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DH has had an awful hair cut.

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ClassicStripe · 20/12/2025 11:02

DH has recently had his hair cut and it looks really awful. He used to have lovely curly hair, which I genuinely loved, but he’s shaved the sides so now it’s like some sort of strange mohawk situation. I honestly can’t get used to it.
He’s a creative and isn’t working much at the moment, and I can’t help wondering if this haircut is related to that?
The problem is every time he walks into the room I’m shocked all over again. I try not to react but I must look visibly startled because he’s noticed I’m not a fan.
I know it’s his hair and it will grow back, but AIBU to feel irrationally annoyed by it? Has anyone else struggled to adjust to a partner’s drastic hair decision, or do I need to get a grip and pretend I like it until it grows out? But I’m also worried that it’s going to grow back all strange lengths!

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MasterBeth · 20/12/2025 11:15

If he's "a creative" then he is just adjusting to his tribe. 2020s mullet. He'll think it looks cool. It's just fashion.

hidinginthebathroomagain · 20/12/2025 11:15

My DH used to have nice rocker hair. Shaved it all off in lockdown and has kept it that way. I’m still not used to it. He looks like a different person.

BabyHairs · 20/12/2025 11:14

I cringe when my DH shaves his beard completely, he still looks great without it but I find it jarring.

While it is his face he doesn’t do it anymore because my reaction was ‘😳☹️’ and he says I have to look at his face more than he does.

Weirdly enough he also has curly hair and if he doesn’t shave the sides he turns into a mushroom, how was it cut before?

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 20/12/2025 11:13

That seems to be the fashion among the fourteen year old ne'er do wells around here! I mean, you really can't say anything, it IS his hair, but you might try pointing out all the scallys and the skateboard boys with the same haircut and he might not try it again.

174ghxt · 20/12/2025 11:12

YANBU to dislike it but you can't really say anything. At least he's got hair!

lemonraspberry · 20/12/2025 11:10

It is his hair. I have made some (really) bad hairstyle decisions in the past and tbh once it is done it is done. It just has to be accepted until it grows a bit. You don't have to like it but just respect its existence and that your DH also has to live with it.

btw I have heard that when a woman suddenly cuts all her hair off it could be a cry for help (think of Brittany Spears as an extreme example). So yes, this change could be related to his work right now.

birdling · 20/12/2025 11:05

It's a shame you don't like it, but as you said, it's his hair.
When it next needs cutting, you could perhaps gently suggest something less drastic, but you can't really say anything at the moment.
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