Would you accept this?

I would dump him just for the stupidity, let alone everything else.

Bloody right. This is work, not on tinder.

I've found some of the comments on this thread really fascinating. There has been a huge shift in workplace policy/expectations over the past year and the duty on employers to proactively prevent sexual harassment, including harassment from third parties like clients and customers. We all need to change our ways as "banter" however banal you think it is, can make a workplace toxic. If you don't recognise the need for change you will become part of the problem.

I'm sorry your DH has lost his job, hopefully he will learn a lesson from this and behave differently in the future.

Sexual comments in the workplace are not ok and a stackable offense

What sort of job does he do?
Man here, and recently changed jobs. My previous company it didn't happen at all, my current company it's all over the place.
I'm not that way inclined but was in my youth, I tend to ignore it but equally makes me isolated.

As for betraying you? You know your husband, you know what he usually like. Is it more the embarrassment that he was like this in public? Or maybe you don't know your husband, then he has betrayed you.

Its utterly moronic isn’t it?

Even if you are OK with “banter” (which is almost always a euphemism for bullying in my experience), surely you would have to be thick as mince to think you could get away with doing it about customers?

FFS

I’m really glad @surreygirlyposted. On online dating, when men say ‘women are just as bad’, I’d never really believed them. And here we have it, sexism and objectifying women is banter and you must be really unfunny if you don’t get it. No, @surreygirly, just no.

your husband is a dickhead op. I doubt it was as innocent as you’ve detailed, nor that he was a one off.

Déjà vu! I thought I’d already read about this!

You're married to a stupid misogynist who is too thick to keep his hands and comments to himself in his workplace.

If it's got to the level of a sackable offence, it's far worse than he's telling you.

Wow that's a whole different boardgame to some sexist pig comments

Also not appropriate to have this kind of talk in the office

Id say there is more to it.

Saying those things just to colleagues would get him a warning not sacked unless there is more

OP on your other thread on this subject, you said that your husband had also touched some of his female colleagues as they walked past him.

So it hasn't just been verbal remarks that have got him sacked.

I'm not sure why you've started another thread though. You got lots of advice on your other one.

Yes, banter commenting on some poor womans breasts.... thats all it is.
/s

You forgot to leave the international sign for sarcasm on your post as clearly you are not serious

Please tell me you’re trolling?

OP - I’m actually shocked that he told you the reason he’d been sacked. I’m willing to bet the reality is much, much worse.

You aren't that fussy about how you're treated by men obviously.
According to the poll and myself included prefer to be respected and treated properly. Not as a slab of meat to be drooled over and having 3 orifices to shag by a scummy bloke who thinks it's okay to perv over our teen/adult d's.

Office banter between employees who are ok with it is fine, but completely different to an employee making comments about customers. That is not ok and he should be disciplined for it.

Oh my goodness.

Reading some of the posts on this thread I'm beginng to think I'e woken up in a time warp and I'm back in the 20th century. You know: those days when misogynistic language and behaviour and objectification of women was just considered the norm.

Of course you’re not being unreasonable in feeling the way you do. I’d be mega pissed off and angry if my husband lost his job over his own stupidity. I do wonder though if he’s had warnings before and not heeded them as to be suddenly sacked seems extreme.
My guess is the comments were made within earshot of the customers and they’ve complained. There’s a huge difference between banter amongst colleagues and making such comments in front of customers.

Probably the tip of a more unpleasant iceberg.

He sounds revolting

100% will not have been the first time. There will have been warnings. What a sleaze.

Absolutely mad some of these comments. I would guess there is a little more to this story, I wouldn’t imagine it’s the first strike….

It’s clear misogynistic behaviour. I guess your question is whether you are overreacting to feel betrayed and not whether he should have been given the sack….

If it was my husband, I would have the ick big time. Shows a complete lack of self control, belittling perv type behaviour. How embarrassing to be the customer, would make me feel so self conscious and uncomfortable. I think my husband would probably feel like a complete idiot if it were him.

Where did he work, bar, gym, hospital, old folks home? Either way it's awful behaviour and he's rightly been sacked

Office banter between colleagues is one thing but giving the same treatment to customers is not the same at all, no wonder he got sacked.

@surreygirly just to be clear: are you saying you think an employee who makes insulting comments about customers should be protected?