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My 1 year old loves everyone but me!!

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Embarrassedmumoftoddler · 20/12/2025 08:31

My DS is 14 months old and it feels like he loves everyone apart from me !!

Just a few examples….

He cries when my mum leaves the room but never did it with me.

When we turn up to see family and I’m carrying him in, he will put his arms out to family but never does to me.

In toddler groups, he will be all over all the other mums, cuddling them and giving him toys but never cuddles me and will cry when I pick him up to take him back to me.

When I picked him up from MIL’s house the other day, he wasn’t even bothered I’d turned up and cried when I picked him up to go.

He actively ignores me whenever we are in company of anyone else.

All I see is other babies and toddlers all over their mums, not wanting to let go of them and my boy can’t wait to be shot of me !! I just don’t know where I’m going wrong as I’d like to think I’m a good mum. I’m a SAHM but seriously considering going back to work as he seems to much prefer my Mum & MIL

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Embarrassedmumoftoddler · 20/12/2025 08:48

Pushmepullyou · 20/12/2025 08:37

My daughter was very much like this - it was a bit crushing. She is 17 now and we are really close - it was just a phase. I think it is because he is secure with you and feels able to take your love for granted, which is a good thing really!

It’s so crushing and embarrassing ! Just feeling like I do all the rubbish bits and then don’t get any of the joy of the nice bits as he goes out his way to ignore me.

that’s nice you are now close to your DD, has it taken 17 years ?! As he’s a boy, I can’t imagine it will change for me sadly.

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Thisiswhathappens · 20/12/2025 08:40

My son was a bit like this. I felt hurt at the time but actually came to realise that I was his constant, he didn’t need to cry when I left because he knew I was coming back unlike other family members including DH.

I know people might disagree but you are his safety net. Like my mum always says ‘they always play their mother up’ doesn’t mean he loves you any less

Pushmepullyou · 20/12/2025 08:37

My daughter was very much like this - it was a bit crushing. She is 17 now and we are really close - it was just a phase. I think it is because he is secure with you and feels able to take your love for granted, which is a good thing really!

Embarrassedmumoftoddler · 20/12/2025 08:33

Also when I try to play with him when it’s just us at home he will push my hand away. He also does this when I’m feeding, will lift up my hand and push it away

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