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Im worried my partner is going to come in from a works night out and think he’s entitled to sex

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youarebeingsoextrarightnow · 19/12/2025 21:05

He is going to come in and think he is entitled to sex, is this normal? I read the question back and it’s a no

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Parky04 · 22/12/2025 08:25

Your original post was very misleading! You don't have to have sex if you don't want to, but don't expect your partner to accept it. Your relationship will probably end.

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youarebeingsoextrarightnow · 22/12/2025 07:41

Hi, i'm fine, nothing happened.

We haven't had it for weeks, I'm not interested, think its menopause. He gets a bit moody about it sometimes. He has never forced himself on me.

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JudgeBread · 20/12/2025 02:07

missmollygreen · 19/12/2025 21:20

No person is entitled to sex, ever.

Fixed it for you.

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Oh shut up. Not every thread needs a "sWiTcH tHe GeNdErS" angle. This particular thread is about a man, ergo the sentence you "fixed" didn't need fixing.

anon4net · 20/12/2025 02:04

I hope you are okay @youarebeingsoextrarightnow

No one is ever entitled to sex. Nor should anyone force, coerce, guilt/shame you into doing anything intimate.

Please take good care. The fact you are worried about this means there's something that isn't right in your relationship.

Incelebration · 20/12/2025 02:01

Livelovelaughfuckoff · 19/12/2025 21:22

Whilst I agree no one is entitled ”fixed it for you” is such a knobbish thing to write.

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Agree. Plus the OP is about a man, plus (let's be honest) this kind of behaviour is much more prevalent amongst men.

Nearly50omg · 20/12/2025 01:39

He’s a rapist if he thinks he is “entitled” and tries to force you or ignores you sleeping etc . As you are worried I think you need to look into this and start 2026 as a year without having to worry about being forced into sex!

Ilovelurchers · 19/12/2025 23:17

Worried about you OP - are you safe?

If you are concerned he will rape you, please do what you need to to make yourself safe tonight - can you go stay with a friend or family member?

As others have said, it's fairly normal to want sex with your partner after a few drinks. Depending on the relationship, it may be normal to expect it. (I currently have two FWBs I am sleeping with - both know it's not exclusive - and when I arrange a night out with either I very much expect sex to be part of that, as do they. Nobody believes it's their right, tho, or is anything other than lovely if, for whatever reason, it actually isn't on the cards).

"Believing you are entitled to it" is a whole different level.

But the truly worrying thing is what he does if you don't comply. If the answer is anything other than "remain loving, respectful and polite" this isn't a safe relationship for you to stay in.....

Pippa12 · 19/12/2025 23:13

This is ominous. Does he come in and hope he’s going to get lucky because he’s pissed but accepts it’s a no then immediately falls asleep snores his head of and stinks the room out with kebab breath- normal. Or does he come home and go on and on in a mood until you do it anyway (one way or another)- not normal.

InfoSecInTheCity · 19/12/2025 23:11

What will he do if you say no?

blackrabbitwhiterabbit · 19/12/2025 23:11

What? Just say no!

If he gets pushy, kick him out or call the police.

RacingAcrossTheSofa · 19/12/2025 23:09

No one is ever entitled to sex.

If you are worried about this, that’s a problem.

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 19/12/2025 23:09

Anyone may feel in the mood but sex is consensual and nobody is entitled to get it. Pressure isn’t willing consent.

Fends · 19/12/2025 23:08

Entitled? To your body however he wants it? Ugh, no, of course not

CherryBlossom321 · 19/12/2025 23:07

missmollygreen · 19/12/2025 21:20

No person is entitled to sex, ever.

Fixed it for you.

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This conversation is about a man expecting sex, so you “fixed” absolutely nothing.

CherryBlossom321 · 19/12/2025 23:06

Is this a standard thing for him, OP? Does he go on nights out, and then come home expecting you to be “ready” for him?

CraftyPlayer · 19/12/2025 23:04

missmollygreen · 19/12/2025 21:20

No person is entitled to sex, ever.

Fixed it for you.

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There’s always one 🙄

hope you’re ok OP

Dollymylove · 19/12/2025 23:00

Ugh nothing worse than being slobbered over by a drunk. Tell him hes sleeping on the couch

Pleasegodgotosleep · 19/12/2025 22:47

Are you safe?

IsitaHatOrACat · 19/12/2025 22:25

Who is at home with you? Do you have DC there?
Talk to us on here. There's support for you

BellissimoGecko · 19/12/2025 22:21

Sweetie, of course he’s not.

Are you safe? Do you feel you need to leave? Do you have anywhere to go?

IndieRocknRoll · 19/12/2025 22:00

missmollygreen · 19/12/2025 21:20

No person is entitled to sex, ever.

Fixed it for you.

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The OP is referring to a man so no need for the ‘gotcha’ really is there? 🙄

blacksax · 19/12/2025 21:54

No, he's not entitled to help himself to your body whenever he feels like it, and particularly not if you don't want to.

Shoxfordian · 19/12/2025 21:43

He isn't entitled to sex ever
Does he make you feel like you have to agree to it? Are you safe?

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 19/12/2025 21:41

missmollygreen · 19/12/2025 21:20

No person is entitled to sex, ever.

Fixed it for you.

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Why have you "fixed" a sentence that wasn't incorrect?

The poster was right as no man is entitled to sex.

SilenceInside · 19/12/2025 21:23

No, as you’ve realised yourself it isn’t normal. No man is entitled to sex.

Are you on your own at home?

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