Brother saying he would never date a British girl

Let him crack on, it sounds quite immature to base your dating preferences on just an accent but that's his business.

Yes, you are right. I was applying the wording as used in online red pill circles, where what they do mean by "Western" is in fact Anglo, and (in their heads) "Western," in relation to women, is synonymous with feminism, promiscuity and not being submissive to men. I doubt they spend much time wondering whether Slovakian or Estonian women are included in their definitions, especially since they're US/Anglo-centric anyway.

These are very specific things though. And while it may be a bit shallow (fwiw I would think these things but probably refrain from saying them out loud) I think it’s very different from a sweeping ‘I don’t like British girls’. Britain is a vastly diverse country so what exactly is the brother disliking? I think the answer, if he ever admitted it, would probably turn out to be quite unpleasant.

I clicked on this thread thinking you were my sister in law talking about my brother in law but you're not. He too said 'he doesn't like British women' and likes 'exotic women' but his ex was definitely far from exotic 🤷 strange but whatever really it's his preference

I would be curious to know what he looks like. I bet plenty of British girls wouldn't date him.

if he was attracted to a specific physical attribute, like blond hair, that would be acceptable. We don't choose who we fancy - it just is.
But saying he wouldn't date a whole nationality is not a physical/attraction preference, since we are not an homogenous mass (in terms of appearance or personality), based on what our passport says. So, this is more in the realms of discrimination and gives me incel vibes.

You're thinking too hard about it. I'm also from the UK, always found men from other countries in Europe more 'exotic and interesting'. Married someone from a different European country. Accents, different cultures etc are fascinating. Teen daughter likes Asian men. Different appearances have attracted people since we first started moving around the Earth.

You've just proven the pp right.

Not from me, lots of people dont find different ethnicities attractive and some do, its ok. Lots of black people say they wouldnt date a white person, that is also ok.

Your brother sounds like a knob.

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He's only spoken about the Anglo countries... there's a lot more countries with white western women. E.g. the rest of Europe.

I think it is fine and understand where he is coming from. I am with someone non-British but if I could choose again, I would love a Welsh man as I find the accent so attractive. I also have a male friend who I knew would end up with someone from another country and he married a beautiful French woman. British girls never really got him, he was always friend zoned by them. It was hard to explain why, he was a bit different, but his differences were less obvious to someone from another country and they are very happy.

Oh dont be ridiculous, the whole sexual attraction thing is about what you like and what you dont like and that means inherently people 'cut themselves off' from possibilities.

Thread after thread on this site is about what one or other poster 'couldnt live with that' type of thing or doesnt want someone who cant do this or that etc. Also physical things like 'teeth' crop up constantly

Doesn't remotely surprise me that MN can dish it out but can't take it when suddenly they're the ones in the unwanted category.

I think saying that he doesn’t like British girls is just daft, they’re not all the same! So unless he doesn’t have some attraction to “foreign” accents I don’t get it.

when I was younger I’d never have dated a pint swilling, football loving type of bloke. Which might be a stereotypical view of English men in their 20s. But i wouldn’t have said that I’m not going to date English men. There’s plenty of men who don’t fit that stereotype.

i wonder what it is about British girls which he doesn’t like.

LOL at all the outrage in this thread when people proudly proclaim on here all the time that they wont date men under 6 foot tall or men who dont earn over 100K a year because they "dont find them attractive".

All of us have dating preferences and people are lying if they say they dont.

No different to a woman saying that she wouldn't date a man who earned less than her.

Or a woman saying she wouldn't date a short man.

I think it bothers you because you can see the reasons why he doesn't want to date British women, and the realisation makes you uncomfortable.

TBH, we aren't the most attractive of people. Spend any time at Med resort and you'll quickly see the difference between the average British person when compared to the average "foreign" person.

It may not be the case but only wanting to date someone whose first language isn't English feels like he wants someone who'll always be slightly on the back foot, to me.

Same! I've always wanted men with the absolute opposite of my facial features. When I was younger I just immediately passed over boys with any similarities. I feel it's quite a deeply driven thing in me. I'm similarly very particular about men's natural smell. It either fits or I'm repulsed.

I'm always surprised by the number of couples I see who look quite similar to each other, so clearly not everyone has this drive!

I know loads of men and women with preferences for certain nationalities. Not everyone talks about them, built I'm pretty sure everyone has them. There are also certain nationalities that are very attractive but I would be wary of because of cultural clashes.

I'm aware of that narrative but none of the weirdo men who fall for it would decide to date a Norwegian woman, from a famously liberal and feminist country.

Its quite normal? I dont think its a fetish. These are Western countries, its not like he choses girls because they are somehow submissive, brought up to be respectful of men or whatever. Its probably just appearance/ accent that turns him on.

A lot of women find French accent or Italian guys sexy - I dont think its different at all. And, tbh, I would never date an American, too - they are so different, and I hate the accent.

Not from me. As I don’t find it offensive when I hear people would only date black people. I have a mate that doesn’t find white men atttactive

Preference was a bad word & I probably gave a bad example. However, I don’t see a problem with people only wanting or going to date a certain person.

Any more than a couple of foreign partners it starts to look like its the further opportunities that accompany beng with a foreign partner rather than the peron who attracts (work, travel etc).
If I found out I was foreign girlfriend nos 4 for example, I may wonder what's wrong that he couldn't find a local girl.