and see a GP but as she's drinking and not dehydrated they're unlikely to do anything differently to what you are at home.
Hope she feels better soon x