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If someone sent you a (nicely) handmade Christmas card, would you think…

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FestiveFruitloop · 20/12/2025 14:27

YABU: that they couldn’t afford to buy ‘real’ cards?
YANBU: that they just liked making Christmas cards?

Assuming the card has clearly been made by an adult and not a child. Context to follow, just curious. (Regular member, not a journo. 😄)

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mondaytosunday · 20/12/2025 16:05

Hand made cards are likely more expensive! You can get charity cards for less than a £1/card, whereas if you think of buying the paper, the envelope and whatever they used to make that card - and their time - it’s going to be more than that for sure.

XenoBitch · 20/12/2025 16:04

Purlant · 20/12/2025 15:58

I’d just think the person has a lot of free time on their hands!!

Some people do. Why is that an issue? Why do people mention free time like it is a bad thing. Free time is a good thing!

ReyRey12 · 20/12/2025 16:04

I would think that os lovely.

I bought 5 Christmas cards for a pound. I would never ever never think that someone making cards would do it to save money.

I would also never ever think that they had too much time into heir hands. Some people just enjoy doing that stuff and therefore prioritise it. I would genuinely just think it is lovely.

NeedWineNow · 20/12/2025 16:04

I have made my own cards and love doing it. In fact I intend to go back to it once we've got our loft space sorted and I've got room to work!

We get a handmade card every year from one of our friends. We love to receive it and it takes pride of place.

Woventwigs888 · 20/12/2025 16:04

To answer your question op, I would assume they like to make an extra effort for friends and family.

SapphireSeptember · 20/12/2025 15:59

Leftsidefacing · 20/12/2025 15:47

People have no appreciation for handmade. I’m a crafter and I’m often stopped in the street and someone has said ‘your scarf/jumper/coat is beautiful, where is it from? And when I’ve said I made it myself there’s a disappointed look, and then usually ‘oh.. well its still nice’.

I’d never give anyone a handmade card or anything else, most of the people I know would think it was a weird thing to do, and tell me so, the cheeky fuckers.

Bloody weirdos! I'd be impressed. My mum has done knitting, sewing and embroidery and is now into cross stitch, and I have lots of lovely things she's made over the years, my friend does cross stitch, she made me a Pusheen card for my birthday years ago with cross stitch that I've kept, as well as pictures for me and DS, and my other friend does sewing, knitting and crochet and made a cardi and a hat for DS.

Catza · 20/12/2025 15:59

twiddleit · 20/12/2025 14:43

This is interesting, I used to make them, not just Christmas cards but all sorts, but even trying to sell them for £1 each I had very little success. They were good (if I say so myself) but most people seem to want a box of 20 boring ones for £1, not a single card. I’ve given up now and concentrate on scrapbooking.

I used to sell mine for £4.99 each with no issues. Raise your prices and you will attract the right customers.

Purlant · 20/12/2025 15:58

I’d just think the person has a lot of free time on their hands!!

rainbowunicorn22 · 20/12/2025 15:57

I love making cards to try to cover costs. I do try to sell some, but there are so many doing the same, so it's hard to get sales. However, it really helps my MH from which I have a lot of issues, including depression, PTSD, anxiety, etc, and my partner knows it really helps me. I can lose myself in making cards, all mine are one of a kind, never repeated, so I like to think carefully about what to make when I am sending them. I know, for instance, my sister and my niece love dogs, so I made them dog cards; my cousin is a churchgoer, so I designed her a lovely card with a vintage-style church image.

AquaForce · 20/12/2025 15:52

twiddleit · 20/12/2025 14:43

This is interesting, I used to make them, not just Christmas cards but all sorts, but even trying to sell them for £1 each I had very little success. They were good (if I say so myself) but most people seem to want a box of 20 boring ones for £1, not a single card. I’ve given up now and concentrate on scrapbooking.

Yeah, I stopped making them. Sold very few and when I gave them for Christmas/birthdays the reactions were underwhelming.

I switched it up a bit and included loose items such as Xmas tags, that they could use if they wanted to and included a little pack of neatly trimmed off cuts in case. Then they could have a go themselves or personalise what I gave them. Nope....still nothing.

I just accept, that for me at least, the joy is in creating it rather than receiving it.

myhaggisblewup · 20/12/2025 15:52

Blades2 · 20/12/2025 14:42

I would think they enjoy crafting and I would also think how lovely they thought so highly of me to actually make me a nice card.

why?

your post sounds a little judgy,

Also OP why mention 'not a journo'? Who cares if you were? It's not a sensitive or exciting to gossip about subject.

lazyarse123 · 20/12/2025 15:52

My dd makes her own cards and they're always well received. She hasn't bothered this year because she works longer hours atm but i've got last years because i usually keep them so have told her not to bother.
I love them as so much work goes into them.

JLou08 · 20/12/2025 15:50

Christmas cards can be picked up really cheaply. I'd never think a handmade one was sent due to finances.

sparkleghost · 20/12/2025 15:49

I would think it was very thoughtful. The idea that they “couldn’t afford ‘real’ cards” wouldn’t ever enter my head - I know from experience making cards with DS that the materials sometimes ends up costing more in £, and it also costs our time.

vanillalattes · 20/12/2025 15:48

Since you can buy massive packs of cards for a few quid, I'd assume they had a lot of time on their hands and enjoyed being crafty.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 20/12/2025 15:48

I certainly wouldn’t think that they couldn’t afford to buy any! I’d just think they enjoyed making them.
I’m afraid to say, though, that unless made by young dcs/Gdcs, I really don’t want to receive hand made cards - I feel guilty when they inevitably end up in the recycling bin, same as all the others.

Hippee · 20/12/2025 15:48

I love homemade cards.They are the only ones I keep.

Leftsidefacing · 20/12/2025 15:47

People have no appreciation for handmade. I’m a crafter and I’m often stopped in the street and someone has said ‘your scarf/jumper/coat is beautiful, where is it from? And when I’ve said I made it myself there’s a disappointed look, and then usually ‘oh.. well its still nice’.

I’d never give anyone a handmade card or anything else, most of the people I know would think it was a weird thing to do, and tell me so, the cheeky fuckers.

BettysRoasties · 20/12/2025 15:45

I’d think it’s a hobby you enjoy as I know they cost a lot to make when it comes to getting all the bits.

The home made ones I’ve received personally were not my thing but then again it was an elderly relative who loved decoupage were they might not of really looked Christmasy just a card.

Comedycook · 20/12/2025 15:41

Cards are dirty cheap ..I'd assume they enjoyed crafts. I'd think it was a sweet thought butit would also annoy me as i throw cards away after a couple of days and id feel awful about throwing away a homemade card so would feel obliged to keep it

BringBackCatsEyes · 20/12/2025 15:38

Only read OP's posts (I predicted you were going to be the card maker).

The handmade cards I get are the ones I keep in my box of treasures. It includes the one my late Mother made and wrote for me in her last few months of life and didn't get around to sending. I found it while going through her things.

Your efforts are a bit wasted on that particular recipient, OP.

Handyweatherstation · 20/12/2025 15:33

Some of the nicest cards I've had over the years have been handmade and I always get a least a couple every year. They're the ones I keep when others go in the recycling. One woman makes beautiful cards using gold and silver pens which have sparkly bits stuck on in pretty geometric patterns and other people paint designs and print the cards themselves. It's lovely.

ChristmasMantleStatue · 20/12/2025 15:31

I get a handmade one every year. IT's the only one I keep. Because it's a lovely gesture and a mini work of art.

Getofftheunicorn · 20/12/2025 15:31

FestiveFruitloop · 20/12/2025 15:00

Not at all, this is probably the right moment to add the extra context. 😄

I’m the card-maker in question. In all the years of making them for nearest and dearest plus good friends, it’s never occurred to me that anyone might think I was doing it because I couldn’t afford real cards (it actually works out pricier overall, as pps have said! - but it’s my hobby and I love it so I do it anyway, not to get any kind of kudos but simply for fun), and I’m hoping that’s still the case, but when talking to one of said friends (who’s known for years I make them) I thought his reaction was a bit weird this year… he seemed vaguely puzzled, or something, and it got me wondering.

Unintentional drip feed to follow though, as since posting it’s occurred to me that I mentioned I used paper from last year’s pulled crackers in the design - this was because the crackers at a dinner I went to were really nice high end ones with lovely paper, better than a lot of crafting paper I’ve seen, so I asked my friends (who all know I craft) to save their pulled crackers for me. I’m now wondering if this detail is what earned me the funny look 😄 not that I care, just wondering. Hope that helps put some context around my question.

I’ve done that too!
Made cards using lovely papers from crackers, gift bags, packaging etc. I see it as ‘up market’ recycling. 😁

NextDG · 20/12/2025 15:28

Did your friend say something or just seem puzzled? If the latter I’d guess he was puzzled about something else. I can’t imagine anyone would think it was to save money.