I have been with DH since we were young.
He’s a great dad to our kids, has a great job and works very hard to provide for us. He’s a great DH and my best friend.
The one issue I have is his drinking and this is where I need perspective as I don’t drink alcohol (stopped around 5 years ago) and don’t know if I’m being dramatic.
He doesn’t drink every night but he’s out once or twice a week (which I absolutely don’t mind, we still do lots as a family and this is his downtime) but he can’t just go out and have a couple, he is definitely a binge drinker. I have a serious fear of sick, being sick, hearing people being sick etc and he knows this. 7/10 nights he’s out I would say he comes home and is sick.
He normally makes the bathroom but he’s that drunk there’s sick from one end of the room to the other and he’s too drunk to clean it at the time and i can’t leave it until the morning 1. For hygiene and 2. For the kids waking up. So I find myself after a night of worrying about the state he’s going to come home in then spending an hour of my evening cleaning up after him.
Iv really had enough of it and it makes me sad cause we have such a nice life but this is also such a big part of it and I’m at the end of my tether with it. I’m going to speak to him tomorrow and tell him all my feelings and that I really want things to change but what’s the ultimatum if he doesn’t?! The thought of leaving seems very dramatic but I don’t know if that’s just because he minimises the situation when it happens and because I don’t drink makes it out like it’s just a part of life!
Any perspective good or bad is welcomed before I speak with him in the morning!