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To end 1 month relationship over this tiny thing

387 replies

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

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TaffetaPhrases · 19/12/2025 18:11

Complete red flag.

ElectoralControversy · 19/12/2025 18:09

I shouldn't laugh, but if you'd posted some red flags for abuse/misogyny there would be people saying maybe give him another chance, he didn't mean it, he was awkward etc

Chucked a coke can out the car? Fuck that noise, 100% say get rid 🤣

dentalflosser · 19/12/2025 18:09

I regularly go out litter picking with my young DC as there is a local group. It’s arseholes like your boyfriend OP that really piss us off.
The amount of drink cans, McDonalds rubbish and crisp packets we collect is ridiculous. I’ve taught both my kids about putting rubbish in bins.
Red flag from me, imagine having a child with him and him teaching the child bad habits like this!

Magicpaintbrush · 19/12/2025 18:08

Omfg. I would dump him with immediate effect for doing that. Fucking pig. Disgusting.

spiderlight · 19/12/2025 18:08

That would be the end of it for me, no question.

Periperi2025 · 19/12/2025 18:08

I voted YANBU before even reading you post, as you can dump someone you've been dating for a matter of weeks for ANY reason you want.

But you are definetly not BU to get the ick over that.

Tpu · 19/12/2025 18:07

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:14

What gets me is that he didn't even need to throw the rubbish immediately. It seemed like he just done it for the thrill of it. No morals

It was partially for the thrill, but it was also a test to see if you accept him doing something shitty - especially when it is done so brazenly,. Next time he will do something shittier, and make you complicit.

Definitely dump him.

lordmadresfield · 19/12/2025 18:07

Absolutely despise littering.

Pedallleur · 19/12/2025 18:07

Won't be the first time. Maybe one of those who dumps his car litter/takeaway packing on the street or car park. Get rid of him now. He won't improve

ResusciAnnie · 19/12/2025 18:06

YANBU that’s grotty behaviour.

Lifelover16 · 19/12/2025 18:06

In the bin with him along with his can.
ignorant pig for doing it and ignoring your request not to.

ScreamingBeans · 19/12/2025 18:05

He's a savage. Dump him.

Icantsaythis · 19/12/2025 18:04

bicyclecrash · 19/12/2025 17:07

or am I being dramatic?

Please be honest if im overreacting. Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for 6 weeks, it's going really well. Yesterday we went out for dinner and I drove us back to mine after. On the way back, he rolled down the window and threw his empty drink can out of my car. As soon as he rolled down the window i knew that was what he was going to and asked / begged him not to as I'm the one who's car it is and I don't want someone posting my car all over the local facebook group saying rubbish is being thrown out of it.

Also it gave me the ick. I find it a bit grim that he couldn't wait 10 mins till we got to my house to throw his rubbish away.

Yes finish it.
multiple reasons
against the law
he could of recycled it
could of hit or injured someone
you asked him not to
you shouldn’t of needed to beg hi
he ignored you
his disrespected you, your driving and the free lift what a total twat

firstofallimadelight · 19/12/2025 18:03

I agree dump him. For two reasons, firstly for thinking littering is acceptable and secondly (and most importantly ) you ask him not to do something and he chose to ignore you and do it anyway . It would have been so easy for him to go fair enough I won’t and roll the window up but he couldn’t do that.

Laura95167 · 19/12/2025 18:03

You dont owe him a relationship. Tbh its more an icky he kept going when you asked him not to than he would do it anyway with no concern for the area environment or passers by

Newusername3kidss · 19/12/2025 18:02

Absolutely grim. I would have stopped the car and made him go and pick it up. Definite red flag. Sounds like a dick

StephensLass1977 · 19/12/2025 18:01

Get rid of this pig.

Christmaseree · 19/12/2025 18:01

BigMommasHouse · 19/12/2025 17:57

Also he is not your boyfriend’ after 6 weeks. He is a date. Throw this one back, raise the bar

Why can’t he be a boyfriend after six weeks?

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 19/12/2025 18:00

I couldn't go out with someone who did this. It tells you what type of person he is.

Christmaseree · 19/12/2025 18:00

So bin him.

tinyspiny · 19/12/2025 17:59

I’d have stopped the car as soon as it was safe to do so and told him to fetch it . Definitely get rid @bicyclecrash

Countduckula52 · 19/12/2025 17:59

Knuckle dragging Neanderthal. Throw him back.

Glitterybee · 19/12/2025 17:58

I think this is the most unanimous poll result that I’ve ever seen on here.

That’s easily answered OP

Linksrechtsgeradeaus · 19/12/2025 17:58

BigMommasHouse · 19/12/2025 17:57

I would.

it would be clear that we don’t share the same values. He is massively ignorant and entitled, no respect for the environment, no respect for you.

It would give me the ick. There would be no coming back

Exactly.
It's not a tiny thing, OP.

BigMommasHouse · 19/12/2025 17:57

Also he is not your boyfriend’ after 6 weeks. He is a date. Throw this one back, raise the bar

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