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To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

387 replies

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

OP posts:
nadine90 · 19/12/2025 17:57

I’d have said YANBU from the title alone because you’re allowed to go off someone for no reason at all after a month. But I wouldn’t want to associate in any way with someone like that, let alone date them. Proper scummy behaviour, how embarrassing!

BigMommasHouse · 19/12/2025 17:57

I would.

it would be clear that we don’t share the same values. He is massively ignorant and entitled, no respect for the environment, no respect for you.

It would give me the ick. There would be no coming back

crazeekat · 19/12/2025 17:56

Ltb

Chinsupmeloves · 19/12/2025 17:55

Can't stand this selfish and lazy littering, would tell him off big time and be concerned this is his attitude to life. If he realised it was wrong and changed then some hope.

JoshLymanSwagger · 19/12/2025 17:55

Nope.

Thank God you found out now that he's a knob incompatible with your principles, or y'know, anyones🤦🏻‍♀️

blueshoes · 19/12/2025 17:55

100% voted YANBU

I think it is pretty unanimous 😁

Woventwigs888 · 19/12/2025 17:55

Hadalifeonce · 19/12/2025 17:43

I would have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick it up.

Me too!

DuchessofStaffordshire · 19/12/2025 17:54

I'd ceremonious dump him by going round to his house and emptying a bin bag full of rubbish on his floor. What a twat.

TruJay · 19/12/2025 17:54

I’d have stopped the car and made him go pick it up and if he didn’t I’d have made him get out and would have driven away but I HATE littering, so unnecessary.

Dillydollydingdong · 19/12/2025 17:54

Dreadful. I couldn't put up with that.

itbemay1 · 19/12/2025 17:53

I’d would have stopped the car and he either picked it up or I’d have made him get out. Grim

TwistedWonder · 19/12/2025 17:52

HippopotamusForChristmas · 19/12/2025 17:13

I thought this was going to be another eye roll where the woman dumps a perfectly decent guy because he said something slightly imperfect but nope... get rid. He's an immature, dirty scutter. A fucking tramp.

100% this. I was half expecting him wearing the wrong shoes or asking for extra ketchup for his chips but not this.

OP - he’s a scummy little tramp with no respect for you or the environment so in the bin with him

EmeraldRoulette · 19/12/2025 17:52

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:14

What gets me is that he didn't even need to throw the rubbish immediately. It seemed like he just done it for the thrill of it. No morals

Blimey
What's he like normally if this is his idea of a thrill?!

Congratulations on a unanimous vote! Yeah, sorry you have to get rid. No loss though.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 19/12/2025 17:51

How old is he? 15?

Catsbreakfast · 19/12/2025 17:51

I hate people who litter. It’s brain dead, entitled behaviour. You do the right thing. He’s shown you who he is

Nanof8 · 19/12/2025 17:50

Have you talked to him about it? Did he do it just because you asked him not to?
It's only been a few weeks, I'd definitely take a step back from this relationship.

HighlyUnusual · 19/12/2025 17:49

I pick up litter in my local area, so would be completely incompatible with anyone who did this. I'm betting that's not the only anti-social and selfish thing he does either, these things are always signs of something bigger. Great guys don't throw rubbish out of car windows!

BotterMon · 19/12/2025 17:47

Disgusting slobby uneducated behaviour. Get rid and be sure to tell him why. Somebody so disrespectful in a new relationship to both you and the planet will only get worse.

Being dumped over it may teach him a lesson - we can but hope.

Rainbowcat77 · 19/12/2025 17:45

Oh absolutely, I hate this sort of thing with a passion!
but as others have said it isn’t just the littering it’s that he knew you didn’t want him to do it and went ahead anyway. It wasn’t mindless scruffiness it was deliberate.
Definitely throw this one back.

Hadalifeonce · 19/12/2025 17:43

I would have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick it up.

powershowerforanhour · 19/12/2025 17:42

Dirty ignorant bastard. Get rid.

Eyeshadow · 19/12/2025 17:41

Always judge people on how they treat those beneath them - that includes workers like cleaners and animals/nature.

He has no respect for any of these and he also has no respect for you.

CraftyPlayer · 19/12/2025 17:41

Nearly50omg · 19/12/2025 17:11

I’d have stopped the car and told him to get out and pick that can up and then driven off when he got out and left him 🤬

This! Me too. Dump him (in the bin).

LuxuryWoman2020 · 19/12/2025 17:41

This really isn't a 'tiny' thing. He's an oik, do you really want a litterbug who ignores your requests for a boyfriend?

Chasbots · 19/12/2025 17:40

Tho what's up with the elbows on the table thing? This doesn't equate to manners, it's a whole level worse than lack of ettiquette.

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