Sons GF- AGHHHHHHH Part 2- Christmas Miracle

She is probably searching for her next victim

It really shows how bloody difficult it is trying to do the best for your kids.

18 may be technically an adult, but still immature and inexperienced and yes, even boys can be vulnerable to manipulation at this age.

Hope you all have a relaxing holiday time and wish your boy all the best for 2026.

(We did have a similar experience with DS and all is absolutely fine now!)

So glad it's over and she showed her true colours sooner rather than later. Your original thread gave me a nervous twitch as I have a similar sounding son (tall and handsome but no confidence with girls, prolific gamer with a nice group of friends who he doesn't see very frequently socially due to said gaming/introversion) and I could 100% see this kind of thing happening to him.
What a relief for you all!

Is this some kind of catfishing situation and the gf is actually an obese, very hairy 50yo man with no job? 🤣 Sorry I didn’t see the original thread - can someone link it?

@Soontobe60

Think OP and her husband were just being honest, hun. It’s allowed.

What an absolute relief. Well done!

Well done op and well done to your son.

I would suggest your son shuts down any of his social media profiles temporarily or makes himself unsearchable /uncontactable. As she probably would make new profiles to message him.

Now you just need to help him to avoid these situations in the future. He probably needs to work on his self esteem.

That might just have been the catalyst that made him realise that there is no future with this batshit woman. He's well rid 😆

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So pleased for you and for him. Poor lad, what an awful situation.
I think you’ve handled this so well OP. I hope you have some peaceful, fun times over Christmas.

Good work OP! She won’t harm herself but if she did it would be because of her own mental vulnerabilities which way predate your son’s ’relationship’ with her.

but yes be prepared for some panicked backtracking from him over the next few days, luckily Christmas will have lots of distractions for you all.

You and your DH sound amazing, op. Your poor boy, I hope he has a nice relaxing Christmas now she's gone.

Well done and what a great outcome. I would put the passport safely somewhere slightly inaccessible so if he has a wobble and decides he needs to fly to her there will be a built in delay.

I’m so pleased for him ❤️❤️

She is poisonous!
She is the type of person who encourages people to kill themselves.

Its so scary how these people exist and there’s nothing anyone can do about it.

Once that spell is broken your son will feel a million times better.
The concern now is that he might worry about her if she’s threatened suicide in the past.
You have a close relationship and so I’d say if he ever has a weak moment to let you or one of his friends know and to never contact her off his phone.

Was about to say this. Great work, @OneCheeryGoldMoose. I’m so glad you have your Christmas Miracle!

@OneCheeryGoldMoose I read the previous thread and I was also team hide passport.
I have an adult son (teenager still but technically adult) and a few years ago he entered a relationship with a girl from school that quickly became super toxic, quite honestly from both sides. It was super dramatic and both of them threatening to hurt themselves. It was a nightmare and even when one blocked the other they’d see each other in classes. Her parents were of the opinion teens are dramatic but I was desperate to get DS to understand that his relationship was unhealthy and this needed to be a pattern he broke. She was verbally and physically abusive to him, also financially, he would say he wanted to die without her. Equally as abusive but in a different way.
DH and I sent DS to counselling and have discussed (until we’re all bored to death of the topic) what to expect in healthy relationships, what’s green and red flags, how tolerating abuse or threatening behaviours etc are all deeply inappropriate and harmful. It’s been a rough few years and we see a much happier and healthier young man. We worked on his self esteem and confidence which has improved massively. We also discussed the importance of never leading someone on and clear communication etc, I won’t lie it’s been heavy. He has almost needed guiding through everything with a firm hand as opposed to being able to learn from experience. At his age I’d have cracked on but he and his ex really did have this intense relationship very quickly. They went from saying hello in maths to being Romeo and Juliette within days.
I wonder with this generation of kids was being at home and not with peers for massive chunks
of the pandemic lead to disconnect from reality and they are a bit behind with romantic relationships? It all felt very immature even for 15/16 year olds and DH and I have heard similar stories from friends with similarly aged DC.

As I say we’re out the trenches now but the road to get here was tough and I pray that he doesn’t end up in anything like this again but I guess I have to wait and see. I do think with young people parenting is so hard, they have to learn and grow but they also are so vulnerable.

Best of luck to you all x

Thanks for updating. I read your previous thread but didn’t comment because I didn’t want to terrify you.

I had a very good friend who was murdered by psychotic girlfriend aged 20. He just wouldn’t listen to any of us about how insane and dangerous she was and he paid the ultimate price.

Over forty years have passed and I still think of the life he missed out on.

I hope your son moves on from this stronger and wiser. 💐

I think it's great parenting – he needed to know how despairing they were and how far they were prepared to go to protect him. Extreme tough love, but necessary.

Good news! I hope the poor lad can enjoy a peaceful Christmas, now she’s gone. Well done to you & Dad.

I’m stumped at people who think scammers would want a young lad to quit his job…. What would be the point of that!!
scammers want money not waste their time chatting to someone who doesn’t even have a job

This doesn't tend to be how those romance scammers play it.

Fantastic parenting. Well done. Your DS has learned a lesson, but without any lasting repercussions to his life or his safety.

Why?

I’ve lived this with an ex partner, it’s a very common tactic used by abusers!

a scammer wouldn’t want him to quit his job would they?!… they’d be asking for money!

I'm pretty sure they face timed?