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To consider applying for nursery when ttc?

36 replies

SharpPinkDuck · 20/12/2025 14:30

As the title says. We are moving next year to a village with 2 nurseries both of which are completely booked until 2029 with 100 family waiting lists. This is no good for our DS who is going to be almost 2 next spring so we are having to find an alternative option which is a shame as he is probably going to have to go to school without being able to experience going to nursery.

We will consider ttc again in the future and am considering given the waiting lists in our village, telling them I’m pregnant when we start and giving a proposed start date of 12-15 months in the future.

If we are successful within 3-4 months as last time, I will just say the due dates have shifted slightly with scan etc and ask to shift the start date to my preferred date.

Cannot believe I’m even having to ask this but has anyone else done this, and were you even successful in getting a place?! I feel the nurseries will probably say they are fully booked even at this point…

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TheTaupeScroller · 20/12/2025 17:41

Why are you moving knowing that your first child will missing out already and is a shame as he is probably going to have to go to school without being able to experience going to nursery.

Concentrate on your existing child before making ridiculous plans about an hypothetical baby that you might or might not have in the future?

TheNightingalesStarling · 20/12/2025 17:39

Surely they say 2029 for 3yos, not babies?

CandyCaneKisses · 20/12/2025 17:30

SharpPinkDuck · 20/12/2025 16:07

Might have to

That’s disgusting. Wait until you need a place to

Emsie1987 · 20/12/2025 17:30

Won’t you have to put a deposit down. Mine was £700.

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 20/12/2025 17:20

SharpPinkDuck · 20/12/2025 16:07

Might have to

There's a special place in hell for people like you

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 20/12/2025 16:10

If they're booked until 2029, asking for a date in 12-15 months time isn't going to work

TheTamerShrew · 20/12/2025 16:09

I can't understand how this would work. Nursery would at the minimum want a due date to register,and if that doesn't align with a birth date then questions would be asked.

Purlant · 20/12/2025 16:09

Open your own one. Sounds like there would be a huge demand.

Grumblies · 20/12/2025 16:09

Wouldn't the more sensible option be to move to somewhere with childcare?

SharpPinkDuck · 20/12/2025 16:07

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 20/12/2025 15:18

Are you going to fake a miscarriage if you don't conceive?

Might have to

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TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 20/12/2025 15:18

Are you going to fake a miscarriage if you don't conceive?