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To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

387 replies

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

OP posts:
Lilactimes · 20/12/2025 18:34

absolute idiot and would def dump him before I got too attached. He's got no idea how to behave well x

Justbreathagain · 20/12/2025 18:32

Get rid. Awful behaviour and if he does that what else does he do that is anti social. Ew

Northerlad · 20/12/2025 18:29

Get rid now

Mackerelfillets · 20/12/2025 18:15

I wouldnt dump him immediately if you get on well but explain its a deal beaker if he does anything like that again. If he gets arsey then end it.

Daughter1234 · 20/12/2025 18:15

Going to do it and then stopping when you protested and saying yeah that was awful of me .to even consider doing that. Maybe I’d clock it and see how it went for a while if I liked him ( but it would dent my view of him tbh)
Ignoring you begging him not to do it ( even if it wasn’t your car) would absolutely put me off and Î’d also be thinking he wasn’t that bothered about me anyway.

Nicho59 · 20/12/2025 18:09

FFS how shallow can you be. He was probably a bit pissed

Toooldtocare25 · 20/12/2025 18:09

Is his car reg PEN 1S
scummy chavvy bellend

awrbc81 · 20/12/2025 18:05

Yep that would be an absolute no for me, dump!

catlover123456789 · 20/12/2025 17:55

Get rid. This behaviour will be part of a pattern of disrespect. Tell him why you are ending it and I'd love to know his reaction.

MrDobbs · 20/12/2025 17:49

I don't have any friends that would do this let alone people I would have a relationship with.

ThatHazelSnail · 20/12/2025 17:45

That’s such an ick, I would have to end it.

Soashamed60 · 20/12/2025 17:43

I'd get the ick, cant stand litter louts

Tuesdayschild50 · 20/12/2025 17:39

I'd hate that.. its ok throwing rubbish out of your car while your driving yet he's anonymous not to mention being a scruff.
Dump him.

Wordsmithery · 20/12/2025 13:01

Bin him, along with the empty can.

AhBiscuits · 20/12/2025 11:50

I love that it's nearly unanimous on the vote. It's good to have standards. This guy is a useless shitbag.

The13thFairy · 20/12/2025 10:24

6 weeks is hardly a relationship ~ just as well, though, as this is a righteous reason to end it and at least you won't have got too fond of him. What next? Spitting in the street?

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Sartre · 20/12/2025 08:58

Disregard for the planet is a massive ick. I’d bin him.

UninitendedShark · 20/12/2025 08:44

Get rid.

greenpurplesocks · 20/12/2025 08:41

Awful behaviour- get rid!

IsawwhatIsaw · 20/12/2025 08:40

Throwing rubbish out of the window isn’t a tiny thing. It tells a lot about the sort of person he is.

Linksrechtsgeradeaus · 20/12/2025 08:37

A couple of pp say this could be a one-off and trivial. It won't be.

There are those who would never dream of dropping litter, no matter how small it is or where they are, and those who don't care and happily leave their rubbish anywhere. You don't just once throw a can out of a car.

That's apart from the issue of him ignoring her request not to.

HugglesAndSnuggles · 20/12/2025 08:19

It’s been 6 weeks and you’re not invested, bin him off. Guaranteed this won’t be the only gross thing he does either. If you were married and it was the only time he’d done it in 35 years, you could probably let it slide with a telling off (assuming he was normally not a dick) but this isn’t cool.

APC303 · 20/12/2025 08:14

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 19/12/2025 17:10

Yep - put him in the bin

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I'd be more inclined to toss him out the window of a moving car, the dirty bastard.

Swash89 · 20/12/2025 06:08

What a twat. Dump him.