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Boss has amnesia

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Whatstfpoint · 19/12/2025 22:03

I need to vent. I feel so unseen and dismissed at work. I cannot get over the latest incident. My manager asked me months ago if I would be up for leading a team to which I said yes. He said great and that the change would be made in a few months.

I was already managing some people in an informal way so thought I'm happy to continue until the it's being made formal.

Turns out my boss forgot the conversation ever took place. The change is six months overdue, he didn't initiate the necessary conversations with his bosses etc.

I feel like such a mug for keeping things together and basically managing work when it wasn't even my role yet. I have dropped what I can to make it his problem and just focus on my own work.

I feel so upset and even betrayed. I'm angry that I work for such a moron. I can't even speak to him because I'm so angry.

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FerrisWheelsandLilacs · 20/12/2025 10:13

Whatstfpoint · 19/12/2025 23:57

Yes. If he asks to meet I will ask to send an email telling me what the meeting is about about and then I will decide.

I thought about sending a summary of each conversation but I hate having to manage him. It reminds me of all the women on here having to manage their husbands.

He's just another useless man. I'm not going to enable him.

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Your career is yours for you to manage. This isn’t about managing him, this is another managing your career.

If you don’t want the promotion, fine. If you do, then you’re cutting your nose off to spite your face.

It’s annoying to work with incompetent managers, but you naive if you expect him to care about your progression more than you do.

Fiftyandme · 19/12/2025 23:59

You’re being used

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Whatstfpoint · 19/12/2025 23:57

TissuesSnotCough · 19/12/2025 23:52

Email and paper trail is your friend here.
Sorry you have such a crap boss

Yes. If he asks to meet I will ask to send an email telling me what the meeting is about about and then I will decide.

I thought about sending a summary of each conversation but I hate having to manage him. It reminds me of all the women on here having to manage their husbands.

He's just another useless man. I'm not going to enable him.

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TissuesSnotCough · 19/12/2025 23:52

Email and paper trail is your friend here.
Sorry you have such a crap boss

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Whatstfpoint · 19/12/2025 23:49

TalulahJP · 19/12/2025 23:45

am i right in thinking he said you’d get a new position but youve heard nowt?

have you discussed the lack of said position with him yet? if not you should push him again to find out whats happening.

Yes sort of. I manage him all the time because he is a clueless idiot. I'm tired of it and won't push anymore. I will just drop some work and focus on my own role. I'm just there for the money which is excellent.

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TalulahJP · 19/12/2025 23:45

am i right in thinking he said you’d get a new position but youve heard nowt?

have you discussed the lack of said position with him yet? if not you should push him again to find out whats happening.

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Whatstfpoint · 19/12/2025 23:42

CheeseWisely · 19/12/2025 23:00

I hear you OP. Not to the same extent but my MD definitely has a habit of forgetting conversations, or forgetting who had an idea that turned out to be particularly successful. He’s retiring next year to be replaced by an MD half his age, who I hope has better information retention!

There is forgetting conversations and then there is forgetting THESE conversations. I know he forgets stuff. I never thought he would forget this. I mean what else am I supposed to do if my boss cannot keep track of ONE career progression conversation HE wanted to have. He hardly ever checks in with me and he couldn't even keep track of this. Apparently it was the first he heard of it.

I'm so angry because in typical woman fashion I started to doubt my own memory and whether I should have made sure this or that until I thought FUCK THIS SHIT.

Fucking prick.

I hope your new MD will be a delight.

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Whatstfpoint · 19/12/2025 23:37

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/12/2025 22:58

So has he said he now won’t initiate the changes?

He has not said yes or no. I don't even care anymore. Im just there for the money but I thought a bit of a change would help against the boredom. He said he'd speak to me about my situation in the weeks before Christmas which hasn't happened. And it wouldn't have gone well from my side. Im just doing my job description now.

It's not even about the change. It's the forgetting and him just not having a fucking clue. He even asked me weeks before 'so what do you do', which I took to mean he wondered what I do all day. I have worked in this job for years.

What a fucking prick.

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CheeseWisely · 19/12/2025 23:00

I hear you OP. Not to the same extent but my MD definitely has a habit of forgetting conversations, or forgetting who had an idea that turned out to be particularly successful. He’s retiring next year to be replaced by an MD half his age, who I hope has better information retention!

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/12/2025 22:58

So has he said he now won’t initiate the changes?

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Whatstfpoint · 19/12/2025 22:25

Prick.

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