Friend asking for 'financial support for a few months'...

Jesus. Not is not just CF that is truly awful behaviour. Like others have said, I hope you’ve done a super tight will and I also hope you’re still in remission and it lasts a very long time

Hard no. Voicenote that straight back to her.
This is a hard time of year for you, and I'm so sorry your friend isn't compassionate.

Wishing you well OP. I hope today is going OK for you. Its so hard. Don't give this person another thought, or any more time. She is the U one for even thinking of asking you this. Look after yourself. I hope you manage to find some peace and happiness over Christmas.

I hope you've written a will that doesn't include them!

I hope you have a water-tight will leaving everything to the local cat protection league

@SleafordSods I have a lot of extremely entitled, delusional people in my wider family. As a childless woman the suggestions came with the added twist of ‘well we’ll get everything when you die anyway so you may as well give it to us now’.

One charmer, when I refused their demands, said I was worth more dead than alive to them, so why couldn’t I hurry up and die. I was not long in remission from cancer at the time. Some people are just arseholes!

She's a bloodsucker. I would tell her no, and never contact her again.

The cheek of it!

Just say no.

It really is as simple as that. You owe her nothing.

Ah @winterhaze so sorry for your loss, this time of year must be particularly hard for you, I do hope you manage to have a nice time and find some peace. I may be in a minority here but 'your friend' has asked for this also at the time of year when you are at your most vulnerable. In my opinion, not a friend, very cheeky and pulling on your heart strings as is the interior design 'friend'. Step back, protrct yourself and your money and do something nice for you and maybe something that you and your late husband would have enjoyed but certainly don't give it to someone who has no intention of returning it. Wishing you a restful Christmas 🎄

Absolutely not.
Never mix friends/family with money.

So sorry to hear about your dh. Shes a cheeky bitch, i would reply to her: Sorry seems that you’ve got a bit confused, I’m not a sugar mummy.

I completely agree

Wow that is some breathtaking CF. Why would anyone think you’d be daft enough to agree to any of that?

I hope you have some company today.

If you don't want to help her financially (and there's absolutely no reason why you should) could you sugar the pill by offering to help her budget for a trip, or offering to help plan it? Is she intending to rent out her flat? You could help her to declutter to get it ready for tenants, but only if you're inclined to do that; you are under no obligation.

I suppose your response it depends to some extend on how much you value the friendship.

No why would you even feel the slightest bit obliged .

Exactly!
I can't imagine any reasonable person asking a friend, even if the friend was loaded, to fund them for a few months, especially when it's because they want to doss around rather than work.

God loves a trier, eh. I know you are going to say no @winterhaze but I think giving this ‘friend’ the bum’s rush is appropriate too.

I envy those who are naive enough to think the friend must be desperate to ask such a mad thing. They’ve clearly never encountered an entitled cheeky fucker in the wild.

In the last ten years I’ve had relatives and ex friends ask me to:
Buy them a house - pay deposit and mortgage and sign it over to them once the loan is cleared.
GIVE them my own house.
Put a child through uni. The child in question was 5 at the time but they thought I could start saving towards it.

The only desperation was to get as easy a ride as they could blag through life without having to work hard or make and sacrifices.

I know. The entitlement is so breathtaking, it is creepy: I want to be lazy in luxury - my bereaved friend can just hand over the cash to make this happen.

I lent money to someone I completely trusted. It changed our relationship irrevocably. They professed massive gratitude and agreed an amount to be paid back monthly. Of course it didn't happen (one reason or a other...)

I'd never lend to anyone and certainly not someone who cared so little to not realise what a difficult time of year it is for you

Sorry for your loss, @winterhaze

First post nails it. Close it down unequivocally without excuses or explanations.

She sounds completely flakey and I doubt you’d ever get any money back.

Her request is bizarre. I have no doubt there are millions of people who would like to give up work and go travelling for a while completely funded by someone else. She can dream big all she wants but shouldn’t expect someone else to pay. Don’t feel guilty.

I'm in my late 50s. I have friends that I have known since childhood. None of us have ever asked each other for money. Emotional support yes. Financial advice? Possibly. Actual exchange of cash? Never.
Tell said friend you will not support her. Not can't, won't.

Long story short, she asked me via a voice note if I would be willing to help her financially/support her for a ‘few months’. (My financial position is better than hers, but I am not ‘rich’). I obviously work FT (live on my own) etc… but I really feel taken aback by such a request

Cheeky fuckery. She's shown her colours with this.

I think I would ignore the request since it’s so outrageously rude. If she brings it up again, say: you want me to continue to work full time and subsidise your lifestyle? I can’t believe you’re asking. Of course not.

It’s just not how things work.

Sorry, I voted wrong. I put YABU because I thought it meant unreasonable to consider it.
She is unreasonable and selfish to ask.
Sorry for your loss OP x